Looking through the records of my former classmates at the weekend, I accidentally saw a primary school friend writing "I hope to be a Samsung-'singer',' movie star' and' star'" in his dream, and his memory rolled back in an instant.
I admired him at that time. He is proficient in singing, dancing and football. He goes to the training center to learn guitar for two hours every afternoon after school, and he also learns ball skills in the children's center every weekend.
The most important thing is that his personal emotional intelligence is very high. At that time, he was king of the children among our friends.
I was just a child at that time, and I didn't even know what my interests were.
Thinking of the relationship that I talked about everything before, I found his QQ and chatted with him again.
I expressed my admiration for him and asked him if he was still learning guitar and football. He told me that he hadn't touched it since junior high school.
I am surprised that he was close to fanatical love before and gave up so easily.
He said that he never studied again because he thought it would affect his study. Later, when I had time, I felt a little lost.
I asked him, do you have any other hobbies now?
He smiled. I have no other hobbies. I am much more mature now. I should never have done those things a long time ago. Besides, I am too tired to work every day and have no time to sing, dance and play football. Only those who are really well-fed are qualified to do so.
I didn't discuss the topic of interest with him again. I thought to myself: this is not maturity, but life has smoothed the edges and corners.
Time has only one meaning, and that is change. The so-called smooth edges and corners is to find that there are fewer and fewer things that are slowly adhered to.
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In fact, what life is like depends on our hearts.
I think of a former colleague of mine, whose child has gone to primary school, but he still insists on his interest-football.
Every time there is a Super League and a Champions League, he will watch it. Even if he has a job the next day, he will insist on staying up until midnight.
His work is very busy. As a salesman of the company, he has to negotiate business everywhere every day, and he often sees the fatigue of work on his face.
Every day after work, I have to go to the neighborhood to pick up my children from school. But after picking up the children, he will immediately put on his jersey and sneakers and gallop on the football field near his home. Over time, he met a group of like-minded peers.
Later, they teamed up together. Compared with the old players, his skills are a little weak and he is only a substitute in the team. But for him, even sitting on the bench watching, it is also happy.
I always thought he was just developing a hobby until he asked me to help design a team flag. It is said that he will go to Shanghai with the whole team to participate in an amateur league.
At that time, I knew that their team had reached the top three in the local area a few days ago and was qualified to represent the highest level in Shanghai.
Although I have never heard of winning a good ranking, I often see his football training videos in my circle of friends.
It can be seen that no matter how busy you work, you have to live.
People still need some hobbies that they can devote themselves to.
It doesn't matter whether the hobby itself is beneficial or not. The important thing is that when you need to clear your mind and mood, you can plunge into this hobby and let it occupy most of your thoughts, and don't dwell on the people and things that upset you before.
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In the movie old boys, Wang Xiaoshuai and Xiao Dabao had a crush on Michael Jackson when they were students. Because they imitated Jackson, they became "idols" that swept the whole school at that time, but they didn't become the singers they wanted to be after graduation.
Like most people, their hobbies have gradually been smoothed out by life. After more than 20 years, they never touched the guitar or danced with Jackson.
Xiao Dabao became a poor wedding host, and Wang Xiaoshuai became a small boss of a barber shop.
By chance, they got the qualification to participate in Happy Boys. The setbacks in their lives stimulated their desire for childhood dreams, and they were ready to compete as partners.
At first, Wang Xiaoshuai's wife disagreed, thinking that both of them were in their thirties and forties, and it was simply an immature performance to take part in this competition focusing on "small fresh meat".
But seeing her husband get up late at night to practice dancing and their persistent spirit for their dreams, I finally decided to support them.
The two formed a "chopstick combination" to participate in the competition. Although no one in the audience cheered for the "Chopsticks Group", they still danced their familiar Michael Jackson dance seriously.
What impressed me the most was not that they were still chasing their dreams at the age of forty, but that at the end of the movie, when they sang the song "old boys", their high school classmates, from all directions, were doing different jobs and living different lives, and shed tears of regret together.
They used to be teenagers chasing their dreams.
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Once upon a time, we fantasized that we were chosen by nature and had a leading role.
We thought we were Li Xiaoyao in The Legend of the Sword and the Chivalrous Man, Huang Xiaoming in The Son of Man, and Iron Man in The Avengers, but when you stepped into the society, you found yourself just a monster in The Legend of the Sword and the Chivalrous Man, a father-in-law B in The Son of Man, and a policeman C in The Avengers.
Later, you found that the realistic script was not written for yourself at all.
But even so, will we surrender to the world?
The president of Chongqing University once made such a speech at a graduation ceremony, which was widely circulated.
After graduation, students go to the society and enter the adult world, and their minds gradually mature. But "maturity" doesn't mean grinding away edges and corners, being mediocre and worldly, or dying young. Being in a complicated society and faced with many life choices, the mentality of "youth" cannot be old, and the courage of "youth" cannot be lost. I hope that students will always keep a young heart and let "youth" stay in their hearts.
Age is never the only criterion to measure whether you are young.
Kitajima wrote in A Visitor from Poland: "At that time, we had dreams, about literature, about love and about traveling around the world. Now I have been drinking late into the night, and the cups are broken. "
When did we begin to drift with the tide and gradually lose our initial heart in the secular world?