Li Junhe, his daughter-in-law, Oman, and I went to high school together. They study in a school in Hebei Province, majoring in chemical engineering. I don't remember the specific professional name. After graduating from college, Li Jun was admitted to Peking University as a graduate student majoring in chemical engineering. Oman did not take the postgraduate entrance examination, but followed Li Jun to Beijing to find a job.

He went to school, she worked, and then after he graduated, they worked in Beijing for several years and saved some money, then went back to their hometown to buy a house and settle down, and lived a life of small wealth and security.

This is their original plan, but unfortunately the plan can't keep up with the change. This change has caught them off guard, so they can only accept it and can't give up.

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Li Jun is studying at school, and Oman rents a house next to the school. Although one of them is a student and the other has gone to work, they live a real husband and wife life.

Unexpectedly, Oman got pregnant soon after working. what can I do? First, freshmen have just entered school and have no economic income, so they can only rely on family supply. One is a newcomer in the workplace who has just joined the company for two months, and his salary is tight enough for rent and his living expenses.

The real life is in front of us. After careful consideration, the two decided to leave the child behind. Now that you have made a choice, you must come up with a solution.

First, discuss marriage with your family. About marriage, both of them are very passive. Although it is a lifelong event for both people, because there is no economic income, it is impossible to determine the consumption standard of each process, so wedding photos, weddings, ceremonies, meals and other expenses. Must be arranged by their families.

Very passive, you can object, you can decide everything by yourself, but you have to have the capital to object. If they have their own savings, they can decide the standard of any link, but they have no right to decide their own wedding.

China's parents always regard their children's marriage as their own task, but that is within their own financial situation. The cost of marriage is a game between two people and their parents. We can't deny that capable parents are willing to spend money on their children's marriage, but they are afraid that their savings can't even reach the most basic configuration of modern weddings. Many times, they are willing but unable.

Oman's parents-in-law worked in the unit when they were young. Although they have some savings, they are not much, and they are sick all the year round. Almost all the money they saved was donated to the hospital. One more thing, the wedding in Oman, Li Junhe is too hasty, and Oman is pregnant, which will make the man feel that the marriage is a foregone conclusion, and the woman's family is not negotiable.

Of course, this can't blame the man's parents. To be honest, Oman's pregnancy caught both families off guard. Everything could have waited until he graduated three years later. She had some savings, her feelings were more certain, and both families were ready. But because of the arrival of the children, they had to hold a hasty wedding in advance.

This is one of the children's disrupted plans. Of course 100% is sure that children will always be angels, saying that it is because of children, but it is actually their own result, and children just come into this world innocently.

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The next year, the child arrived as scheduled. Li Junyanji and Oman quit their jobs in the last few months of pregnancy. In order to save money, Oman returned to his hometown from Beijing to live with his in-laws, leaving Li Jun to go to school alone in Beijing.

I can't imagine life in Oman with my in-laws. None of the three complete strangers acted as a lubricant. The key point is that they have no economic income and rely on the help of two families.

Oman will go back to her mother's house from time to time, and her mother knows her situation. Many times, I will give her some money, but such a day is always not the way, especially after the birth of the child, the expenses are really endless. Although I don't give my children a luxurious life like others, I have no income and seem to spend a penny more.

It is inevitable that two people will quarrel. The child will definitely come, but I'm afraid his untimely arrival will make parents feel at a loss. After the baby was born and Oman came home, Li Jun could not study at school with peace of mind. He wants to find a job as soon as possible and take on the responsibility of being a father.

But making money is not so easy, especially in the case of abnormal anxiety. Most of the jobs he is looking for are related to sales. The basic salary is low, and he needs to pull business to get commission. In this way, he is bound to give up his studies. While other students were busy tutoring teachers and thinking hard about their future in the laboratory, Li Jun was forced to go out into the society.

Originally, he could choose to take an examination of Kaobo, or he could choose to take an examination of civil servants and enter a big company. However, reality does not allow him to think so much. He wants to earn money. He only knows that only by earning money can he support his children and make his quarrel with Oman less.

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Graduate students' graduation thesis can't be done at a glance on the Internet. Need to use the usual experimental data to demonstrate. However, Li Jun has little experimental experience and no data. Even the topic was given to him by the tutor. To be honest, the tutor has never seen him at all, but due to the pressure of the college, he has to take care of Li Jun as a student.

The pressure of work, the pressure of papers, the pressure of family, and the pressure of where to go after graduation, I don't know how Li Jun came over during that time. I only know that the pressure of graduate students often makes people insomnia, especially during graduation. Everything is uncertain and needs to be determined by everyone.

In the year of graduation, Li Jun finally chose to work in Beijing and do sales in a company. Later, he switched to be a training lecturer. He has persisted for so many years, but he has always had a desire to go home and develop, but paradoxically, there are very few jobs with a monthly salary of 8 thousand in that municipal city.

He tried to send resumes to several companies, and some interviewed him and had a good chat, but at the end of the salary link, the company leaders didn't answer the phone.

I don't know whether Li Jun really wants to develop in China or because of his children and wife. You shouldn't talk like this, but if the child is not born, maybe neither he nor Oman should live like this.

First of all, he may find a company with more potential after graduation, instead of carrying a heavy load. There is a big difference between waiting for a good opportunity and being forced by life to catch a straw. Moreover, the process of waiting is also a process of recognizing the direction of life, so the choices made are well thought out, which is conducive to finding a correct direction and focusing on one thing.

A hasty decision is likely to be found not to be the right way in a few years. If you turn around and start over, you have to start over.

On the other hand, after learning about Oman's current job, I found that she was really delayed. Oman graduated from an ordinary undergraduate course. She could have worked in Beijing for a long time, accumulated experience and increased her income, and then planned the future with Li Jun. ..

Or she can take the exam and find a stable job, but the unexpected arrival of the child makes her very helpless. She should have worked hard in Beijing, but she had to get married and go home to have children in a hurry, so her work had to be put on hold; When she wants to take the exam and enter the formal unit, she has to take care of the newborn child, and taking care of the child has become her main job since then.

In the process of taking care of the children, she can't count on Li Jun, and the children can't count on Li Jun, because he has to wander outside to earn money to support them.

Now Oman works as a salesgirl in a maternal and infant store, but her main business is taking care of children. Salesgirl is a profession that undergraduates are not as good as high school students. It's a pity that she doesn't deserve this fate.

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The story of Oman in Li Junhe makes me feel that there are only two words-passive. Since the birth of their children, they have been passively choosing their own lives, because the children have changed their plans.

Some people may say that if you don't want to change, don't use children as an excuse. Maybe this is true, but there is an idiom called "not enough". Some jobs that require competition and 65,438+0,000% effort have long excluded mothers with children.

Besides, children are no better than other things. You can put them anywhere you want. Children will consume a lot of mother's energy and take up a lot of time. If you take care of your children without love, they will feel it sensitively. Therefore, having children is also a matter that needs to be planned in life.