Let's look at the description in the chapter "Kwai Ji":

Since then, Genji's son has lived a leisurely and meditative life, and his life is very lonely. However, he has no consciousness of making love for others, so he doesn't leave home. And has been fully developed, personable, obviously has reached the age of mei. Genji childe repeatedly persuaded with words, but Sharla Cheung was indifferent. Childe lonely boring, every day in the west temple and Sharla Cheung play chess, or play China radical game (2), so as to kill time. Sharla Cheung is ingenious, charming and lovely. Even in small games, he shows superb skills. A few years ago, she was just a lovely child with no other intentions, but now it is unbearable. Although I feel sorry for her, I still can't help but do something about her. But the two have always been very close, and there is no suspicion of lying down, and outsiders can't tell. It's only been one morning, and the man has got up, but the woman can't stand it.

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(1) Sharla Cheung fourteen years old. Pulling out plums means that when a woman gets married.

(2) Chinese radical game, that is, only the radicals of Chinese characters are displayed to teach people to guess what Chinese characters are. Or take out the radicals of several words and teach people to fill in the words, and the result becomes a sentence. Those who can't get through will suffer.

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All the maids were surprised and said, "Dare you feel uncomfortable?" Everyone is worried. Genji's son wants to go back to the East Hall for a while. First, he brings in the pen and inkstone box and puts it in the tent on the bedside table, and then leaves. Knowing that there was no one in the room, Sharla Cheung looked up and looked around, but there was a knotted letter lying on the pillow. Inadvertently opened it, only to see two poems written inside:

"But strange years often have pillows.

Why can't you read pomegranate skirt? "

Like a pen for a game. Sharla Cheung never dreamed that Genji's son was so thoughtful and very upset. He thought, "This man is so cruel, why have I really trusted him for so many years?"

In the morning, Genji's son came to the West Temple and said to her, "I'm tired of seeing you. What's your mood? " I can't play chess today, so lonely! "Looking into the tent, I saw her lying motionless, her clothes as a quilt and her head covered. Knowing the inconvenience, the maids all withdrew. The son approached her and said to her, "Why are you so unhappy? I didn't expect you to be so unreasonable! When the maids saw it, they were shocked! "Tear off clothes, but I saw her covered in sweat, even the forehead was soaked. Sighed: "Oh, it's amazing!" He made up thousands of stories to deceive her. But Kiko really hated Genji's son and didn't answer a word. Genji's son hated him and said, "It's over! You are so stubborn that I will never see you again. I'm ashamed to death! "He opened the pen and inkstone box and found there was no poem in it. He thought, "She doesn't understand. What a child! "Looking at her, I feel very cute. On this day, he accompanied her all day and said all kinds of comforting words. But Sharla Cheung still can't tell the truth, Genji childe think she is more lovely.

This day is the first Hairi in early October, and the palace eats "Haier cake" according to the custom. Because my son is still in mourning, it's no big deal, but a beautiful alder box with all kinds of cakes was given to Ji Zi. When Genji's son saw this, he went to the outer hall of the South Courtyard, summoned Wei Guang, and said to him, "Don't make too many cakes like this for me tomorrow. Just send them to the west hall at dusk. Today is not a good day, so I must do it tomorrow. "Smile when you talk. But just a wise man, he immediately understood, did not ask questions in detail, and solemnly replied: "This nature! Congratulations at the beginning of the engagement, of course, have to choose a good date. Tomorrow is the second day, so how much do you want to make this' children's cake'? " Genji childe said, "a third of today. "Hint that tomorrow is the third day of marriage. But the light tacitly, led away. Genji childe thought, "this man is really capable! "I just don't tell anyone. I make cakes for my host at home, almost all of them are made by myself.

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Custom at that time: On the first day of the tenth lunar month, everyone made cakes and named them "Haier cakes". Cakes come in all kinds of colors. At that time, it was thought that eating this kind of cake could cure diseases and eliminate disasters, and future generations would prosper. This custom still exists in some places.

② Habit at that time: On the third day of their marriage, cakes will be provided by the pillows of the bride and groom, and the cakes are the same color.

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Genji childe to win the favor of Sharla Cheung, even cajole, also very tired, today he seems to be a new robbed a person, oneself also feel funny, recall the love for her in the past few years, today is really less than one over ten thousand. People are really strange: it's unbearable to teach him to leave for one night now.

The cake ordered by Genji's son was quietly delivered late at night on the third day. But Guang was thoughtful and thought, "Don't say that the wet nurse is an old man. If I let her send it, I am afraid that Sharla Cheung is embarrassed. " He called Shao's daughter, a little girl named You Jun, and said to her, "You give this to Miss quietly." He gave her a fragrant box and said, "This is a celebration gift. You should put it on the young lady's pillow. Be careful and don't make mistakes! " Mi Jun was surprised by this and replied, "I have never made a mistake." Then I took the incense box. Only faintly said: "Be careful, don't say such unlucky words as' wrong' today!" "Should I go to the young lady and say such things?" Mi Jun said that this chemical gentleman is still a child and doesn't quite understand the meaning of this thing. He reached into his account and put the incense box on Sharla Cheung's pillow. Genji's son will teach Sharla Cheung the meaning of this cake.

All the maids don't know. The next morning, when I saw the incense box being taken out, several close-fitting maids suddenly realized. I don't know when the plate filled with cakes in the incense box was made. The dish feet are beautifully carved, the style of the cake is also very chic, and the scheduling is very particular. Said nothing, wet nurse didn't expect childe so serious, she is very satisfied. I can't help crying at the thought of my son's meticulous love, but the maids privately said, "It's good to discuss these things quietly with us. Now I entrust this only light. I don't know what this person thinks? "

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Only one morning, the man got up early, but the woman couldn't stand it. Is the first hint.

In the second paragraph, I found a letter with a knot lying on my pillow. In fact, it was sent to her by an imperial envoy on the second day of her marriage according to the custom at that time.

At the back of the' Sharla Cheung never dreamed that Genji childe so deliberately, very upset' can be said to be the second hint.

Later, Genji asked Weiguang to make cakes for him, all of which were unified. According to the custom at that time, this kind of cake should be provided by the woman's family, that is, on the third day of their marriage, the woman's family allowed the newlyweds to eat their own cakes, the so-called three-night cake. At this time, there was no girl in Ji Zi, so Genji made it himself.

The last paragraph' the maid doesn't know'. The next morning, when I saw the incense box being taken out, several close-fitting maids suddenly realized. "Description is unmistakable.

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I once posted a post in Genji Tale Bar, specifically introducing the wedding process at that time. Now turn around:

There is a set of ceremony for getting married, which originated in the period of visiting marriage and was formed in the period of getting married. The whole ceremony is divided into three parts: proposal, combination of men and women, and wife's approval.

In the stage of marriage proposal, some female parents propose to male parents or men themselves, and some men directly woo women.

After a period of letters, men can visit the woman's house (the husband is here). When a man arrives at the woman's house, the fire lit by Song and Ming brought by the man should be combined with the woman's fire.

On the wedding night of a man and a woman, it is likely that the woman's mother wants to cover up the couple.

The man had to go home before dawn the next day, and then he sent someone to send a letter to the woman (later ambassador) to express his reluctance.

Within three days of the wedding, the man must secretly go to the woman's room, during which the woman's parents will sleep with the man's shoes (folds).

On the third day, the husband's family just let the newlyweds eat their own cakes (three-night cakes) and hold a banquet for the man to meet his relatives (dew). After the banquet, the husband's family will send clothes or money (Lu) to the man's entourage.

After that, even during the day, men can go to women's houses.

It is not difficult to see that taking a husband's gift is a natural marriage that evolved from the era when men and women freely combined and were recognized by their wives. With the increasing necessity of "taking the husband" and "keeping the husband", the contents of proposing marriage, welcoming the husband (getting married) and keeping the husband (repeating, repeating, three nights of cake and revealing) in the ceremony have become more and more complicated. However, after all, this ceremony of taking a husband to marry came into being under the condition that there are still strong factors of pairing marriage in the whole society and men and women are relatively easy to separate, so it is impossible to guarantee the legal effect of marriage from the system, and it does not have the function of women monopolizing men or men monopolizing women. The son-in-law who often takes home in literary works in Heian period does not go through a grand ceremony to take her husband home.

It seems that this whole ceremony did not completely appear on Genji, or that theory is theory and reality is reality.