First, selfish psychology.
People with this mentality only ask couples to turn around themselves, listen to their own words, serve themselves and obey their own temperament, regardless of each other's requirements, hobbies, preferences and practical value. So it is difficult to get the love of friends of the opposite sex. People with this mentality can only say that they have the basic standards of successful love if they change their values and learn to pay attention to and respect others.
Second, perfect psychology.
Some people over-idealize couples and set the norms too high, exceeding a certain probability. That effectively narrows the scope of finding an object and reduces the pass rate of love. Especially for older women, the psychology of perfection is more prominent, and the result is repeated mistakes. It is not too late for people with this mentality to return to reality from their ideals and immediately adjust the criteria for finding objects.
Third, lack of self-confidence.
People who are not confident are not necessarily poor. Some of them are caused by physical defects or work or some mistakes. Self-distrust makes me independent, aloof, unwilling to appear in public and refusing to associate with the opposite sex. When meeting an idealized friend of the opposite sex, it is easy to worry that the other person will look down on himself, dare not boldly pursue perfection and lose opportunities. People with this mentality should cheer up and shape their confidence and self-reliance.
Fourth, herd mentality.
People with this mentality are mainly manifested in their lack of ideas about couples. When others speak well, they take the initiative to be proud of the spring breeze. When others say that they are not very good, they will feel idealistic and usually gamble on their feelings because they follow the crowd. It is good for people with this mentality to discuss extensively, but they should analyze it carefully and make up their own minds.
Fifth, men are superior to women.
People with this mentality not only think that men are better than women, but women also think that men should be better than women. Women stipulate that men's influence and education are higher than their own, but when men's influence and education are lower than women's, they have no courage to pursue perfect women. This is also a remnant of the concept of patriarchal rule in China feudal society, and some young men and women are also actively bound by this idea. The key to get rid of this kind of psychology is that young men and women should really understand the definition of love and shape the concept of gender equity.
Sixth, feudal superstition.
Due to the harm of superstitious activity concept, some people burn incense and worship Buddha in order to better live their marriage life, thus preventing the construction and development trend of teenage love relationship between men and women, and even causing tragedy. People with this mentality should cultivate scientific and rational consciousness and eliminate the harm of ignorance and heresy.
Tip: Being in love is a happy thing. Many times, we should be consistent in struggle and psychology, and we should understand and comfort each other. There is no need to damage a beautiful love because of some psychological obstacles.