In the minds of China people, marriage is a sacred and exciting relationship, which can help two strangers who are in the same boat through thick and thin to complete the continuation of their lives in quiet years, and can also make love sprout and enjoy the joy and happiness it brings. Nowadays, young men and women pay more attention to each other's feelings, while parents pay more attention to customs. The marriage custom in Taizhou is relatively simple, but it also follows the traditional marriage mode, such as proposing relatives, visiting relatives, getting married and making appointments.
Proposing relatives means asking relatives at home, and after asking the woman for permission, visiting relatives officially begins. When visiting relatives, both the woman and the man go to the woman's house. The main purpose is for the two families to get together and discuss the wedding, time, bride price and other related matters. At this time, the young couple usually retreat to another room to wait, which is called "staying outside the room", which not only shows their courtesy, but also avoids the embarrassment of the elders when discussing the bride price.
Now the traditional eight-character wedding ceremony is just a ceremony. Generally, parents of both parties will write the words "comply with destiny, good luck" on the eight-character wedding invitation, and then put 888 yuan into the custody of the matchmaker. After the matchmaker accepts the thanks, he will send the invitation to the cabin. At this time, the young couple knew that their marriage had been decided.
Taizhou people are hardworking and brave, and have the unique delicate character of Jiangsu and Zhejiang people, so they are never stingy with their children's marriage. The amount of the bride price is agreed in front of the matchmaker at the time of marriage, and no one will easily break the contract, but there are exceptions. If the man's family is particularly satisfied with the woman, they will add "unexpected surprises" to the bride price, such as bringing more jars of yellow wine and a wedding basket. The woman also needs gifts, usually gift boxes, which contain longan, litchi, candied dates and other foods. Red paper should be attached to the jar of rice wine, which reads "Yuanyang playing in water"
Traditional weddings need to get on the sedan chair, pick up the sedan chair, pay homage to the bride, sit in wealth and make trouble in the new house. However, with the changes of society, some traditional wedding customs in Taizhou are only symbolic, such as pressing the sedan chair and getting on the sedan chair. When holding a wedding, the woman will also make some difficult problems as appropriate, such as hanging a sickle on the door to "kill Wei", and the groom needs an exam, so that he can successfully pass the customs and win a beauty with the help of a red envelope.