When I was a child, happiness came easily. When I got a dollar of pocket money, I had to show it off everywhere. Stealing a snack in class can bring full joy; When playmates quarrel awkwardly, a smile and a handshake make up.

Now, forced by life, we seem to have lost the power to really make ourselves happy. We are getting more and more unhappy, always worrying about the future and delaying the present.

Because we want more and more things, not only have we got everything in front of us, but our time is also occupied by more and more desires: want a house, want a car, and hope to meet the right partner.

When you really get one or several of them, you will find that happiness is fleeting, and you begin to have new desires: bigger and better house, more comfortable car, more romantic love and more perfect lover.

In this way, we push ourselves forward endlessly, expecting to get what we want. If you get it, there may be a temporary happiness; But if we don't get it, we will start to feel sorry for ourselves. Whether we can get it or not, we seem to have lost the happiness we had when we were children.

A way to become happier and happier.

1, stay confident

In those days when there is little time to breathe, thinking of something that can make you happy will make you full of motivation. A study by Michigan State University shows that bus drivers who smile when thinking positive things (such as children's recitation) are more positive than those who smirk.

Scientific research shows that a sincere smile-which will drive the muscles around the eyes-will give the brain a positive emotional feedback. So, yes: say eggplant!

Step 2 buy happiness

Any woman who has bought fashionable and expensive accessories knows that the happiness we get from shopping will soon disappear.

Dr. Ryan T. Howell, co-author of the research report, an associate professor at San Francisco State University and director of the personality and entertainment laboratory, found that people do not get pleasure from showing off their behavior. For example, if you prefer Thai food, but you had a candlelight dinner in a luxury restaurant on your 40th birthday, you may get praise on Facebook, but you are not really happy.

3. Play a joke on love

If you say "honey, take out the garbage" before the foreplay, you will feel that trivial things in family life will ruin our love.

Wagdevi mesnier, a relationship therapist certified by the Gottman Seattle Institute and founder of the Asia-Pacific Center for Texas Relations, said, "Jokes can enrich our experiences and keep your brain up to speed." It can ease the atmosphere in interpersonal relationships and help us better deal with trivial matters in life.