In his later years, Shen Congwen once wrote in a letter to a young man that a person's nature must always develop from kindness. Everything starts from understanding and love...life will slowly become richer and richer. Because outside of the individual, there are thousands of different kinds of sorrow and joy that exist and occur under various circumstances.

I have never thought about the fact that "beyond the individual, there are thousands of different joys and sorrows", so I often get immersed in my personal emotions over a small matter and cannot extricate myself. If you don’t do well in the exam, if the person you like behaves very close to others, if the interview result is not satisfactory, if you are criticized a few words by the teacher or leader...

In short, think back on your past experience and feel Because I did not "start from understanding and love", I often threw myself into a narrow channel and could not get out for a long time. Although I don’t know how many people are similar to me on this issue, I think there must be a lot, otherwise there wouldn’t be so many people who find life boring and unhappy.

I have been looking for ways to get rid of boring and unhappy situations. Psychological research proves that communicating with important people in your life affects people's self-awareness, which in turn affects their emotions and ways of thinking.

So, who are the important people in our lives? For infants and young children, the most important people are of course parents or other guardians; for adults, we also need to communicate with people other than parents.

Never say that you interact with people in your circle of friends every day, because the exchanges there will only make your heart more restless. At least this is what my circle of friends looks like: I used to post about my car, my baby, and my travels, but now I mostly post about my micro-business performance and micro-plastic surgery scenes.

Relatively speaking, the former is more pleasing to the eye, but the latter can only make me doubt life - they are enjoying a rich and beautiful life, why should I be ashamed and fight for life? Should I go out of my way to join a micro-business and make some adjustments to live a different life?

This is no joke. Many times the way we look at problems is influenced by others' tendency to convey information. This is also the reason why the Internet era has brought us too much information noise. It can be said that everyone is refreshing and rapidly changing their points of interest all the time.

However, these noises do not enrich our lives, but seriously interfere with our judgment of truly meaningful and valuable information. In fact, to put it bluntly, whether it is reading various jokes in Moments or reading counterattack guides of micro-business agents, their value is far less than reading a classic book.

Why is this? Because famous works can deeply inspire the mind, when we read, we are communicating with the author. Although the hero cannot provide us with employment guidance and protection, he can definitely inspire us with his confident and independent side - to get the perfect ending in the story, personal choice and action are always required, both of which Both are indispensable.

Ayn Rand believed that "man's spiritual survival depends as much on his efforts as his material survival... Just as he needs to be self-sufficient in obtaining the materials to sustain life, he also needs to create it himself." "Life is valuable spiritual material."

However, what we need to understand is that a person who insists on his own choice and takes active actions for this is not easy to understand in many situations. It is said that this is because people don’t like to be friends with people who are more successful than themselves. Moreover, under normal circumstances, if you only have your own goal in mind and ignore everything else, you will not succeed.

When you only care about your own goals, others will say you are indifferent; when others are playing and you are still working hard for your goals and want to do better, others will say you are indifferent. You are hypocritical; the most terrifying thing is that when you have worked hard for a long time and still fail to achieve the desired results, many people will call you stupid and urge you to give up.

Therefore, it is difficult to persist in doing things that enrich life, because it is a long and lonely road. You can neither rush for success and mess up your position first; nor can you hesitate because of the information noise of the times and the judgment and dissuasion of people around you.

In fact, everyone is unique. Although there is a small probability event like "another me in the world", most people will never see it in their lifetime. Therefore, let the "unique me" quietly take a path of independent choice and can move forward in an indomitable way.