In the first case, my college classmate, I called him classmate A. After graduating from college, classmate A was introduced to her current husband. After dating for about a year, they got married. They were pregnant when we attended the wedding. They had already obtained the license and fixed the wedding date, but they were pregnant before the wedding. At present, the family is still harmonious, and they are all trying to support their families.
In the second case, my colleague, whom we call colleague B, broke up with her boyfriend in college after work. Her ex-boyfriend talked for many years. The woman worked hard, her ability was good, and her personality was lovely, but her ex-boyfriend kept putting off getting married and later broke up. Then the family introduced a boy from his hometown. The boy's parents have good jobs and good economic conditions. The two have been dating for more than half a year and are pregnant. Then they went back to their hometown for a wedding. The boy works in his hometown and the woman is in Chengdu. From pregnancy to delivery, he is basically alone. Occasionally, my husband came to Chengdu to see her and went back to his hometown for a holiday after giving birth to a child. During the whole pregnancy, he was alone most of the time. Although he came over, he didn't have a human body to take care of him. He was emotionally lonely (I later went back to my hometown and gave birth to a child. Later, when the child was seven or eight months old, I divorced. Hearing this, I cried sadly. Perhaps because I just gave birth to a baby, my mind is too fragile to listen to such bitter words, and I can't imagine that my family will be broken before the child is one year old. Moreover, colleague B went into shock a few minutes after giving birth, which frightened her parents. After giving birth to a child, the family is in a hurry and can't handle a child. It's hard to imagine what it feels like to see such a chaotic scene. She resigned after taking maternity leave, and no one took care of the children at home. Her mother-in-law loved to play, and her husband didn't go to work, so she couldn't take care of the children. However, she was just promoted before giving birth to the baby. I'm going to take the civil service exam when I get back. My mother helps to look after the children and occasionally shows them to my father. By the way, that's because the boy YP is during pregnancy and maternity leave. At present, I am preparing for the exam. I admire her courage, but I am also sad.
Case 3, a friend, my name is friend C. Friend C has a cheerful personality and strong working ability, and can earn money by himself. I had a boyfriend who had been in contact for many years, but after breaking up for various reasons, the whole person was decadent for a long time. I also comforted him for a long time. Later, I went on blind dates many times and finally met my current husband. After less than half a year, I was pregnant, male state-owned enterprises, oil industry. I usually stay at sea and take 20 days off 10 days. After pregnancy, I hurried to get a certificate, and then I took a wedding photo for five or six months. I don't know anything else, but judging from the photos taken in the wedding photos, the whole person has gained a lot of weight. She was beautiful when she was not pregnant. I love beauty very much. Work is basically light makeup, but also like manicure, buying clothes, dressing up and skin care. But the photo of the marriage certificate is really swollen and fat. Later, I planned to hold a wedding in 10, and I was officially invited. I think he was eight months pregnant in October. She said that in her hometown, let her parents do whatever they want, so the wedding will not be invited. She was pregnant at that time and was afraid of being tired. Of course, the wedding dress will be messy, so she will only invite everyone to dinner. I told her from the beginning that it was okay. If I am pregnant, I must get married beautifully. I have a wedding dress for pregnant women. Let her have a good look. Yes, men are very nice. Later, I said, nothing. Children are the most important. I can't get tired of myself. Someone at home is worried. It's good. Then just recently, she told me that her husband couldn't take a vacation because of his job adjustment, and the wedding didn't happen. She said to wait until she was born and make it with full moon wine. What she said was really helpless. After knowing each other for so long, I really know that she wants to get married in a beautiful wedding dress. Later, I comforted her. It's nothing. The same is true after birth. I can be flower girl for you when the baby can go. She also said that she was watching. She said that after giving birth, she still didn't know how to work. The child is left unattended (the boy's parents are gone) and the month is left unattended. I know she saved a little money. I said she could ask someone to take care of you for the next month (her mother can't, because she has to take care of the elderly at home). I said that you should use money to get it back, and she faltered (she also has a younger brother who is particularly loved by her parents and is married and has children). Later, I especially hated her like this, so I said it was yours and came back when you needed it. Otherwise, what should you do? Then she said that you should save buying a house. I said your husband doesn't have a house. She said that in Chongqing, I said that if you settle in Chengdu, you will sell Chongqing's and buy it in Chengdu. Still not feasible. Don't want to spend a lot of money on having children (as opposed to buying a house). I just buy a house with a little money, so that I can have a stable baby first and work hard. what can I do? It doesn't matter if I don't spend enough, and it will matter if I spend it later. Anyway, I never mentioned her husband's income, and I was helpless. I haven't been born yet, and I don't know what it will be like after birth.
Case 4: It's a colleague. We call her colleague D. Colleague D has known her husband for ten years, and her working ability is still very good. The little leader and his colleagues with stable relationships in the company are married. Occasionally we chat and ask her if she wants to work for a long time. She said that she was in no hurry and wanted to be alone for a few years. A colleague asked her family not to rush you. She said that her family was very open-minded and didn't interfere in their affairs. Her husband's job is not stable. One year after graduation, one year after postgraduate entrance examination, and I can't get into work again. Before the test, I made a circle of friends after I got pregnant. Basically, no one knows the specific meaning. She guessed that I was pregnant. I said, how do you know? She said that she often tested herself, but at that time, she had no plans to get married. I was wondering at that time. No pregnancy preparation plan. Do I need to test myself often? Not long after, she was pregnant, and she went to get a certificate in the early stage of pregnancy, and the photos she sent were also beautiful. After giving birth to the baby, she resigned on the grounds that no one took care of the baby. I don't know what will happen next. Anyway, everything is in a hurry, and the family is very busy and chaotic. Later, she complained to me that she was very tired with the children, and her husband couldn't bring them and couldn't sleep well at night. I said you asked your husband to help you. She said that her husband had to go to work and didn't live in a room, fearing that the children would make noise at night. I didn't know what to say at that time, so I had to say that the children would be better if they were older. My husband must be thinking of moving out and hiding, but I didn't agree. He has to do everything he should. The next day he went to work, and the next day his wife had to take care of the children. Who relaxed? !
In the last case, I fell in love with my boyfriend for ten years when I was a child. When I got married, I was ten months pregnant. I was taken to the hospital in a coma because many people lacked oxygen at the wedding. She didn't worry about the whole process, but she was only responsible for attending, but you can imagine how hard it was to attend the wedding for ten months. I was born two months after my marriage, and the rest are actually ok. My mother-in-law is willing to help them and take good care of the children. She can also go to work well and live as usual.
Actually, I can't figure it out either Having a baby is a big deal. Everyone is a mature and sensible adult. Why are you in such a hurry? Even if you follow the plan, many people can't stand it. Pregnancy is very hard, and postpartum rehabilitation, nursing and child care all need careful and thoughtful planning. For example, the cost is not much, but not much. Although medical insurance and social security reimbursement always come first, because after giving birth, you can't stand for a long time, can't lift heavy objects, can't touch cold water, stay up late to breastfeed, have a good rest and raise milk, and the pregnancy process is safe and smooth. If there are any special circumstances, such as the Tang sieve is useless, you have to prepare more money. In addition, if men are not ready to have children, their sense of ideological responsibility will be weak. Originally, boys matured a little later and their sense of responsibility was not particularly strong. If their emotional foundation is not solid, it will be even worse. In addition, after giving birth to a child, there will be many trivial things, such as staying up late, washing your ass and changing diapers, being a mother for the first time, and not knowing what to do, let alone being a father for the first time, all quarreling over some trivial things. If it is planned by everyone, you will be brave enough to take on some ideas.
There is also the question of who will take care of the child after giving birth. Can the family help? Is there communication? If the family can't help, will they quit their jobs and take care of the children themselves? Can the family economy husband handle it by himself? Can he handle the children by himself? Need to be carefully considered.
In addition, I think love, marriage and having children are all gradual. Don't watch any idol drama, such as "Married Love" and "Married Love". It's all nonsense. Women have to pay a high price for having children. If they are not prepared and their thoughts are not mature enough, you will be exhausted physically and mentally, and you and your baby will suffer. And if you want to have children with a man, do you want to marry him? Don't want to marry him, get pregnant and get married Want to marry a person, I think most girls still have a yearning for their marriage, whether in the form of a wedding or a trip for two people, they all want to leave sweet memories of their love, because unplanned pregnancy will really disrupt these beautiful things.
As adults, it is normal to live together in love, but it is really necessary to avoid unintended pregnancy. If you get pregnant unexpectedly, don't hurt your health. If you stay, there will be many unexpected things coming. Boys, because of love, should actively cooperate with contraception in order to make themselves less painful in the future.