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Intimate relationships need to be managed, and many people ignore this and stumble over it.
Are there any women around you who joke that it is easy to have children? Of course there is! And a lot.
Some people guard love by getting pregnant before marriage; Some people want children to be the bond of marriage; Others try to change their marriage through children.
Unfortunately, children should be the crystallization of love, not the tool of intimate relationship.
Gillian Flynn, a writer, once said: Marriage is to compromise with each other, then work harder, communicate and compromise, and then run away.
Only through repeated efforts and struggles can we create a good marriage atmosphere. If you can't manage your first marriage and responsibilities well, why do you have children?
Of course, we are not saying that women are not allowed to have children, but we just want to think twice before preparing to have children and see our current situation. If your marriage is bad and the current situation is not ideal, ask yourself, are you really ready to let a brand-new life come to your current bad situation?
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Being pregnant and having children in a hurry without running-in feelings and untested marriages brings new life when nothing is ready; Then he struggled in despair and told the man to be sorry for himself. Excuse me: Are you worthy of your health?
In order to marry love, she made a lifelong regret: getting pregnant before marriage.
The love affair of hippo chef has lasted for several years, and it has not been recognized by both parents. The man's parents think that the posture climbed his son; However, the parents of the hippo chef think that this man is problematic and unreliable.
In the stalemate between her parents, the little chef hippo couldn't wait for the news that her parents allowed her to marry her boyfriend, so she risked her life and took a bold step to cook with her boyfriend.
When she told her boyfriend excitedly that she was pregnant, the boyfriend who was crazy about her suddenly faltered and said, give me some time to think.
Not long after, my boyfriend replied to the hippo chef: Then get married.
The hippo chef finally heard the answer she wanted, and she was very happy. She thought it was the man's parents who agreed to get married. Who ever thought that the eight characters were all right? Getting married is just her boyfriend's wishful thinking.
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When the hippo chef told her parents that she was pregnant, her mother cried and her father shook his head. Finally, her mother suggested that the hippo chef have an abortion, but the hippo chef didn't say anything.
Helpless parents lowered their posture and contacted the man's family. The result was rejected by them: "I was pregnant before I got married, and I didn't show it at first sight." Who knows whose child it is, and then I will get married after I give birth. "
This can make the posture family very popular, but they are angry, but they hate iron for their daughter. Who made posture get pregnant first?
Gesture has tried every means to persuade her boyfriend to do her parents' ideological work. It has been delayed for two months, and the marriage is still inconclusive.
Later, I finally waited for my boyfriend's reply, but the result was: "Marriage is ok, no bride price, and parents on both sides of the house should write their father's name."
This unfair treaty made little chef hippo and her parents very angry. Finally, the hippo chef was disappointed, went to the hospital for an abortion and went to the operating table.
At this time, I regret my posture. If I had known this, why bother?
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Children may be the bond of marriage, but they cannot be reduced to tools of marriage.
Pregnant and forced marriage, has such a woman ever thought about being responsible for her body? Can forced marriage be happy?
At any time, protecting yourself is the most important thing. Women are always vulnerable groups. In love, you can try to get married, but don't try to get pregnant. To tell the truth, you can't afford to be hurt.
It's really not worth risking your body for someone who can't give you a future. A woman's uterus is used to give birth to life, not to threaten life casually.
Bubu has been married for five years and has been living a tepid life. She and her husband are also very loving and don't live with their in-laws. The young couple are self-sufficient and have no pressure in life. The only worry is that my husband is too playful, often playing outside and even not going home at night.
During the five-year marriage, Bubu always went to various nightclubs to find her husband, and then dragged her husband home.
Later, it was suggested that Bubu give birth to a child, saying that after having a child, the father's love would be aroused, and he would have a sense of responsibility and an accepting heart.
Bubu, who likes children very much, immediately implemented this suggestion. Last year, Bubu successfully gave birth to a baby boy, healthy and lovely.
Sadly, Bubu has been taking care of the baby since it was born, and hasn't had a good sleep for the next month. Her husband is still the same, spending all his time outside work for entertainment. He never helps Bubu share the housework and the hard work of taking care of the children.
Bubu, who used to be strong, cried in despair many times after giving birth and almost collapsed.
I hope to rely on my children and let my husband take care of the family. As a result, I outsmarted myself and put myself in.
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How many women try to use children as a turning point in marriage? Unfortunately, children can easily change a woman, but it is difficult to change a man.
Children can be a woman's fetter, but they can't be a reason for men to accept their hearts. This is the sad fact of marriage.
Most women will sacrifice their lives for their children and suffer in the marriage where they work together. This is the greatest place of maternal love, but I hope that women will be more rational when giving birth to children and not take chances.
There is an aunt who has a long relationship in her hometown. She serves her in-laws and raises two children in her hometown all the year round. The husband works outside the home, and the monthly living expenses are fixed in the card of his in-laws, who control the expenses at home.
In other words, this aunt can only spend money in front of her in-laws. Every time her in-laws give money, they are very reluctant, and they repeatedly emphasize that there is only one word: save some flowers.
In my hometown, there is no economic income, and my husband is not at home all the year round. I take two children to serve my in-laws for three meals a day. You can imagine how hard this day is.
But after a thorough understanding, I suddenly had an idea that there must be something hateful about the poor.
A few years ago, my aunt's husband worked outside and met a construction site girl. When he returned to his hometown in the New Year, he divorced his aunt. My aunt had only one child at that time.
Menstruation's in-laws disagreed with the divorce and strongly opposed it, so her husband's idea of divorce went away.
Not long after, menstruation took the IUD, ready to have another child. The purpose is to have more children, make divorce difficult and bind her husband.
She got her wish and the second child was born. Her marriage was saved, but her husband came home less and less. Now she doesn't want to serve her in-laws, but she can't turn around.
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Can children keep men's hearts?
How many women give up their uterus and give birth to children for their own selfish desires, but the result is not worth the candle.
Whether a child can tie a man's heart depends on the actual situation, but one thing is certain: a child can definitely tie a woman's heart.
For example, in the case of pregnancy before marriage, the worried woman is pregnant and the man has nothing to lose.
For example, a woman who gives birth to a child in a hurry in marriage, a woman who suffers day and night, and a man who plays tricks without fetters.
For example, in order to consolidate the marital status, a woman who gives birth to a second child easily is a woman who is busy giving birth to a child and raising a child. You can't help it if the man doesn't go home.
Therefore, women should first consider the current situation before deciding to have children. In a bad situation, the arrival of the child will not change anything.
Children are angels, and there is no turning back. If possible, I hope every child can be born in a loving family, instead of being reduced to a tool to save marriage.
Children should be the crystallization of love, and the happiness, happiness, satisfaction and abundance they bring are immeasurable happiness.
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