Some people say that marriage is like a magic box, changing men and women in marriage, and this change is not the marriage itself, but the husband and wife themselves change themselves in marriage, that is to say, both men and women are changing themselves intentionally or unintentionally through the bond of marriage.

I believe everyone will know how difficult it is to change a person. But marriage can change two people silently. What is this? I think it's probably because of love.

Because of love, two strangers came together, they met, knew each other, fell in love, and finally entered the marriage hall simultaneously. They are willing to change for each other because of love.

So married people should stop saying that they can't change each other. If there is love between you and the other person loves you, you can make a change. What you think cannot be changed is just not enough love.

Marriage is a pair of shoes. No matter what kind of shoes, the most important thing is to fit; No matter what kind of marriage, the most wonderful thing is harmony. Don't compromise your feet just for the luxury of shoes. Others see shoes, but feel feet. It is a truth that feet are more important than shoes, but many people often forget it.

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Choosing the right person to get married is far easier to get happiness than choosing the rich and powerful person to get married. Material conditions may give people temporary satisfaction, but no amount of material can make up for the spiritual emptiness.

Just like love in marriage, someone may go with you because of material things, but can you guarantee that there is love between you? Because you also know that since the other person is with you because of material things, he will definitely leave you because of material things.

Marriage is not a one-man show. If men and women are only excellent at the individual level, it is impossible to achieve the inevitability of a happy marriage. Whether it is a talented couple or a couple who appreciate each other, their essence is the same, that is, to understand each other's customs and understand life. The so-called "double acting" between husband and wife means no cooperation.

Marriage ultimately requires husband and wife to operate on the basis of love. Without love, it is like water without roots. If you don't know how to operate it, it's a radical measure. The magic weapon of marriage management is timely and smooth communication.

If couples don't understand communication, the contradiction will only get deeper and deeper, and the problem will only get bigger and bigger. A happy marriage will only get farther and farther away from them.

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What would you do if you found your husband and mother-in-law lying to you on your wedding day?

I believe that many people have never thought about this problem and will find it incredible. How can this wonderful thing happen in real life?

But what would you think if I told you it was true?

Reader Xiao Lu contributed to me and told me a wonderful thing that happened to her. From her story, we can see that if there is deception and calculation in marriage, it will be a devastating blow to marriage.

Lu Xiao is 26 years old and works as an accountant in a company. Her boyfriend Abin is her college classmate. They fell in love in college. After years of separation and integration, they finally came together.

Abin is starting a business now, so he asked his parents for a lot of money. Lu Xiao also supported him and gave him all her savings. It is actually a relatively happy thing for two people to work hard for the same goal.

Another thing is that both of them are of marriageable age, and both parents are in a hurry, so they discuss marriage.

Abin wants to concentrate on his career while he is young. He thinks that if he gets married, he will certainly distract some of his energy from marriage, which will also be a great blow to his career. On the other hand, Lu Xiao is an indifferent attitude, whether she is married or not.

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However, Abin's idea was rejected by his parents, who thought that it was handed down from our ancestors to start a family before starting a career. Why can't I come to you? So no matter how Abin insisted, his parents forced him to get married quickly.

So the two families sat together to discuss matters related to marriage. Xiao Lu is more sympathetic to the situation of the Abin family. After all, he had asked his family for a lot of money before starting a business, and this marriage was even worse. Therefore, Xiao Lu suggested that each family pay half of the down payment on the house and the rest of the loan together.

The rest of the money, such as bride price, can be exempted.

Abin and his parents were very happy to see that Lu Xiao was so sympathetic to his family. They also made it clear that they would definitely give Lu Xiao a satisfactory wedding.

Then discuss some details. In their local area, there is a custom of "changing fees", that is, the bride and groom call each other's parents parents in front of everyone, and then parents give them red envelopes.

The bigger the red envelope, the bigger the blessing, and the more I value you. Xiao Lu suggested that this red envelope would cover 100 1 yuan and take a "one in a million" lottery. This is very common in the local area, but Lu Xiao's prospective mother-in-law suggested that this is just a face-saving project, and there is no need to spend so much money.

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Xiao Lu had an argument with her mother-in-law. They had a fierce argument over the red envelope. Finally, Lu Xiao said angrily, "I don't want a bride price or a house. You're already embarrassed. Now you don't want to give this red envelope. Am I too careless? " I put my words here today, and don't get married without this red envelope! "

Abin got angry when he saw Lu Xiao, and soon made up his mind that money was still affordable, so he must take it that day.

The matter finally settled, and so did other details. In this way, the marriage of two people is settled.

However, my mother-in-law has always had a problem with Lu Xiao, thinking that she is not sensible. Since she wants to be considerate of our family, why does she want to give a red envelope for nothing? She made up her mind that the money must not be paid. She called Abin and told her her decision.

Abin was embarrassed, but he knew that his parents really had no money and could only acquiesce in his mother's doing so.

On their wedding day, Abin and Lu Xiao were very happy. Everything went well, but something went wrong as soon as I changed my mind.

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Abin had nothing to do there. Lu Xiao's parents went over and gave him a red envelope with 1 10,000 yuan. When I arrived in Lu Xiao, I was carrying a red envelope handed me by my mother-in-law. Lu Xiao thinks this red envelope is too light.

Xiao Lu's face changed, and she opened the red envelope in front of her mother-in-law. It turned out to be a pile of toy money, which looked very similar, but it was exposed when you touched it in your hand.

Mother-in-law whispered to her, "There are so many people, don't make a fuss!"

The fire in Xiao Lu's heart suddenly rose. She didn't expect her mother-in-law to deceive herself so much and fool people with a pile of toy money. She suddenly stood up, and Abin next to her saw that the atmosphere was wrong. She quickly grabbed Lu Xiao and whispered, "Stop that now, so many people are watching. Let's talk about it at home. "

When Xiao Lu saw him like this, he knew that he was also involved in this matter, and his anger increased. He shook off his hand, pointed to two people and said, "What did I say? It seems that I am an unimportant person in your family. You look down on me too much. I won't get married! "

Say that finish, Lu Xiao took the toy money in his hand and threw it out in public. Lu Xiao left the wedding scene amid the looting of the crowd.

However, it was known that the toy money was stuffed in the red envelope, and the Abin family suddenly became the laughing stock of everyone. A beautiful wedding was cancelled in the form of farce.

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Because a red envelope ruined a wedding. I have to say that this is a regrettable thing. But at the same time, it also shows that the most important thing for two people to be together is to treat each other sincerely, not to calculate and doubt each other.

Is Xiao Lu wrong? Yes, she understands the situation in Abin's family, but she also makes a small request. Abin's family should have satisfied her, but they made a wrong decision because of anger, which made their family a laughing stock of others and ruined their marriage.

There is also that the two families did not communicate in time and were not honest with each other. This is a big mistake.

Couples will encounter various situations in marriage, which requires them to communicate effectively. Only through proper communication and mutual trust, I believe there is no contradiction that cannot be solved.