In the 1980s, when the ratio of men to women was fairly balanced, the word bride price was basically negligible. When two betrothals have a meal together, the man symbolically takes out a few gifts. As for the bride price, it is also a symbolic several hundred yuan. Remember that it is usually several hundred 99 yuan. This figure will rise according to the price and income level, and the woman's return will not cause any extra burden to her family. This is the real symbolism.
The above refers to a suitable marriage between a man and a woman with affection and courtesy.
Some really changed the bride price. For example, the man does have problems and disabilities, and the family is particularly difficult. If no one wants to marry, he will pay a great price. A mother-in-law who is greedy for gifts may "sell her daughter".
1980, a 18-year-old rural girl was "sold" by her mother to a 38-year-old "old man" at the price of 800 yuan bride price. This aroused widespread sympathy at that time. After getting married, the little girl was held in the palm of this man's hand, and her life was better than that of most peers who sympathized with her.
Therefore, the matter of "selling women in 800 yuan" may only be the appearance seen by the people who eat melons, and this woman who sells women knows the inside story best. Will the daughter be wronged when she marries in the past? Why is this 18 girl with a new age primary school education willing to marry a semi-old man who is 20 years older than her because of her mother's arrangement? Is it possible, the somebody else have two of a kind, Chencang dark, I can only pay a high price to buy them? It's possible.
Therefore, the bride price is just a representation. Below the representation is the competitiveness of male courtiers to female courtiers. Those with strong competitiveness will not care about the retention or abolition of the bride price, and those with weak competitiveness will not be more relaxed even if the bride price is abolished.
Improving one's own competitiveness is fundamental.