In fact, the practice is right. Marriage is a life-long event. Learn more about the new Confucianism and don't continue the wrong ideas of the old Confucianism.

Born as a man, you must be worthy of yourself first, and then you must be worthy of your surroundings.

Don't do something that makes you unhappy because of some wrong feudal ideas.

Please afford it when you should, and when you should find someone to take care of you, but it's not your problem to become enemies as soon as you meet. It's the man who makes his children think of themselves as enemies. If you don't repent and change your mind, you can only be disappointed. Giving birth to children is not for stuttering, but for education, so ~ follow your heart.