To tell the truth, I had never seen If You Are the One before I went to college. After going to college, my roommate liked it very much and watched it almost every week. So affected, I didn't like it all the time, but I didn't see the whole issue. After graduation, after work, I accidentally turned on the program and watched several issues casually, which felt good. The important thing is to learn something. Before it is too late, start serving.

First, few words, but sincere.

Most male guests who succeed in holding hands don't talk much. What impressed them was a male guest who opened a restaurant and knew how to keep fit (referred to as a healthy man). While the host, two teachers and 24 female guests were discussing other things enthusiastically, the healthy man stood quietly beside the host with a microphone and a smile, playing the role of the audience seriously. It was not until the host and female guests began to ask about the health man that the health man answered unhurriedly. This calm performance is beyond the reach of many other eager male guests. It is not surprising that healthy people can succeed together.

Don't talk much, but be sincere every time you speak. Ma Yun once said in "Win in China" that some of his words may not be pleasing, but he can clap his chest to ensure that every word comes from his heart. Another example is a foreign boy who participates in If You Are the One. His Chinese is not good, but he speaks honestly. At the end of the session, facing the three female guests who left lights, the young man only asked one question and said that he was willing to go abroad with him. All three female guests expressed their desire to stay in China. As a result, the young man left voluntarily. He said that although he also wanted to hold hands with one of the female guests, he didn't want to deceive others because he would settle in a foreign country in the future.

Also in the program, a male guest who is engaged in flight attendant (flight attendant for short), although not much to say, has a high value, but when answering the questions of female guests, he is a little thoughtless and shows insufficient sincerity. For example, a female guest asked, if a good friend invited him to a nightclub and the female guest didn't agree, what would the stewardess do? The stewardess who used to blow herself up in nightclubs didn't even think about it, so she said, of course, she listens to the female guests. Although the answer sounds good, will he really keep his promise in life? After the stewardess left alone, the host Morphy also said: The credibility of this male guest's words is extremely low.

Second, people are not rich, but they have a skill.

I have to say that all the male guests who can be on the show are good-looking. There is little chance of success, but the key is to polish the real guy. Mainly the ability to support the family. The reason why many male guests can attract many female guests, even the host and two teachers, must be that they have the strength to speak and have achieved success in a certain aspect or field. In this way, people often can't help asking questions and give themselves something to say. For example, the health man who runs a restaurant above is not very rich, but when it comes to restaurants and health care, he has great insights and skills, which makes people sit up and take notice.

With a skill, you have confidence and confidence, and you are not afraid to ask questions on the spot; Secondly, while you have a sense of accomplishment, you will also let others realize your value, which is easy to form a good impression and can add points on the spot; Thirdly, you have the ability to live, to support your family, to form a family, and to make female guests feel safe; Finally, people with skills are generally firm and patient. Even if they won't be engaged in the old industry one day, they will still learn other skills and not lose to ordinary people. In the program, almost all the male guests who were left with lights at the end had their own careers and skills. There is a male guest, mature and steady, who has been a wedding company for several years and is tall and handsome. At last, more than a dozen girls left lights for him.

Third, winning lies not in persistence, but in change.

Many excellent male guests are sincere and skillful. There are always two or three female guests leaving lights for them at the end of the program. But at the critical moment of choice, it always fails. Because in the end, they all insisted on the girls they had chosen, and their girls often not only didn't leave the lights, but also refused the male guests.

A male guest who is a doctor in a foreign country has good conditions and speaks well. Two or three girls left lights, but the girl he liked didn't. The male guest finally insisted on the girl he liked and was rejected. Another male guest loves and engages in music. He teaches by example, and the conditions are average, but there are also two girls who leave lights. But in the end, the male guest left alone because of the girl who insisted on it.

On the contrary, there is a foreign uncle-type male guest (uncle-type male for short), warm and sunny, with average conditions and average appearance. In the end, only one female guest left him light, and this female guest is very different from the uncle-type boys and girls. But what no one expected was that Uncle Man took the hand of the female guest who was away from the lamp very bluntly.

In fact, so is the healthy man who runs a restaurant above. Finally, when faced with three female guests who left lights and the warm-hearted girl who didn't, the healthy man wisely gave up the warm-hearted girl and successfully held hands with another female guest who left lights. And the tall male guest who runs a wedding company. Finally, he gave up his infatuation with that girl and held hands with another little girl who was not very noticeable, so they won the Maldives Tourism Award.

Fourth, the loss lies not in saying, but in how to say it.

There is a male guest, with a high degree, a Beijing hukou, who looks good, but is afraid of his mother. From the beginning to the fiasco, what impressed people was not himself, but his mother. Just like once a male guest kept talking about his father as soon as he came on stage, but he didn't succeed in the end. Originally, they were all great men, but the way and content of speaking were not appropriate, and they were slowly ruined.

There is also a male guest whose emotional experience is a bit special. He dated a girl for two or three years. When he was about to get married, the girl's husband came. The male guest found that the girl had several children. Originally, the male guests were just talking casually, but such a story was really attractive and attracted everyone's attention. At last, all the lights went out. In this case, the male guests not only failed to stop in time, but got deeper and deeper and gradually deviated from the focus. When the time is up, the fresh mystery is gone, and the lamp is naturally gone. Some words can be emphasized, but some words can be omitted.

The male guest who runs a wedding company said that his ex-girlfriend had cancer, but he never left her until she got pregnant. The doctor suggested that in order to protect his girlfriend, it is best to take off the child. The male guest agreed, but after secretly signing, he was discovered by his girlfriend and broke off contact from then on. After several years of communication, a few minutes' words are not only meticulous and appropriate, but also poke the hearts of most people, which can better show the true temperament of male guests. Such a male guest is not successful.