1, three ancient books

Letter of appointment: namely letter of appointment. When Naji (a man and a woman are engaged), the man's family gives the book to the woman's family.

Gift book: a document used for the ceremony, which lists the items and quantities of the ceremony.

Wedding book: that is, the document to marry the bride. It is the certificate that the man gave to the woman when he came in to greet the bride.

2. Ancient Six Rites

Na Cai: This is the first stage of marriage proposal. After the man asked the matchmaker to propose marriage, the woman agreed to propose marriage. The man prepared a gift and went to the woman's house to propose marriage. The gift is a wild goose, and all wild geese must be alive. It is called "Dianyan" in Yili. Goose only gets married once in its life, and then it can't be separated. If one of them dies, the other will never get married again. In this way, it embodies the good wishes of the new couple, who are firm, sing harmoniously and grow old together.

Ask the name: After proposing marriage, let the matchmaker ask the woman's date of birth and name to prepare for the wedding ceremony.

Najib: After asking the name, tell the woman the good news of marriage, which is also called "engagement". This is the main ceremony at the engagement stage. In ancient customs, geese are used as a token of marriage as usual. Later, it was developed to use rings, jewelry, colored silk, gift cakes, gift candles, and even sheep and pigs, so it was also called sending or hiring.

Conscription: After the engagement, the man's family will send the bride price to the woman's family, which is a ceremony at the wedding stage. This kind of wedding is also commonly known as the end of employment or big employment, big gifts and so on. Later, this ceremony also adopted the practice of returning gifts, returning part or all of the food in the dowry; Or after being hired, the wife will give the man a coat, hat, shoes and socks as a gift. The number of betrothal gifts and the names of articles are auspicious, and the number is double taboo table.

Date of invitation: after the bride price is delivered, choose the wedding date, prepare the gift to the woman's home and ask for permission. "This is a ceremony to invite an auspicious day to welcome the bride." That is to say, in the modern sense, "reciprocity" means "please use the goose, the host will say goodbye, and the guests will tell the date, such as receiving a gift." After the man's family decided to get married on an auspicious day by praying to God, they sent someone to tell the woman's family and ask her for advice.

Kissing: a ceremony for a newly married husband to greet his wife and family. This ceremony is often regarded as the main procedure of the wedding, while the first five items are regarded as transitional etiquette such as marriage negotiation and engagement.