At that time, I bought a red plastic basin, a porcelain basin, red shoes, a red toilet, two red kettles, a red towel, a red umbrella (when the groom was carrying the bride), a red rope, a blue apron (for my husband later) and a red candlestick (for the wedding night). Also called dowry. The other is to buy some red paper characters and paste them on doors and windows. Every dowry is pasted with a red happy character. I also bought a lot of balloon decorations.
The woman's house should prepare a table of cakes (there seem to be eight kinds on the table) and lotus seed soup. In the past, the man's family would invite several people and the couple to sit down, and each person would like a bowl of lotus seed soup.
My husband is from the countryside, and the man goes to the woman's house to pick someone up. They are also two live fish and two bottles of wine. I don't know what it means. After taking it, I pour the wine into the bottle, and then the woman's family fills the bottle with other wine, and then the man's family takes it back.
When the man comes to pick someone up, he has to say goodbye to his parents at the woman's house. That is, two new people call their parents and give them a red envelope after the call, and the meaning given by their home is ok.
The man should bring more alcohol, tobacco and candy when picking up people. Relatives and friends of the woman's family will be blocked at the gate and the bride's house. Basically everyone who passes by has to pay something. It depends on how many people go that day. Men usually take out the cheapest candy first. When he met a man, he gave him two cigarettes. If not, he will take out a red envelope. Of course, how many red envelopes you put depends on your ability. In my family, all these red envelopes are 20 yuan.
There is also an important brother or younger brother in the woman's family, and the groom must give enough red envelopes. Because the bride's dowry should be put in a red box, the bride's brother or younger brother should hold on to this box, and the groom is not allowed to take the bride away until he lets go. Of course, this brother-in-law also has the responsibility to carry the bride on the wedding car. My husband gave my brother a red envelope of 600 on my wedding day. Then the woman can't leave the ground when she goes out until she gets on the wedding car. If the scene does not allow, you can put on your father's shoes and walk to the front of the wedding car. Put two big cakes (Funing big cake) in front of the wedding car. When the bride gets on the bus, she should step on the cake and put her feet on it. The cake was prepared by this man.
In addition, the man should bring a big apple when he comes, and the bride should hold it from going out to the groom's house.
When a man comes to pick up a woman, he should be prepared to hang a whip. Generally, it is almost enough to play it three times. This is used to urge the bride. When the wedding car arrives at the man's house, the woman's house should also put a string of whips.
And the woman's family drove about 30 meters in front of the man's car. Of course, the woman who drives this car can also ask the man for a red envelope. When my cousin gets married, I always make her car public. He drove to a place where it was difficult to turn, and the male car behind him could not overtake (only the female car turned around voluntarily, otherwise the male car would have to follow). My husband pulled my brother out of the car and asked for 800 red packets and 4 packs of cigarettes, hahaha.
When you arrive at the man's house, you should put the whip at the man's house to say hello. Generally, at this time, the door of the man's house is blocked by people. Candies and cigarettes depend on the woman's house, but also on the groom's physical strength, because the groom has to carry them all the time after the bride gets off the bus and can only put them down when she enters the new house.
These should be enough. However, as you are from other places, the etiquette may not be so complicated. These are discussed by both men and women. What I said is for reference only.
By the way, there is one more thing: when the man's family came to pick him up, how many people were in the car when he came back, including the camera matchmaker and the driver, all together, which is odd. For example, there are 1 1 people who come to the man's house, and they have to leave one person when they leave, so counting the bride is exactly 1 1 people going back.
Finally, I wish you a happy wedding!