If you don't want to get married, you must first make clear your feelings and reasons. Is it because you have doubts about the marriage itself, or because you have doubts about the object of marriage? Or other reasons, such as work pressure, trivial matters of life and so on?

If you have doubts about marriage itself, you can consider reading some books about marriage to understand the nature and significance of marriage, as well as responsibilities and obligations. If you have doubts about your marriage partner, you can try to communicate with each other, understand each other's thoughts and feelings, and see if you can solve them.

If you have decided not to get married, you can consider being honest with each other, explain your thoughts and reasons, and respect each other's feelings and decisions. If you have decided to get married, you can try to postpone the wedding and give yourself more time to think and think.

No matter what decision you make, you should respect your feelings and choices. At the same time, we should respect each other's feelings and decisions, and don't hurt ourselves and others.