There may be many girls who will encounter this problem and have been in love for a long time, but their boyfriends just drag on not getting married, leaving you at a loss and don't know what to do.
In fact, when you meet a man who refuses to marry you, what a woman can do is to recognize the situation and make a decisive decision.
"Xuetian teacher, my boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We are not young. I want to get married early, but my boyfriend keeps putting it off. What should I do? " This is a private letter sent to me by a netizen, and it is also the most difficult thing for her now.
Her name is Xiaoke, she is 30 years old and her boyfriend is over 30. They have been in love for three years and have got to know each other to some extent. Xiaoke said that in the three years she spent with her boyfriend, she never heard her boyfriend talk about marriage.
Xiaoke's family has been urging her to get married. Xiaoke certainly wants to get married quickly, but as long as Xiaoke mentions marriage with her boyfriend, her boyfriend always keeps her waiting.
At the beginning of last year, Xiao Ke and her boyfriend proposed to get married in May, and her boyfriend asked if they could postpone it. Xiaoke asked him why, and he said he wanted to change his job. After being transferred, he will get married when his job is stable. Xiaoke said that she was 30 years old and would never get married again. It is not good for him to have children when he is old. Besides, he won't dislike how much money he earns.
For Xiaoke's idea, her boyfriend not only does not support it, but also blames her for thinking only about getting married and having children all day, unlike independent women in the new era. He also said that he likes powerful women and he also wants to get ahead. Wouldn't it be better to wait until he really gets along?
Later, her boyfriend was still reluctant to get married, and Xiaoke broke up in a rage. As soon as my boyfriend heard Xiaoke say goodbye, he immediately said that he couldn't wait to change jobs and married her in May. Xiaoke and her family began to prepare for their wedding. Xiaoke, who was full of joy, thought that she was finally getting married this time.
It's almost May in the blink of an eye. Xiaoke asked her boyfriend to discuss the wedding, and her boyfriend changed his mind again. He said that the job transfer has just begun. Can we get married later? Xiaoke really can't understand, what is the relationship between job transfer and marriage mentioned by her boyfriend? Even if she doesn't have a job, it doesn't affect her marriage!
Xiaoke broke up again in a rage, and her boyfriend didn't say anything, just saying that everyone should calm down for a while. She and her boyfriend are now in the stage of ignoring each other.
Xiaoke doesn't want to drag on like this all the time, but she said that she and her boyfriend have been together for three years, and if she just let go, she still has some reluctance. But her boyfriend has never given her a letter. Does he just wait endlessly?
Friends and family also advised her to simply blow it off. There are many good men. Xiaoke said she didn't want to, and wanted her boyfriend to give herself a statement. If you don't want to marry her, just tell her clearly, which is an account of your three-year relationship.
But my boyfriend still didn't say anything, and Xiaoke was really angry and hate.
Women should not be naive. There is only one reason why a man refuses to marry you, that is, he doesn't really love you.
Actually, let me see, Xiaoke's boyfriend has been reluctant to marry her. In addition to what he said, there is another key reason. He is not satisfied with Xiaoke. He may have other ideas in his mind. Maybe he has never found the woman he is most satisfied with, and he just regards Xiaoke as a spare tire for his marriage partner.
Maybe Xiaoke's boyfriend will agree to get married one day, but if Xiaoke not only wants a marriage, but also wants this man to be good to himself all the time, it is difficult for him to do so at present. It can be concluded from his delay in getting married that if Xiaoke and he really become a family in the future, they will not be happy.
Not only does Xiaoke's boyfriend have problems, but Xiaoke himself is a little slow about this relationship.
She is not decisive enough to deal with the problem. After her boyfriend agreed to get married, it happened that she and her family were busy, and there was nothing going on with her boyfriend. She is still imagining the day of her wedding. After she broke up by herself, things were not completely solved because she was still making room for each other.
The main points should be shared with the backbone. Don't lose your dignity again and again for a man who doesn't love you. It's really not worth it. Because he has never been sincere to you in this relationship, the only thing you have to do is to delete him from your memory, so as to find the man who really loves you.