In the world of adults, there is never the word easy.
After graduating from high school, we entered a more socially meaningful choice. Choose universities, majors and dormitories; The choice after graduation is even more overwhelming. Choose a job, choose a girlfriend, choose how much to borrow, choose a less blocked road to go home ... every choice seems to lead to a life path, and the single item is not retrograde.
An editor told me that he was going to jump ship for the third time. The publishing industry is chosen to maintain some spiritual pursuits in stability. With the fragmentation of reading, diversification of e-books and lifestyles, and too much pressure, the publishing industry has become an unknown sunset industry. Paper media can also sell luxury advertisements, publish books and sell ideas. In terms of economic benefits, it is indeed better to buy baby food supplements on Taobao, make big-name A goods in small shops, and even make pancakes on the street. Private publishing enterprises have fierce competition and rapid turnover of personnel. Editors drifted to Beijing after graduating from foreign universities. After more than ten years of marriage, they are still renting a house. Children are studying, and parents are getting old in their hometown. It is not solved by his meager economic income and social contacts. He told me pessimistically that my brother couldn't go on.
He told me repeatedly that Beijing is expensive, which reminds me of a Beijing TV host who just cooperated a few days ago. He has two houses and two cars. In the eyes of ordinary people, he is a stable middle class, his daughter-in-law is a model, and his parents are also senior intellectuals. Even if they walk on the site of the International Trade Center, they are still a landscape in the crowd.
Our cooperation this time is to shoot a rural propaganda film for * * *. We want to live in a mountainous area more than 0/00 kilometers away from the city/kloc. He was recording a program when we met. He is wearing a suit inside and military cotton outside. Turn on the phone, and he will go into battle lightly. He turned off the phone, menstruation came to see him curiously, and the village chief came to take a group photo. He is very relaxed. Everyone stayed at the villagers' house that night. I looked at the farmhouse without TV, internet or even dim lights, but he shivered and washed his hair with cold water from the dilapidated solar water heater. He squatted in the corner and dried his hair with the only power supply to prepare for tomorrow's hairstyle. I am surprised that he is so diligent. He said with a smile that at the worst time, he publicized an unfinished resort, where migrant workers lived in board houses and the quilts were moldy.
For more than ten years, his parents have been opposed to his career. The university was forced to learn English and was about to get a degree certificate, so it went to Beijing to drift north. For this matter, his parents still find it hard to forgive him. Up to now, even he doubts whether he made a wrong choice.
After 30 years, my friend who is a civil servant has been promoted, and my friend who is a technician has also been promoted to management. Far from becoming famous and married, he is still selling himself repeatedly. As a non-editor, it costs more than 500 yuan to make a movie in Taiwan Province, which is not enough to repay the mortgage for one month. At the age of 356, he deeply felt the fierce competition in this industry and the fear of getting old. He works hard outside, hosts auto shows, dubs animated films and gets married. He saved money to buy two PRADA suits, one dark and the other light, which were prepared for the forum and other work. From the spotlight, he spoke gracefully and waved to the winner of life. As soon as the curtain fell, he immediately took off his "combat shirt", wrapped it carefully, put on ordinary clothes, and went to the backstage organizer to say hello modestly, expressing his hope for cooperation next time. Work is an order, there is no way. He is full of contradictions about having children, and the other parents turn against each other because they can't stand it.
My other friend, husband and wife, are both * * * workers, enjoying two or three years of solitude without worry. Naturally, with children, life began to enter a tense state of free fall. My mother-in-law is old and wants to take care of her children, but she is in poor health. When she comes, she may fall down and become a burden to them. On balance, the young couple decided to ask her parents to take care of the children, and the task of taking care of her in-laws could only be abandoned. The woman's father died suddenly a few years ago, and her mother got up the courage to find a wife. Now she can only be kept at home to take care of her children, and she has accumulated a lot of grievances in her hard work. The girl knows that she owes her mother and tries her best to create conditions for her to find a wife. The world of two people is infinitely compressed, and two people whose careers are on the rise frequently ask for leave, which makes the leaders often treat them coldly. The young couple thought about letting their aunt take care of the children, but they were not at ease without the care of the old man. In many ways, the young couple became bored and began to wonder whether it was too hasty to have children.
This kind of fatigue is not the rush of the body, but the ups and downs of the heart. In the midst of many variables and difficulties, we keep balance non-stop, and we can't help asking ourselves, how did life become like this? Did I do something wrong, or did I choose the wrong one?
What did we choose? Leave home and go to big cities to fulfill their higher material desires; According to your deep passion, let go of your dreams; No longer only care about yourself, but face growth and shoulder heavy responsibilities. These things, on the surface, are our choices, but in fact they may just be the result of life letting nature take its course, and all roads lead to the same goal.
By chance, I interviewed Tong Hua who wrote "Walking on Thin Ice", only to know that in her seemingly smooth writing career, she once faced an essential choice and a huge turning point.
In middle school, she got excellent grades, liked reading and writing, and was bent on taking the Chinese Department. When she was preparing to apply for the exam, the teacher raised an objection-"You have heard that many science students later became writers. When did you hear that liberal arts students later became scientists? " Therefore, in the college entrance examination, with the idea of good employment and high salary, she was admitted to Guanghua School of Management of Peking University with the ninth place in the province. After graduation, she has been engaged in the financial industry that she doesn't like for a long time.
After she became famous, many people regretted that if she had passed the liberal arts directly in the college entrance examination, she would not have taken so many detours and would have written better works. Unexpectedly, she definitely answered this question: "The four-year study in the School of Business Administration has cultivated my perseverance and logic in analyzing problems and given me the need for writing;" The vacant mentality of suddenly settling in the United States led me to write "Walking on thin ice", and the bittersweet memories of my middle school days led me to write "Those young days that I can't go back" ... These are inseparable and cannot be turned back. The importance of choice has always been overestimated by the world. The choice is a point. Everyone's background, personality, hobbies and desires are different, and their choices will be different. There is no right or wrong. What matters is not the choice, but the things before and after the choice. "
There are two different answers to each choice. If Tonghua really studied liberal arts, perhaps the pressure of survival has long made her unintentional and tired of selling words for a living; Perhaps the editor changed his job and found that the living environment of all walks of life has its own cruelty, and the hardships of life have not changed with the choice of industry; If you don't pursue your dreams, the owner may regret it for a lifetime, and it is even harder to let go of your parents; If you don't have children now, your in-laws will only grow old in the future, and your mother may have found a wife, which will make it harder to separate. ...
What matters is not the choice, but the things before and after the choice.
In other words, the problem is not the choice itself, but the way of life. In the adult world, there is never the word easy.
How should we choose? The answer is that no matter how you choose, you can't stop the sudden collapse or twists and turns in front of you; Or you may fall into darkness, you may lose your partner ... there will always be a way, and you will go on alone. Giving up the original goal may not bring a better ending, but it may be a deeper internal friction. In fact, no matter what choice we make, the only thing we can do is to grit our teeth and spend the darkest time silently. I don't know which day, when the light comes again, we will get the answer.
How should newcomers spend their most important 90 days?
Newcomers in the workplace generally have to go through a 90-day probation period, because it is not two or three days to see whether a job is suitable for them, nor is it one day to see whether an employee is qualified for the job. Therefore, the most important 90 days are crucial for both newcomers in the workplace and the company. So, how should newcomers in the workplace spend the most important 90 days?
1, be familiar with your post and your colleagues.
Newcomers in the workplace should be familiar with their posts and colleagues around them if they want to adapt themselves to the work. Only when you are familiar with the company, the position and the people around you can you feel at home in your daily work.
2. Correct mentality.
No matter how excellent you are at school, you are new to the workplace when you enter the workplace, so you should keep a correct attitude. Learn to learn from everyone around you, and they will also have some advantages for you to learn. Learn from others' strengths, digest them slowly, and then apply them to your work, so that you can become excellent.
3. Learn to learn actively.
Newcomers in the workplace should learn to study actively if they want to spend the most important 90 days smoothly. There are many things to learn when entering the workplace, including life, workplace etiquette, workplace unspoken rules and so on. Newcomers in the workplace should learn from people around them with an open mind, and ask if they don't understand. At ordinary times, you can also look at other people's cases, learn from them, and then apply successful experiences to practical work.
4. Talk less and do more.
Newcomers in the workplace should learn to talk less and do more. Don't talk about other people's right and wrong in secret, don't get involved in any gang struggle, but do your job with your heart.
5. Make a major choice
After you spent the first 30 days, you experienced the second 30 days and the last 30 days. The most important 90 days for newcomers in the workplace have passed, and you already know whether you are suitable for the position you are applying for and whether this job is suitable for your own development. At this time, you should choose to go or stay. If it suits your own development and meets the requirements of the company, you can stay. If the company doesn't play as promised, then choose to leave to avoid more inconvenience.
Inspirational articles in the workplace: five proverbs in the workplace
Give five proverbs to newcomers who have just entered the workplace. I hope everyone can open up their own world in the workplace.
1: You can do what others don't want to do.
You may not be clever, but you must not be careless or diligent. There are many things that others don't want to do. It's too much trouble. It's time for you to show yourself. If you want to live a better life than others, you have to be the protagonist and let others do it. The golden rule of modern workplace is that you can't be both smart and careless. People who are not smart are stupid at most and make things worse, which is not a big crime in the workplace.
2. The beauty of the wood in the forest will be destroyed by the wind. Whenever you keep a low profile, it's always safest.
No matter how good you are, you must remember to keep a low profile. Trees will attract the wind, and you will be envied because you are good enough. When you are criticized or attacked for your Excellence, fighting back will only waste precious time and even give your opponent room to overtake. Only by continuing to lead and leaving your opponent far behind will you become more and more relaxed in the workplace.
Don't take everything for granted, learn to accept it.
How to convince people in the workplace? In addition to your own ability, the gas field is also very important. First of all, you should stabilize the audience, at the same time, don't be too arrogant, don't take everything for granted, and learn to accept it. People who are worse than you are everywhere, and people who are better than you are around you. Maybe people who are better than you are not necessarily successful, and maybe successful people are not necessarily better than you. Accept all this with an open mind.
4. When problems are found, they must be solved in time. All reasons are excuses in the eyes of leaders.
Your leaders and colleagues don't want to know how many extra classes, how many all-nighters and how much effort you have made for your project, your team and your work. What people care about and can see is always the result. Therefore, when you find problems in getting along and working, you must solve them. When something is screwed up because it is not handled in time, all your reasons are excuses in the eyes of leaders.
5. Work is instinct and career is pursuit.
What you can really do well is actually what you have been doing, not what you have been thinking about but haven't done. At work, you may encounter a lot of unhappiness, grievances, complaints and bad emotions. The starting point of all this is because you don't love enough. This is just a job for you, not your occupation. Only by taking hard work as a career will you understand what Excellence is. There is a saying that you will never know how good you are unless you push yourself.
The above is my careful recommendation for you, I hope you will like it.