Vanity is an abnormal social emotion to satisfy one's desire for honor and social status. From a psychological point of view, it is vanity caused by the psychology of comparison and imbalance. Its performance is the extreme vanity of material life. In order to exaggerate their actual ability and level, people with strong vanity often take anti-social measures such as exaggeration, concealment, deception, comparison, jealousy and even crime to satisfy their vanity, which is very harmful to people and society, so it is extremely necessary to overcome vanity.
For patients with strong vanity, heuristic methods should be adopted to let them complete psychological adjustment. In view of the psychological illusion caused by comparison, we should know that different individuals are associated with different modes of production and distribution, and the ways to obtain social distribution benefits and their respective demand levels are not the same. Workers only saw the land distribution of farmers, but did not see the business risks they assumed; Farmers only know that workers "protect their crops through drought and flood", but they don't understand that they will also be in danger of being eliminated in the competition; Workers with wage income only talk about the "big income" of self-employed, but forget that in addition to their own wages, there are a considerable number of labor insurance benefits paid by the state and enterprises. Different social groups will compare their own "disadvantages" with the "advantages" of others, and the result will inevitably produce a "most vulnerable" psychological effect. In terms of scope, we should base ourselves on health rather than pathological comparison, such as comparing actual performance, enthusiasm and devotion, rather than coveting the false reputation and being jealous of others expressing themselves.
To some extent, we should grasp our own comparative discretion from personal strength, and our ability can't be compared with that of the strong. The scale of social comparison should be controlled by personal values, outlook on life and world view. Perfecting personality is the best way to make a correct social comparison and overcome vanity. "The ruler is short, the inch is long", vanity people deny that they have shortcomings, so they subconsciously surpass themselves and have jealousy impulses, thus showing rejection, sarcasm, blow, alienation and embarrassment compared with their excellent people, and practicing fraud when evaluating titles, grades and titles. It is a psychological need to have a certain honor and status in life. Everyone should cherish and cherish the honor and status of himself and others, but this pursuit must be consistent with his social role and talent.
Face is indispensable and cannot be forced. "Punch a swollen face and fill a fat man", pursue honor excessively and express yourself, and it will be distorted. At the same time, we should also treat failures and setbacks correctly. "Failure is the mother of success." We should sum up experience from failures and understand the true meaning from setbacks, so as to establish self-confidence, self-love, self-reliance and self-improvement, thus eliminating vanity. The existence of comparison psychology affects people's mood and dampens their enthusiasm for work and life. But from the psychological characteristics of comparison, it is also a kind of comparison psychology, that is, to compare up, not down. People have a desire to pursue beauty and progress in social life. Whether living, studying or working, they always want to be better than others. The key here is what to compare with others and how to compare. Single comparison often leads to one-sided understanding, while cross and comprehensive comparison can understand the problem from multiple angles and sides. Negative comparison, regardless of good or bad, will produce blindness; Positive comparison should be more than those positive things, which can stimulate people's behavior, motivate people to go up and inspire people to forge ahead.
Sometimes some unconscionable opinions become the driving force of our life and career development, but if they are excessive, they will become the resistance of our career and life development. I hope everyone can adjust in time in the face of bad psychology.