However, many people should have seen such a series of hot searches.

"Is that why you don't want to get married?"

"Why don't these young people want to have children?"

"202 1 Triplets will be fully opened"

"The comprehensive two-child effect disappears"

The total fertility rate has dropped below the warning line, and population development has entered a critical turning point. What makes contemporary young people not want to fall in love, get married and have children?

Let's talk about science first. What is the "total fertility rate"? The popular understanding is the average number of children born by a couple.

In modern society, when the fertility rate is 2. 1, the population can be replaced from generation to generation, and the population will not increase or decrease; Below 1.5, below the warning line, it is difficult to rise. The fertility rate in China 18 was 1.495, and there was no sign of recovery in these years.

"Young people don't want to fall in love"

First, it is tiring to worry too much about falling in love.

People who have been in love will know that because people are different, their personalities, habits and ways of thinking are different, so we should consider each other's ideas together, and worry that the other party will be unhappy and angry.

Once there is cognitive deviation, it is likely to quarrel. After a long time, fatigue is greater than love, so the breakup is over.

Second, you won't get a reciprocal return.

It takes too much to fall in love. Time, money and feelings are all very precious things. No one can afford to "waste", but it may not be rewarded.

Unequal relationships are the easiest to make people doubt themselves, feel worthless, and even think that keeping dogs and cats is not as good as falling in love. Will eventually break up.

Third, I have been hurt emotionally.

Being hurt in feelings will also make people less and less willing to fall in love.

It's better to stop it from the beginning than the possible misfortune.

Not necessarily because you don't believe in love, but also because you are inexplicably afraid of love.

Fourth, one can live a good life.

Why are you in love? Because falling in love is beautiful, it can make us feel the beauty of life.

If I can live well alone, do I still need to fall in love?

One can also go to the museum, one can also go to the cinema to see his favorite movies, and one can go to the food store on the list. ...

There is really no need to start a relationship casually in order to solve loneliness.

"Young people don't want to get married"

In addition to love, there is also marriage in front of children. Many people are reluctant to get married even if they are in love. Every young person can give endless reasons for not getting married, but few people can persuade them to get married.

First, bowing to money, house prices have become a stumbling block.

Whether parents or themselves, most people are eager to have a harbor of their own, and have their own house when they get married, but now the house price seems unattainable. If you don't have the support of your family and rely on your own salary, you may not be able to afford a suite for decades.

The "996" working system has made many people lose the time to feel life, and the cost of living has soared. It is more difficult for every young person to balance feelings and bread. Can only say: marriage is precious.

This is how netizens in Shenzhen get married once:

Wedding: A wedding averages nearly 250,000. Among them, the wedding banquet cost 654.38 million yuan, the wedding ceremony cost 50,000 yuan, the honeymoon tour cost 25,000 yuan, the jewelry cost 25,000 yuan, the wedding dress cost 20,000 yuan, the wedding supplies cost 20,000 yuan and the wedding photography cost 8,000 yuan.

Buying a house: buy a 5 million wedding room (enough to live), only need a down payment of 6.5438+0.5 million;

Decoration: the renovation of the new house is 6.5438+0.5 million yuan; Add home appliances and furniture, 50,000 yuan;

Car, according to the standard of scooter, 65438+ ten thousand yuan.

In this way, it takes at least 2 million to get married. Most young people are shouting: sorry, I don't deserve it.

Second, it is too difficult for two people to start a family again.

This must be between lovers. One person said that he wanted to get married, and the other said that it was not yet time. Because the pace of life of two people is different, it is easy to go their separate ways.

At the same time, in the era of "widowed marriage", "giant baby husband" and "widowed parenting", young people are more cautious about choosing a spouse when they are old enough to consider marriage.

There are also a group of people who are worried about the sequelae caused by the binding relationship. Who knows what will happen in the future? All I can imagine is losing my freedom and shouldering a mountain of responsibilities.

Many people shouted, "I haven't grown up myself. Can I handle it? "

"Young people don't want to have children."

First, I can't afford it.

Nielsen's "Insight Report on Maternal and Child Consumption in 2020" shows that the main population of "having babies" is concentrated in the post-85 s and post-90 s, and more than 80% of them are people with bachelor degree or above.

The average monthly income of these families is about 6.5438+0.9 million yuan, and the average child-rearing expenses exceed 5,200 yuan, accounting for nearly 30% of the family's overall monthly income.

Low-income families spend a higher proportion of their monthly income on childcare, reaching 44%.

Raising a baby not only costs money, but also takes time.

Second, the change of thinking concept.

With the development and progress of society, the traditional concepts of treating children by contemporary young people, especially women, have begun to change, and the traditional concepts of "continuation of human civilization" and "inheritance of incense" have become increasingly diluted. Many women have begun to face up to their pursuit of life, thinking that whether they are born or not, they must follow their hearts.

At the same time, with the improvement of women's society, the consciousness of equality between men and women is more and more extensive, and more and more women are more willing to focus on the pursuit of self-worth. Moreover, men's requirements for their partners' fertility are not as high as before, and they respect women's ideas more and consider the feelings between two people.

Third, a sense of security

Losing the ability to control my own life, "I am no longer an independent individual with children." There is a saying that being a mother is strong, but also because of having children, women will bear and endure more family and social pressures.

Worried about the future of children, the cost of raising a baby is too high, afraid that children will lose at the starting line, and afraid that they can't reproduce and cultivate new life well.

Finally, I don't know whether you don't want or want to read the article. Mai Mai just wants everyone to have a good life. If you have something to say, you can "go to the wheat" together and speak freely ~