Feelings can't stand casual consumption because the total amount of feelings is limited. In Weibo, I once read such a sentence: "Women will become more and more cautious after missing the person they want to marry most, while men will become more and more casual after missing the person they want to marry most, because in women's hearts, no one is inferior to him, but in men's eyes, everyone looks like her." This is why there are more "love rat" than "love rat" in society.
But in any case, marriage is sacred and beautiful, and it is also a once-in-a-lifetime thing in my eyes, because it takes decades of life experience to produce true feelings, and a person's life is only decades, so marriage really can't stand repeated again and again.
Xu Yukun, a 70-year-old cyclist who watched Adventure Life 2 a while ago, said, "I think differently from your modern children. At that time, we were married for a lifetime and never wanted to divorce. "
Many people say that the old people's ideas are conservative, but some ideas are more valuable and timeless in modern times. His motto about marriage is. As I said above, it takes several years to meet someone, ten years to know someone, and decades to know someone. This is basically a lifetime, and no two people are born to hit it off. Therefore, all lasting feelings need time to precipitate.
My friend Xiao Zhang told me that he lives now. He once had a happy family. His wife gave birth to his children, and he took care of his life. He also personally teaches his children and gives him great help in his work. Xiao Zhang should be satisfied with such a virtuous wife, but Xiao Zhang is not. He feels that life is dull and boring, and that life has no passion. She thanked her for her contribution, but even her hands.
So he decided to divorce. When he divorced, Xiao Zhang left everything to his wife and children, begging her to let him go, and his wife agreed. After the divorce, Xiao Zhang embraced the single life again, soon found a young and energetic girlfriend, and soon got married. He thought this was the life he wanted, but after marriage, this young wife made Xiao Zhang clap his hands for love, and everything else gave Xiao Zhang a headache. There is no one waiting at home and there is no warmth.
Xiao Zhang said, "I just know the true meaning of marriage now. I miss my wife, but I can't do anything more. "
In the final analysis, Xiao Zhang's tragedy is because he is dissatisfied with his marriage. However, after seeking satisfaction, he found himself so naive that he didn't know what a real marriage was. So he didn't know how to be grateful when he had it, and he missed it again after losing it, but it was already "things are different."
Not long ago, I read a post in Weibo that the groom is 26 years old and the bride is 30 years old. It was the bride who proposed.
But at the wedding, the groom was drunk and a little confused, so he took the microphone and said to all the guests, "I'm in a bad state now, so I won't marry her if I don't!" " "
There was a burst of laughter outside. Anyway, people who come to drink are not very serious and even boo. I want to hear more wonderful stories.
The bride's family refused directly, demanding that her in-laws apologize and stop the banquet immediately, so the two families tore it up, and the bride immediately cried with anger, grabbed the microphone and said to her husband who was drunk unconscious: "Divorce!"
So the two people really divorced. This happy event, from marriage certificate to divorce certificate, added up to less than a week.
There are many comments below, one of which impressed me deeply:
Woman, I always feel that I am his true love. In fact, he couldn't find anyone better than you, because he despised him better than you, so he chose you as the second best. If he keeps the status quo, then you can continue. If one day he is rich, then he will replace you.
For people nowadays, getting married is a relatively low-cost but extremely rewarding thing. There are also many popular jokes in the evening, such as "If you marry a good wife, you can struggle less for 20 years" and "If you do well, it is better to marry well." However, in the process of changing your destiny through marriage, you consume too much emotion. What can you do to make up for it?
I have always believed that two people can walk into the marriage hall, which is the fate that was repaired in the last life. Both endogenous and exogenous attraction can be the source of love, so we must cherish it. The boys in the post, Xiao Zhang and Mr. Lao Xu, these three different lives, in my opinion, are the progressive ladder of marriage.
I hesitate to enter marriage, but if I feel it carefully, I will feel warmth. After years of marriage, you will feel bored and boring, but don't waver and hesitate in your heart. In the end, you will have a feeling of love like xu teacher, and you will be alone forever, which is the real happiness. The writer said in the novel: "Sometimes a road leads to a lower level. Without hesitation or doubt, such a life is truly happy."