The marriage custom of Pan Yao people who live in Jinxiu Yaoshan, Guangxi, China is that men marry women, and the children born after marriage also take their mother's surname. After marriage, both husband and wife take turns living in their parents' house to support the elderly.
Pan Yaoren's wedding is very grand. On the wedding day, everyone in the man's family who can attend the wedding will see him off, with gongs, drums and suona as the leader and the groom holding an umbrella on the road. When the wedding procession arrives at the woman's door, a sprinkling ceremony will be held to show the exorcism. A bonfire was lit in the yard of the woman's house, and Song Ming was lit in the room. In the cheers of welcoming relatives, the bride and groom held a memorial ceremony for the bride. At this time, gongs and drums were loud and firecrackers were ringing. After that, the bride and groom will meet the relatives and friends of the man one by one according to their seniority, and the relatives and friends who have worshipped will say some blessings and send some small gifts. The ceremony lasted until the early morning of the next day. At dawn, the woman's house set up a karaoke bar and sang for three days and nights, wishing the newlyweds a happy marriage with cheerful songs. After marriage, the husband lives in his wife's house. When the man needs it, the couple will go to the man's house together, stay for a month, solve the difficulties in life and production, and then go back to the woman's house.
This kind of "two-way" marriage is also very popular in the vast Yao area of Hunan. In Hunan, Yao people who are married by both parties have the first mother's surname, the second father's surname, the third mother's surname, and so on. A man and a woman give birth in the woman's house for a period of time after marriage, and then go to the man's house for a period of time. In this cycle, both husband and wife take turns to live and give birth in two families all the year round.
2. The complete meaning of walking on both sides of marriage is
What we generally say about marriage is nothing more than that the woman marries the man, or that the man comes to the house to adopt his wife by adoption. Walking on both sides or staying on both sides is a unique form of marriage custom in Jiangsu and Zhejiang provinces. According to the locals, it's not door to door. Children generally have two children, one with the father and the other with the mother. Whoever comes first can discuss it. As for who lives, it is not very strict. You can live by yourself if you have a room, but you must always go to the woman's parents' house for a period of time. Different places may have different contents.
I don't know where your hometown is and where you are now, but if your hometown (especially in the north) has never heard of the phrase "both go", I advise you to finish it as soon as possible. Otherwise, in the eyes of neighbors, you are just knocking on the door backwards, which can't be explained at all, because no one will ask you but will only point to your back. I'm new here, too. I've faced your situation. We have a good relationship, but in the face of such things, we will still be controlled by our families. After two years of struggle, I finally broke up.
3. Solve, about marriage customs.
It depends. Engagement means that adults spend money and young couples get money. Relatives are engaged, but children are not. Adults will feel cheated and those who spend it will be confiscated. In fact, if they are not virgins now, they will not be engaged. If people get married for money, divorce is still possible. If they get married, they will give the woman a present. Ding Qiao Maqiao is estimated to be 50,000 to 60,000, such as jewelry. Generally, doubling the dowry is not enough. Just marrying a car is hundreds of thousands, and Xu An is even more exaggerated. The more money men give, the more pain women suffer. Of course, the dowry is not for the daughter. There are some shameless people who take money, but few people can't help it.