Let me say my own opinion first, which I can accept, because I value two people more.
For me, marriage is marriage, and the wedding is for everyone to see.
My husband and I have been in love for more than three years, we have been married for almost three years, and our children are almost two years old. So far, we haven't held a wedding. Actually, we want to have our own wedding. We both dressed appropriately and beautifully, and then both invited their friends to a real young wedding. This is my original intention. I don't want the wedding to get complicated. I think both men and women should have control over the wedding, not their parents.
However, due to economic and time reasons, my husband's wedding has not been held so far. We were told by the parents of our comrades-in-arms when we got the certificate. What's more, we have lived in other places for a long time, and our feelings are more important.
When I got married, I was too poor I have to rely on myself for everything. After the renovation of the house, there are tens of thousands of dollars left, and nearly 10,000 mortgages will be paid every month. I have a baby in my belly. What should I do for the wedding? Because my husband and I are both rural, we have always been used to independence. Even if you have a wedding, you will spend your own money. We have no money, so there is no wedding.
Our marriage is very simple, and there is no question of bride price. At the beginning, we were opposed by both parents, so we clamored to make our own decisions and not let our parents meet, which was unnecessary. We live our own lives and make our own decisions, but our marriage is very happy.