Later, the boy showed an attitude that he also liked me, which made me feel that I had a chance. I have been having an affair for a long time. At that time, I finally got up the courage to confess to that boy.
But that boy sent me a good friend card, and his reason was even more speechless.
He said, I like you, but now is really not the time for you to confess. My ex-girlfriend came to see me. I am a long-lasting person, I am sorry.
His words shattered all my good feelings for that boy at that time, saying that I was a long-lasting person, but why did you like me and break up with your ex-girlfriend at the same time? Say that you are naive and entangled, but let a girl who likes you be a "mistress". Is it really a bad time for her to confess now?
Does that mean she would have had a chance to confess a moment earlier? A late confession moment, and this is the first chance? The original first come, first served relationship still has this meaning? He is like a prince choosing a concubine, waiting for the girls to compete for the opportunity to be with him. This long-term love is really funny.
I wasn't sad at that time, but I was fake. I reluctantly smiled and said, "I wish you all the best." But that boy actually asked me again, can we continue to be friends?
I was really annoyed at that time, so I hacked him in front of him and told him that this friend was not in my dictionary.
This also leads to the topic I want to discuss with you today, whether I can be friends after breaking up.
I have heard many people say yes, and I have seen many people do so. There used to be a girl in my college dormitory, and she had a deep affection for that boy. After breaking up, she became friends calmly, often having dinner with her ex-boyfriend, who would talk to her when she was unhappy. As before, she snuggled up to the boy's shoulder and said that the boy knew her best.
This situation remains the same after both of them have new boyfriends. Sometimes girls even take their current and ex to dinner, which makes me dumbfounded.
In my opinion, such a picture doesn't dare to think at all, and it feels spicy when I think about it. It's a dressing ground. But now I really get along well with the former people, which is also amazing and subverts the three views.
If you ask me, the generosity and tolerance now are almost comparable to those of the gods, and they are still green.
Maybe I'm narrow-minded, or maybe the world is too crazy now. But I really can't accept it, and I don't believe that couples can still be friends after breaking up, and I don't believe that such so-called friends can really be pure friendship.
Obviously, Yifan is the same as I thought. At the wedding, he broke the relationship between his girlfriend and his ex-boyfriend, got off the stage in anger and got divorced. No matter how his girlfriend cried and tried to explain, he couldn't accept this betrayal.
Some people think that he really makes a mountain out of a molehill, regardless of the overall situation. Nowadays, young people may have a blank love experience, at least a dusty past that they don't want to be mentioned, and at least an unforgettable feeling. But after all, girls are willing to marry him. Let bygones be bygones, so we can't all be "smoke" floating in the wind, be generous and calm, can we?
However, some people think that Yifan is doing the right thing. Not many men can stand this humiliation, even if they love again, that won't do. Because of love, they can't accept the slightest emotional flaw and the woman they like. They may have other people's facts in mind, and it is right not to get married. The more shameful thing is yet to come, and they don't know it with Hulunbeier grassland on their heads.
Yifan and his girlfriend Xiao Yan met through a local forum. ZSZSZSZ has an ex-boyfriend who has been injured for a long time. Yifan knew it at first, because Xiao Yan was in a low mood at that time, and posted in the forum to talk about his feelings. Yifan also broke up with his ex-girlfriend at that time, and I felt it. She often suffers from insomnia in the middle of the night, so she chats with Xiao Yan.
Two poor people who were both hurt by love licked each other's wounds, told each other their worries and formed a wonderful fate. It is said that the best way to get out of the last relationship is to start a new relationship. The feelings of Yifan and Xiaoyan are gradually sublimated through mutual comfort and care, and they have feelings.
At first, both of them had a tacit understanding, and they liked each other but didn't explain. Maybe it's because both of them feel that the other party hasn't gone out in the last relationship, and there are still people in their hearts. The two talents didn't express their feelings until one night, when Xiao Yan asked Yifan about their intentions and suggested "give it a try".
Then the two meet offline, often meet, slowly open their hearts to each other, and finally determine the relationship. Speaking of it, the progress of the two people is really not fast, plus the time of chatting online, it took about two years to make a positive result, and it was time to talk about marriage.
Both sides keep secrets from their parents. They didn't say that the beginning of their relationship was known from the Internet. They are afraid of being opposed by their parents. After that, the discussion about marriage went smoothly. Both of them are only children, with reasonable parents and suitable family circumstances. Soon, the wedding time was finalized.
A boy is thick-skinned, but he still finds that as the wedding approaches, ZSZSZSZ becomes more and more uneasy. He thought Xiao Yan was in a panic before marriage and comforted Xiao Yan several times.
"Don't be afraid, I will never let you get hurt again. You can marry me and become the happiest girl in the world. "
Every time, Xiao Yan just smiled and didn't respond much.
On the wedding day, everything went smoothly until they stood at the gate of the banquet hall to meet the guests, but an accident happened.
Suddenly, a tall boy in gorgeous clothes came to ZSZSZSZ. When Xiao Yan saw the boy, there were accidents, surprises and a trace of sadness in his eyes, which were all seen by Yifan.
The boy hugged Xiao Yan tightly, and they both wished each other well.
"Congratulations, you got the romantic wedding you dreamed of."
"... thank you for coming to my wedding. "
Say that finish, the two separated, but Yifan looked at it and felt completely uncomfortable. He took his girlfriend aside and asked who the boy was. His girlfriend replied evasively, just an old friend of hers.
In fact, Yifan has guessed that the boy's dress is different from the corsage, and it is estimated that it is similar to the groom's official. How can it be a common relationship like friends? With his girlfriend's attitude, he has basically determined that this boy must be Xiao Yan's ex-boyfriend.
But when I first fell in love with Xiao Yan, I obviously deleted the contact information of my ex. How did the boy know that Xiao Yan was married and invited himself? Moreover, Xiao Yan's attitude before meeting him has been eagerly looking forward to this. Looking at his attitude, it was an accident, but it was not a big accident. It's more of a pleasure.
He can only suspect that Xiao Yan still keeps in touch with her ex-boyfriend behind her back. In anger, he snatched Xiao Yan's bag from the bridesmaid, took out Xiao Yan's mobile phone, and asked Xiao Yan to unlock the password.
Yifan has always attached great importance to his girlfriend's privacy and has never checked his girlfriend's mobile phone. But now, he can't think about these things. His girlfriend refused, and he didn't stop there. The mobile phone he bought for his girlfriend has its own face-brushing unlocking function. He wanted to give his girlfriend another chance and make things clear by himself, but since his girlfriend didn't want to, he didn't hesitate any more and just opened the lock.
There's no need to rummage around. Yifan can't find it from the contact list. Xiaoyan is clever after all. She changed her contact information, but in the circle of friends, Yifan suddenly saw the clue.
Girlfriend's circle of friends, girlfriend's actual circle of friends, there are many things he has never seen. Obviously, these are all things that his girlfriend can cover for him. What I see is basically his girlfriend and his show of love, but what I can't see is those who are sad and miss the past. Click in and have a look again, and you will be suddenly enlightened.
What he can see, his girlfriend has set that only he can see, and what he can't see can only be seen with a strange ID. There is no doubt that that man is Xiao Yan's ex-boyfriend.
The latest message my ex-boyfriend saw was this: Xiao Yan took a wedding photo for himself alone, and then added a sentence: "Comb your hair like an adult."
Put on a handsome suit
See you later. It must be more beautiful than I thought.
I hope that when you see me, you will do as the lyrics say.
I also hope that my most beautiful moment can be seen by you. "
Yifan collapsed completely, but his girlfriend was more angry than him and accused him of going through his mobile phone without her permission. At the same time, she confidently explained to her boyfriend that she did delete her ex-boyfriend's WeChat and he wanted to add it again. She didn't invite him to the wedding, and he wanted to come, which had nothing to do with her.
But Yifan replied to his girlfriend with a smile: "You can't resist the temptation. If you are selfish, don't leave yourself there. I'm telling you, there's one thing I never told you. My ex-girlfriend tried her best to find me, hoping to get back together with me, at least to keep in touch. I told her that you didn't like it, and she refused directly.
Isn't that what lovers should do, but how can you feel particularly innocent when you come? You are really dazzling in your wedding dress, which makes me feel bad because you don't deserve it. "
After that, they tore the ends of the wedding dresses one by one and began to dismantle the decorations such as happy characters and balloons at the wedding banquet by hand, announcing the divorce.
My girlfriend sat on the ground in tears, all the guests left weakly, and a wedding banquet that should have been lively was over.
The wedding tragedy of Yifan and Xiaoyan is embarrassing, but it also makes people have to consider this issue. Should I contact you after breaking up?
Square face always believes that after breaking up, we should not contact again.
It is not easy for two people to be together. It can be said that meeting is fate. Now that we are together, we should cherish it. But if we are separated, it means that fate is broken, and it's time to say goodbye. We may not know who is on the other end, but one thing is certain: fate is waiting for you somewhere in the unknown future, but it has nothing to do with our predecessors.
Breaking up is a decisive thing. When we broke up, everyone hesitated and had a strong struggle inside, but the decisive moment of breaking up was certain.
Since you have chosen to separate, you must agree with your choice and agree that the other person is not the right person for you. Short-term pain is worse than long-term pain, and it is also your protection not to drag your feet.
I can only think of one reason why I still keep in touch after breaking up, that is, I still have ideas, or it is not completely over.
Not only my judgment, but also many people's subconscious thoughts. They don't want to admit it, but they have to admit it, because it's not over until they lose contact. Maybe one day they can talk, maybe one day they can rekindle the old love.
This kind of emotional sticky attitude is actually not only not letting go of each other, but also not letting go of yourself. If you can't end it, you can't start a new life. If you can't start a new life, it's hard to get out of the past and live in memories forever. Isn't it cruel to yourself? If the other person has started a new life, it is unfair to the other half.
Another possibility is to develop a spare tire. It is even more shameless to keep in touch with your ex with this idea. The so-called relatives, there is nothing to be afraid of, but obviously they have started a new life, but they are selfish and trapped each other, making him unable to walk out, playing with feelings, treating many feelings with contrast, enjoying each other's good is a matter of course, but they are unwilling to pay. How can he not be shameless?
No matter how you look at it, for whatever reason, it is not a good thing to keep in touch with you and your partner after breaking up. It is better to end it early and give yourself and each other a good time. As the old saying goes, it's good to get together and leave.
Always respect your feelings, no matter what you love, don't disappoint others' love, let alone use and consume each other's sincerity. Only by respecting love can you get love, otherwise, when you really meet happiness, you can't grasp it.