Choose a date after engagement, which is called "invitation". There are many factors to consider when choosing a date. First of all, according to the different seasons, there are different opinions about which season is suitable for marriage, but now there are almost no requirements about the season. The second is to look at the date, the main way is divination. There is a saying called "Doing things according to the old imperial calendar", which is a simple way for modern people to choose the date. Finally, the choice of time. In ancient times, the time to get married was mostly after dusk, but now it is mostly in the morning, probably to facilitate the banquet at noon.
Newcomers who choose a closer date will be very busy from the date set. According to the custom, the bride and groom will invite their relatives and friends to the wedding. Of course, the relatives of the man will give the bride a red envelope, and the relatives of the woman will also give the groom a red envelope. In addition, the man will invite about six neighbors or distant relatives, as well as families who are relatively willing to meet relatives. You also need to hire a "customer service company" (that is, "master of ceremonies"). Of course, this person must be a local, have a certain status and can speak. He arranged all the activities on the wedding day. At present, most families choose to hold wedding banquets in hotels, so it is relatively simple. If you hold a wedding reception at home, you should carefully choose a chef and start preparing the wedding reception the day before the wedding.
The woman has relatively few things to prepare, but it is more complicated and more important: dowry. In ancient China, the amount of a daughter's dowry when she got married became a symbol of whether the family was rich or not. It can also be said that parents are afraid that their daughter will be treated unfairly in her husband's family because of her poor family. Today, the dowry of the daughter's family is far from being rich and comprehensive, and most of it has been replaced by a lot of money. But there are still some exquisite people who will prepare cotton wool, boxes, dressing tables and other items for their daughters according to the old customs. There are usually four or eight sets of cotton wool, and now six sets are prepared.
Weeping marriage is a unique wedding custom of Tujia nationality. Generally, the "wedding song" is sung half a month or a month before leaving my parents' home. Changyang and Wufeng have both had it. (2) Weeping marriage, that is, the bride's female relatives and the girls in the same village take turns to hug each other and cry day and night, which generally includes "crying parents" and "crying sister-in-law" ... Because the bride's life experience and situation are different, the content and form of crying are also different. This procedure will last until the eve of the bride's wedding. Especially before dawn, parents, sisters and brides embrace each other and cry. Their nurturing kindness, brotherhood and attachment, like tears and tears, seem to tear people's hearts apart, and all the onlookers cry. It really feels like where you are going.
The wedding day arrived, and the man's family prepared to celebrate the wedding and entertain guests three days before the wedding. The day before the wedding ceremony, the man sent all kinds of bonus bride price to the woman's home, explaining the bride price, clothes and so on. And contact the next day's wedding. This is called "gift giving". When he came back from the ceremony, the man held a family dinner and invited unmarried young people from relatives and friends of the groom to get together and drink and sing all night to congratulate him. This kind of congratulations ceremony is called "Accompany Ten Brothers". The form is similar to the woman's "ten sisters" mentioned below. Actually, it's ten brothers, but it's not limited to ten people. There will be a cup on the table. Choose a singer to sing the opening song, and then sing it in turn. Those who sing well will eat more food, and those who sing badly will be fined for drinking. In the form of singing, according to the needs of different tunes and lyrics, it can be solo or duet, or it can be a lead singer to help others. In addition to the auspicious words that singers flatter and congratulate each other, the content can also be sung with songs such as general stories, ancient people and songs (guessing tunes). Some are accompanied by suona or silk strings. In the end, the singer sang the song of the platform and the order was rejected.