I don't know where you are from. This is our marriage custom in Fuzhou. The man's parents and matchmaker took the groom to the woman's house for engagement. The man wants to send: a gift (the gift is based on 3. For example, 33,533,65438+100,000. 3. The mantissa of dowry must be "3", which is homophonic with "sheng" in Fuzhou dialect. Symbol of having children after marriage), festive and colorful (5 kg 2 packs of candy, 2 big pig legs, 2 big fish, 2 dried fish, 5 kg 2 packs of noodles (noodles should be wrapped in red paper), some red eggs, some apples or oranges, 2 bottles of red wine, and 65,438+00 giant clams that turn red after being cooked. Gold necklaces and bracelets don't have to be given at the time of engagement. When to send gold can be negotiated. ) These things should be wrapped in red paper, or put square red paper on the gift. Woman: You can prepare a hen, so you can exchange it with the hen that the man gave you when he got engaged, and let the man bring back a pair of chickens (including the cock that the other party originally gave you). Some women don't prepare hens in advance at home, but leave the hens given by the man and let the man take them back to the rooster. Must be prepared: a pair of trousers and a gold jewelry in the pocket. According to Fuzhou, pants with gold are a treasury, and I hope the man has money. As for how much gift the woman wants to send to the man, she can return it on the spot at the engagement ceremony or give it to the bride as a dowry when she gets married. Remarks: As mentioned above, the woman can return half of the "ten colors" given by the man at the time of engagement. But this "ten-color celebration" is also negotiable. Now many people don't give ten colors, just give them casually. Weddings in wedding hotels can be arranged by wedding companies. According to Fuzhou custom, when getting married, the first day is the man's house to handle wine. The next day, wine was served at the woman's house, also called Huimen wine. On the first day of marriage, the man's family should prepare more than two decorated wedding cars to come to the woman's house to pick up the bride and dowry, which is also called picking up relatives. The groom will also bring the bride's flowers and fine cigarettes to the bride's house. When you see the bride, give her the bouquet. At the same time, cigarettes were generously distributed to the woman's family. When the couple are at the woman's house, after meeting their ancestors, they should eat Taiping (note: Taiping's soup must be chicken. And the bride should eat slowly, preferably not faster than the groom. The necessary dowry for the woman's family is: a doll (preferably given by a friend, but never bought by the bride herself), a baby bath basin, two suitcases, and a red bucket (meaning the bride's toilet, and red dates, peanuts, lotus seeds, longan and melon seeds should be put in the bucket, which means early birth). Wedding procedures: the groom's wedding car arrives at the woman's house, and the woman's house should set off firecrackers. After that, the groom can enter the woman's house. After eating too much, the newlyweds took their dowry to get married. Before the newlyweds go out, the bride's house will also set off firecrackers. After that, the newlyweds can walk out of the bride's house. When the bride walks out of the woman's house, never look back. She should move forward happily. Even if she forgets something, she can't turn back. She should let someone else get it. The bride must hold a red umbrella from the moment the bride leaves the house until she gets on the bus. The red umbrella must be held by the bride's aunt (when the groom's house is informed, the groom's house must set off firecrackers before the bride can get off the bus. The groom must take a red umbrella for the bride and walk her from the car to the door. The wedding car began to leave, and the woman's house had to set off firecrackers again. The day after marriage is the day to go home. The bride's family will send her brother-in-law to pick up the bride, and the groom will give her money. Then the groom prepares gifts, visits Yue's home with the bride, and returns the same day. As for other things to be used when getting married, whether they are prepared by the woman's family or the man's family, there is no special provision and they can be decided by both families through consultation.