After all, there are not many illiterates in China today, but there are a large number of sexual illiterates.
Maybe you have listened to many sex education classes, but after listening to them, you are still a little confused. Maybe you are eager to know how to have sex education. Don't worry, let's see if you have reached the standard after education.
Here, Green Paradise lists seven points, which are also the standards that children need to reach to help them live an active and healthy life in the future after receiving sex education during their growth.
1. Have good sexual knowledge and don't be sexually blind.
A person who wants to live a healthy life needs to master some common sense of life. Some of this common sense is about health, such as knowing how to prevent colds, eating cold food is easy to get sick, knowing what will break the law, and knowing the difference between attacking others and self-defense.
About sex, we also need to master some knowledge, just like these common sense of life, which can ensure our healthier life.
People have many absurd remarks about sex, such as:
Having sex many times is to understand sex, and equating the experience of sexual behavior with the understanding of sex (not allowed) is the easiest way to make people blind, arrogant and ignorant, full of absurd sex, but not in health.
If children don't receive sex education in time from childhood, they will grow up like this, just like most adults now.
2. Bad sexual attitudes will not be caused by the lack of sexual knowledge.
Growing up, I was ashamed to talk about sex in social environment. Without fully understanding the sexual agitation and physiological and psychological phenomena brought about by adolescent development in advance, sexual confusion and troubles have nowhere to be answered. As a result, I buried explosive charges for my adult life, waiting for the opportunity to blow up my normal life one day.
Sexual guilt, impurity, mystery and depression all put adults under pressure: sexual dysfunction, poor quality of love and marriage, problems in family life and membership. (Note: Bad sexual cognition is largely related to the listed problems, but it is not the only causal relationship)
Bad sexual attitudes are not formed overnight. It begins when people around you feel the attitude towards it when they are young and solidifies after puberty. It was not built in a day, and healthy and positive sexual cognition was not formed by the effect of sex education once and for all.
3. Accept your biological gender well, and identify with your body, gender identity and gender role.
Many years ago, it was reported that a teenage boy had his genitals cut off at home. The reason is that he cannot tolerate and accept this part of his body. There have also been cases where boys, as transgender people, want to realize their identity from male to female and secretly enter the palace.
Although these cases are extreme and unlikely to happen, this extreme behavior reflects that teenagers can't get good sexual identity when they face sexual development problems and turn into mature sexual individuals.
A person who can't agree with his body identity role will have a lot of conflicts and internal friction among individuals, and it is difficult to get happiness in life.
What do you mean?
Give a simple example, for example, can you accept your identity: daughter/son, wife/husband, mother/father, accept the present situation of your life, and accept the life and role responsibilities that these identities require you to perform peacefully or actively?
Your life or family is suffering. If these painful events begin to attract your attention, shift or even blame your identity and role (whether male or female), then your pain will be more painful, and more pain will come to you in the future.
The ability to make yourself happy is really not only achieved by money and worldly success. If a person does not integrate well with himself and reach the same level, especially the sexual part (from physiological characteristics to psychological gender to social identity and role, etc.). ), doomed to bad life.
Although sex education is not the only answer to a happy life, it is a very important part.
4. Sexual behavior is ethical and does not harm others.
Sexual assault has undoubtedly caused serious harm to others, which is not only immoral, but also touches the law.
Sperm go to the brain, power or momentum oppresses people, ignores the will and requirements of others, and forcibly touches others to satisfy their own desires. They don't know how to respect the opposite sex, and they don't regard each other as flesh and blood, thoughts, activities, pains and demands.
As for sex, it is even more nonsense for them to ask for each other's consent and respect each other's wishes.
Sexual behavior beyond ethical norms, such as mother-child sexual behavior that "does not harm others" and sexual behavior between father, daughter, brothers and sisters, is immoral.
Humans have passed the chaotic mixed-race era of ignoring blood relationship in the early days, and the so-called sexual behavior without reproductive will and beyond blood relationship is also true love-pure nonsense.
There are many reasons why ethics is out of control in a specific situation, but in the end it is inevitably dominated by animal instinct and intellectual ignorance.
5. Being able to feel happy and good about yourself sexually.
As the initiator, men are dominant.
On the question of whether or not to have sex, most women mainly need men. Although they have no need at all, it's hard to say.
Either it is mainly euphemistic suggestion, and compared with men in sexual self-pleasure, it is also awkward and wants to refuse to rest.
The lack of scientific sexual knowledge has also created a large number of sensitive men, such as measuring their skills by the standard of female orgasm, and relaxing sex has become a tense battlefield for self-proof.
Sex is no longer a blend of soul and body, but a work task. If there is a slight deficiency in the operation process, you will be anxious. Once you feel bad about yourself, frustration will lead to sexual dysfunction.
In the sexual body, women lack the ability of self-pleasure.
Merchants' incitement: not beautiful enough, not sexy enough, trying to catch up with perfection. From skin care products to plastic surgery, to women's markets such as private plastic surgery and private powder, what is the reaction behind this?
Women's anxiety constantly depends on "modifying themselves" to make themselves happy and keep a good feeling.
It is understandable to pursue beauty, but in the process of pursuing beauty, many women have lost their self-esteem and self-confidence that make them feel happy.
Of course, this is also lost from adolescence or even earlier.
6. Be able to make responsible decisions about sex and sexual behavior.
Impulsive sex that is not controlled by the lower body,
Don't try dangerous sex easily,
Don't change partners easily and frequently.
It is not easy to have a one-night stand,
It is not easy to have unprotected sex,
Be considerate of sex.
There are more people who can be responsible in sexual behavior, so the risks: unplanned pregnancy, induced abortion, sexually transmitted diseases and AIDS will be greatly reduced.
7. Be able to know where to get scientific and healthy sexual information and help, and communicate effectively on the problem.
Regarding doubts about sex, children know how to answer doubts and can identify the validity and scientificity of information. Know how to communicate with professionals or teachers, parents and friends who can provide effective help.
When you grow up, you can also talk about this topic, understand the sexual attitudes, sexual physiological characteristics and sexual preferences of both parties in advance, and promote the harmony of sexual activities.
When sexual life is not harmonious, you can also communicate and discuss with a normal attitude to make both sides more satisfied.
Sex plays a very important role in marriage and love. Harmonious sex is a lubricant, which makes the relationship more integrated, while disharmonious sex will make the relationship more tense.
The disharmony between husband and wife in the family will easily lead to chain events, and the probability of extramarital affairs and divorce rate will be higher, which will cause family instability and have a negative impact on children's personality, interpersonal relationship and future sexual relationship. At this time, the seeds of disaster will be sown for the next generation. ...
If you have achieved all the above seven points, congratulations. I believe that even if you don't know how to tell your children about sex education, your words and deeds have conveyed some healthy sexual knowledge and attitudes to your children through immersion.
At the same time, your life happiness index is definitely higher than those who fail to meet the standards. If you want to ask, why come to this conclusion?
That's because people who are satisfied with sex (not just sex life) will inevitably put this beautiful feeling into their lives and show more love and tolerance, and will not easily generate resentment and negative energy.
In this way, how can life not feel happy?