It is said that doing well is not as good as marrying well, but I don’t think so. To marry well, you have to rely on your husband, but to do well, you have to rely on yourself. I always believe that I am more trustworthy than anyone else.

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My brother came back during the summer vacation, but my sister-in-law did not come back, nor did they have their two children.

It’s strange to think about it. My brother and sister-in-law were in a free love relationship. When they first fell in love, it was so sweet. My eldest sister-in-law's home is in Xi'an, and if she wants to marry here, she will have to marry across the province. At that time, both parents strongly opposed it, but to no avail.

My sister-in-law went on a hunger strike at home, and my eldest brother also went on a hunger strike with his parents at home. Helpless, both parents had to compromise.

I remember that when they got married, my sister-in-law's family took more than ten hours of train ride to get to us. My sister-in-law's parents are old, but they still regard their daughter as their treasure. Before leaving, the two old people cried uncontrollably. They held their brother's hand and asked him to take good care of her. That scene is still fresh in my memory.

My sister-in-law is from another province, and her living habits are somewhat different from ours. My mother was quite tolerant at first, but as time went by, my mother began to nag and complain. My sister-in-law, who had been away from home for a long time, was even more uncomfortable. Without the love of his parents and the cold eyes of his mother-in-law, it was already worse.

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Later, my brother went to Guangzhou to work and took his sister-in-law with him. I heard that they are living well in Guangzhou. Both of them have jobs and their life is enjoyable.

Three years have passed. My mother is anxious to have her grandson and keeps urging her brother. She even wonders if my sister-in-law is infertile. My sister-in-law was also upset because of this. Fortunately, not long after, my sister-in-law became pregnant with a child. Now my mother felt happy. My brother felt sorry for his sister-in-law, so he persuaded her to quit her job, saying that he could support her and her mother alone.

My sister-in-law quit her job and became a full-time housewife. My sister-in-law is fully responsible for my brother's food, clothing, and daily life.

After giving birth to the child, my mother was unhappy. The reason was simple: my sister-in-law did not give birth to a son, but gave birth to a daughter. My mother’s traditional values ??are very profound, and there is no need to say more about the preference for sons over daughters, because I have always experienced the experience of favoring sons over daughters.

My little niece is pretty and cute, but my mother doesn’t like girls. The elder sister-in-law decided to have another child. After my niece turned two, my sister-in-law became pregnant again. What worries the sister-in-law is that she is afraid it will be a girl again. She said that she liked both boys and girls because they were her children, but if they were still girls, their lives would definitely be difficult in the future.

As a blessing from God, my sister-in-law gave birth to a boy for the second time. My mother was so happy that she couldn't open her mouth from ear to ear for several days. She showed off everywhere that she had a grandson. She hugged her little nephew every day, coaxing and teasing him, and he was even closer to her than her own son. The little niece on the side didn't understand anything, she just said, I want a hug, I want a hug. She didn't want to hug her brother, but wanted her grandma to hug her.

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Soon, they returned to Guangzhou and started their own lives. Mom looks forward to seeing her grandson day and night. The grandson stares at his motionless grandson on the huge mobile phone screen all day long. Sometimes he taps the screen with his fingers and says funny words.

The relationship between my mother and my sister-in-law is not very good, so every time I ask my sister-in-law for photos and videos of her grandson. Mom is as happy as a child every time she sees her grandson getting older day by day, and every time there are new changes.

Only my brother came back this time, and my sister-in-law did not come back. She must have gone to her parents' house to visit her parents. But in the mother's mouth, it became a sin that prevented her from seeing her grandson.

My mother scolded my sister-in-law in front of her brother, who also acted as an accomplice, saying that my sister-in-law had nothing to do all day long, so she only knew how to take care of the two children. When I heard this sentence, I actually felt disgusted with the two relatives in my heart. My sister-in-law traveled thousands of miles to marry in another province. She returned to her parents' home to spend a few days with her parents, but why didn't her parents allow her to see the child? How can a mother have nothing to do when she takes and accompanies her children every day? This also made me completely lose my desire for marriage.

The sister-in-law lost her job, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was tense. Then it was the seventh year of their marriage, which was the so-called seven-year itch. They are obviously not as close as before, and all she can do is spend time with her two children.

Not long ago, my sister-in-law found a good job, which can not only accompany her children, but also have an objective income. Really happy for her. This job has also improved her sense of happiness. She no longer relies on the head of the family for support. She can support herself. Occasionally, she can also take her children to the children's playground to have fun.

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For a woman, marriage is not reliable. It may be for a lifetime or for a while. Trouble and pain. But work and career are different. A good job can support you for a lifetime and give you as much happiness as marriage.

Work brings you a sense of satisfaction, achievement, and independence. I can live proudly without relying on anyone. This is the greatest happiness for a woman.

It is said that doing well is not as good as marrying well. This approach of putting your life on marriage is not unreasonable. But it is more sensible to place all hopes on yourself.

Someone asked, if you marry a rich man in the future and he requires you to be a full-time wife, will you give up your career? My answer is no, I won't. I would rather not get married than lose my job and career. Because your marriage can be destroyed at any time, and at this time, your work and career can just save you.

Women, please remember, don’t give up your work and career for marriage. You have to believe that career and marriage can exist at the same time. If not, then this marriage will definitely become your hell.