A happy married life must be based on love.
The enlightenment that this sentence brings us is that in marriage, only couples who have a love foundation can tolerate each other in life, live in harmony, and finally get happiness in married life.
Mutual loyalty between husband and wife is the basis of keeping love fresh. In marriage, if you find that your marriage partner doesn't love you the most, will you continue to maintain this marriage relationship besides feeling pain and disappointment?
The film 45th Anniversary tells a tragic story of loveless marriage:
Jeff and Katie are a couple who have been married for nearly 45 years. Just as they were preparing for their 45th wedding, a letter sent to Jeff from far away put their marriage in crisis.
Katie found that her husband Jeff loved not himself, but his first girlfriend who died many years ago. This sudden discovery made Katie very painful. She suddenly felt that her 45-year marriage was meaningless, and she doubted whether she should continue this marriage.
The film 45th Anniversary tells us a truth: Couples without love foundation will not be happy in marriage.
First, the foundation of love is the guarantee of stable relationship between husband and wife.
Katie and Jeff have been married for 45 years. To outsiders, they are congenial and suitable for each other. They are an enviable couple with deep feelings.
Katie thought her marriage was happy until she received a letter from Jeff's old friend. Her husband gave her warm company, and she gave her husband the same care and love.
Love between husband and wife is the guarantee of marriage stability. It has a wonderful cohesion, which can connect the hearts of husband and wife closely.
But when Katie saw the letter from Jeff's old friend from afar, she found that the person she had always loved in her husband's heart was not herself, but just a substitute for her ex-girlfriend.
Only then did Katie realize that her most trusted husband didn't love her. The lack of love made Katie miserable, and she was even disappointed with the marriage.
Second, empathy between husband and wife is the basis of stable love relationship.
In 45 years of marriage, Katie always thought that Jeff had no reservations about himself. She felt her husband's concern and took care of him wholeheartedly.
In the marriage between Katie and Jeff, Jeff has his own space, an attic. At first, Katie thought that the attic was just an ordinary grocery store, but when Jeff received a letter from an old friend, Jeff liked to stay in the attic for a long time.
Katie found something unusual about her husband. After searching and asking, Katie finally found that there were no sundries in her husband Jeff's attic, but souvenirs of Jeff and his ex-girlfriend
This discovery made Katie extremely sad. She thinks her husband feels the same way. She thought she knew her husband, but a scene in the attic made her discover that he didn't empathize with her, and she didn't know Jeff.
In marriage, the basis of stable love between husband and wife is mutual empathy. If one party has reservations about the other, the foundation of marriage and love is no longer stable.
Third, in marriage, it is irresponsible to regard one's lover as a substitute for others.
A skiing accident many years ago caused Jeff's ex-girlfriend to die unexpectedly. She was pregnant with Jeff's baby when she died.
Jeff can't forget his girlfriend. She kept the memory of his girlfriend in her heart until he married Katie, and she couldn't let go of the memory of her ex-girlfriend.
About love, Russian writer herzen once said:
Only one person can love with true love.
This sentence tells us that in marriage, only those who devote themselves to their partners can be called true good love.
It's not wrong for Jeff to miss his ex-girlfriend, but he didn't really treat his wife and confess his past to her in marriage, which is unfair to her.
In marriage, it is irresponsible to regard your other half as a substitute for others.
The film 45th Anniversary tells us a truth through the marriage story of Jeff and Katie: a marriage without a love foundation will not be happy.
Katie was disappointed with her husband at the 45th anniversary of her marriage to Jeff, and she no longer had expectations for marriage, because she found that the person she loved most in her husband's heart was not her.
A happy marriage is based on mutual love and empathy between husband and wife. Only by treating love with a sincere heart can we manage marriage happily.