First of all, the matchmaker in Shangqiu leads the man to the woman's house, and the woman will find a good neighbor or person of the same race at home and wait for the man to "interview". Men must bring cigarettes when they go, not bad cigarettes, or they will be looked down upon. When the man arrives, he will first "give cigarettes" to all the men present to show courtesy. Then the "interviewer" at the woman's house began to ask the boys some questions: How many brothers and sisters are you? How many brothers does your father have? How many brothers do you have? What graduation ceremony? Where to work ... In the meantime, those "picky" people will find fault with you: whether you have double eyelids or single eyelids, whether your eyes are big or not, how is your nose, whether you walk regularly and so on. You can leave in about five to ten minutes. Just wait for the "Admission Notice" when you get back.
Then, if you lose the first battle, there will be no story; If the "first trial" is short-listed, the woman will inform the man to meet the woman, and Shangqiu people call it "chatting up". At this time, the man can't leave empty-handed, but should bring the so-called "meeting ceremony". In our place, 2000 yuan in cash is usually put in his pocket. Only when he went to find a man would he talk to a woman this time, and the two began to talk. Generally, the chat time is within one hour. If both parties feel "satisfied", the man will give the meeting gift to the woman on the spot.
Secondly, I began to "visit relatives". It is very simple, that is, the man's family pulls a car to the woman's house to "inspect", and then the woman pulls a car to the man's house to "inspect". The focus of the inspection is to see how the other family lives, how the family is, whether it is a clean family or a "sloppy" family, and so on.
If you are satisfied with your relatives, you can get engaged, and then the man begins to prepare the bride price. Shangqiu people call it "too big paste", which means giving money, giving gifts, giving candy to relatives and friends and so on.
After that (that is, men and women only met once or twice, talked for an hour or two, got engaged and made a wedding announcement), men and women can communicate with each other and get to know each other.
Two people have been dating for a while, oh, what should I do if I find that they are not suitable for each other? Maybe you will say "then break up", but it's not that easy. "Breaking up" is called "broken marriage" in Shangqiu. If the woman proposes to "break off the marriage", the woman will return the bride price to the man. If the man proposes to break off his marriage and wants to get the bride price back? Sorry, it depends on the attitude of the woman's family. If the woman is a "reasonable" family, the bride price of the man can be returned. If the woman is an unreasonable family, then the man thinks he is unlucky. Of course, this practice of the woman is absolutely "illegal", but it is "reasonable" in the eyes of Shangqiu people, so under normal circumstances, no man will take legal measures.
Having said so much, I don't know if it's useful for my brother. It's for reference only.
I am a deep victim of Shangqiu-style blind date law, and I hope my brother will consider it carefully.
I wish you find the right partner soon.