Do things properly and beautifully, don't save trouble, after all, we are adults, and try to choose a safe and mature way to implement them.
Just a natural tone. For example, ask each other how they are doing recently, how busy they are at work, and say it's been a long time. Then tell him you're married and hope he can come! In this way, the other party will feel very close and will not be as disgusted as seeing the announcement.