If you don't work in Jingxian county, you don't have to pay for wedding drinks, and of course you don't have to accept gifts. Because it's the courtesy of your in-laws. As for the bride price, if both parties work outside the home, this is not forced, but the red envelope money given to you by your mother-in-law. What about this money? Don't force it. If they give it to you, you can keep it for your wife. That's right. As for three golds and four golds, you bought them for your wife. Although the price of gold is very high now, generally speaking, since you are married, you must have at least one ring, not gold, but also a necklace, and you can't let your wife wear a wedding dress naked. Anyway, these jewels are all your wife's, that is, your husband and wife's. Buying more gold can preserve the value. No matter what kind of gold or platinum, don't buy it below 18K. If you buy more, you will lose money. In Anhui, especially in southern Anhui, there are not many customs of betrothal gifts to marry women. Generally, what you add to the bride price parents is the dowry, and finally it will be given to you two.