Generally speaking, there is no free lunch in the world, or, in many cases, a rich lunch is much more comfortable than a free lunch. Why not insist on self-reliance?
In ancient China, women have been instilled with the idea that no matter how good a woman is, she should marry well. But as time goes on, we will find that many behaviors passed down from ancient times, such as domestic violence and infidelity, are no longer the root of women's forbearance. For women, in today's marriage, they need not only money, but also love, mutual respect and common topics.
Why do some people say that after reading the marriage law, many netizens say that they dare not get married? There are five main reasons:
1, with clear interests. Generally speaking, marriage seems to exist as a contractual relationship since ancient times. Women need to rely on men to provide a stable family life, so women can sacrifice their possession and persistence in love to enjoy a stable and beautiful quality of life, and also hope that men have three wives and four concubines. Because in their eyes, love is really not important. Living well is the most important thing. Love is really worthless before interests.
But in the latest marriage law, women clearly realize that they can't rely on anything but themselves. The new marriage law stipulates that whoever buys a house before marriage will still own it after marriage. This means that if a woman marries a man with a house and then gets married and has children, she can live in a house with a man and enjoy a superior life in the process. But if one day a man doesn't like you, he will divorce you and ask you to leave, which is really something you can leave anytime and anywhere.
2, women need to sacrifice their careers to complete childbirth. This society says that men and women are equal and everyone is equal, but the actual people are really unequal. Otherwise, they have the right. Why can rich people stay in luxury hotels and enjoy various VIP treatments? This shows that this is really unequal. Both men and women are like this. Although the status of women has never been higher than that of the previous feudal society, in the final analysis, it still needs women to get married and have children, which requires women to pay their bodies to get pregnant and even sacrifice their careers to take care of their children. Women themselves are people who are drowned by maternal love.
In the process of childbearing, it will have an impact on women's figure and physiology. This woman is also self-aware, and they need a lot of benefits from men to satisfy their sense of security. But often in the sensitive period of pregnancy, women's characteristics can not meet the needs of men, and it is also the time when men are most likely to cheat. At the same time, they are most likely to have all kinds of anger towards women, even if they fall in love, it will be a huge challenge in the end. That's why there is such a saying, "If I don't get married and have children, I really don't know whether to marry a man or a dog."
In normal times, it is impossible to be loyal to only one person. The new marriage law clearly stipulates that husband and wife need mutual loyalty and respect. Few people can really get married, not even a quarrel. Even if the tongue can quarrel, how can couples in ordinary years not quarrel? Moreover, feelings will die in ordinary years. Can you promise to be loyal only to married people all your life? You can fall in love at first, but in the long run, can you be more attractive to others because of long-term running-in?
At ordinary times, everyone has a restless heart. In today's colorful society, it is really easy to fall in love. With all kinds of social software, it's really easy to fall in love with someone.
4. Social relations are complex and people's hearts are more terrible. One thing that many people tend to overlook is human nature. But human nature will change, and with time, with experience, after his environment changes, his whole person will also change. They say ghosts are terrible, but they don't hurt people. But the human heart is invisible and intangible. Not paying attention to other people's designs, family relationships have since broken down.
Generally speaking, it is really hard to choose each other firmly and love each other wholeheartedly, especially in this increasingly selfish era, people just want to protect themselves, not to mention what they are willing to pay in marriage.
There are too few people who know how to manage. In fact, it's not that they are not eager for marriage, but more afraid that they can't run a good marriage. Marriage is different from love. Marriage needs daily necessities, while love is more of a feeling, a vigorous feeling. This is also why many people can have a beautiful love, but they don't enter marriage, mainly because too few people know how to operate.
Marriage is not easy and cherished, but too few people really understand it. This is one of the reasons why people are increasingly disappointed with marriage. Marriage will greatly restrict the development of women's career, but it is different for men. Like many men, as always, the career will only get more and more prosperous. Women, on the other hand, have different requirements for appearance and family concerns, so they will have different pursuits.
To sum up whose marriage is in charge, it is precisely because marriage is too much interfered by the outside world that truly pure marriage is rare in contemporary times. It's not that people don't long for marriage, but they are afraid of encountering bad marriage. It's better not to get married. But nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, and there is a reason why marriage can continue from ancient times to the present. In addition to getting married and having children, I have something to rely on when I am old. In the long years of loneliness, I really need such a warm person to exist.
However, contemporary people just think that marriage itself is too complicated. Some people dare to hate and love by nature, and finally they can gain happiness. Life is a play, some people say, you can play it as you like, because whether you play it or not, it will end in the end, and it will end. Although there is sadness in the world, there is also joy. Now that we have come to this home of life, we should live a good life.
In the new marriage law, there is a clear division between interest relationship and husband-wife relationship, which does not exist for the idea of high-priced bride price and selling women for glory that was circulated in the society before. Many people try to get more benefits through marriage, which is illegal and immoral in itself and is not conducive to social development. The whole society needs better development, so there are restrictions on marriage.
However, for those who have tried marriage or have not yet married, they still lack courage. This is influenced by the whole social atmosphere. I hope everyone can get rid of this inertia as soon as possible and live the future they want!