The ancient book "Ceremony" said: "When confused, there are six ceremonies: accepting gifts, asking names, accepting gifts, inviting and welcoming people." This is the traditional custom of "six rites to get married", which was founded in the Western Zhou Dynasty and has been followed by successive dynasties. The "levy" in the six gifts is to give money, which is equivalent to the "bride price" and is the source of the custom of "bride price".
Therefore, I think the bride price is acceptable. After all, it is a traditional custom in China, but the amount of bride price depends on each other's family situation.
2. In recent years, with the development of economy, the wedding bride price in rural areas has been rising all the way, and even a sky-high bride price has appeared. In Lvliang, it usually costs hundreds of thousands to get married, so many families are overwhelmed and worry about getting married.
A neighbor of my family asked for a bride price1.2000 plus a house when she got married. Neighbors are farmers, so much money can't be taken out at once. They are free in love and have a good emotional foundation. Therefore, the man's parents want his son to discuss with the girl. Can it be less?
But the girl didn't have her own opinion, so she told her parents all this, but the girl's parents didn't agree.
Those days, my uncle and aunt have been trying to borrow money from others. Before, they usually watched TV after dinner, but these days, my aunt said that she was tired of watching TV.
Later, I raised enough money to help my son get married, but in just a few days, I saw that they were much older and had more white hair.
So I think the bride price can be paid, but it must be reasonable and not overcharged. Otherwise, the sky-high bride price will become a high threshold to prevent love, and traditional customs will become vulgar. I really don't want to see marriage kidnapped by money. Everyone has a son. I hope you can put yourself in others' shoes. Now that you have been overcharged, what will you do if it is someone else's daughter's turn to ask you for it?
It is a custom to get married with a "bride price". Contrary to this situation, there is the practice of zero bride price. A couple in Handan, Hebei province, are extremely disgusted with the practice of high-priced bride price in rural areas. They held a zero-bride price wedding. The bride said: "Don't give a bride price, because feelings can't be bought, marriage can't be maintained by money, and a happy life must be created by your own hands."
I don't advocate sky-high bride price, nor do I advocate zero bride price. After all, the daughter who has been raised for more than 20 years is married to the man's family, and giving a certain bride price is a respect for the woman's family.
I think that to get rid of these bad habits about bride price, we should start from the parties and the government. The parties should take the lead in saying no to the sky-high bride price, and at the same time convey the ideas of the new generation to their parents, telling them that even without the sky-high bride price, I will be very happy, so you don't have to worry.
The government should introduce some relevant policies, change customs, change the backward wedding concept in rural areas, and implement some policies to help the poor and benefit farmers, so as to fundamentally change the economic situation of farmers.