My daughter-in-law had a baby in the past few days and encountered a strange incident. I don’t know if it’s because I’m ignorant or if it’s just like this in public hospitals. Let me tell you what happened in the past few days.
My daughter’s prenatal check-up after pregnancy was all normal, and she met the indications for natural delivery, so she planned to give birth naturally. After the attack on the 22nd, I was admitted to the obstetrics department of the municipal hospital in the early morning of the same day. After 24 hours of labor pain, the cervix was dilated by one finger. Because the uterine contractions were weak, after 6 hours of intravenous infusion of oxytocin on the 24th, the cervix was dilated by half a finger, nearly. After 48 hours of pain, my daughter was very weak and unable to eat and rest normally. In desperation, she asked for a caesarean section. A baby boy was delivered by caesarean section at 11 o'clock in the evening. It was already past 12 o'clock in the morning on the 25th when mother and child returned to the ward. Because we invited the confinement nanny in advance, the confinement nanny came early in the morning on the 25th, and the baby and mother were left in the care of the confinement nanny. The confinement nanny was very considerate. The mother could not get up because of the surgery, so that the baby could eat. Mom's first mouthful of milk made the confinement nanny's hands so tired that they were covered in sweat. In the afternoon, the baby still didn't know how to eat, and the confinement sister was very anxious. I comforted her: Don't be anxious, the baby is only a day old, it will get better slowly. At night, the baby can take a mouthful of breast milk. Because the mother had a caesarean section, she could not eat until she had no gas and could only drink water, so the milk was very little. The baby would cry after a few mouthfuls without milk, and it was not good to eat. So she had to give it first The confinement sister-in-law was always worried about eating milk powder, so I kept comforting her.
The baby was still like this the next day, always only taking a few mouthfuls of breast milk. Just when we were anxious, a woman came to the ward. She was wearing different clothes than the nurse. She didn't say what she did. When she came, she asked about the baby's feeding status. We thought she was a nurse. After all, we lived there. It's a public hospital, so I told her truthfully that the baby was not very good at breastfeeding. She immediately took my baby to my mother's place to teach her how to breastfeed. However, the baby still started crying after only a few mouthfuls. She held the baby to comfort her, and we Generally, children will be put on the bed or in a stroller if they don't cry. They are afraid that the child will develop the habit of being held by others and the mother will suffer in the future. This woman kept holding the child. When the child stopped crying, she would play with it for about ten minutes. I told him to put the child down, otherwise he would develop a habit and not be able to put it down in the future. The woman was unhappy at that time, put down the child and said: I'm leaving. The confinement sister-in-law said she would come back when nothing happened, but others said she would never come again. To be honest, I was confused at the time because I didn’t know what was going on, so I didn’t pay attention to what she said.
On the third day, that is, at noon the day after the baby was born, the ward door opened and two more women came in. They looked like nurses in their clothes, but they were different from the nurses who did rounds every day. They were different from the nurses on the first day. The woman who came was also different. I didn't notice the badge on her chest. I was just thinking about the hospital. No matter what she wore, she was still a nurse! When these two women came in, they also asked about the baby's feeding situation. I was very touched at the time and felt that the nurse was too responsible. We didn't even ask for help, but they took the initiative to help us. After I heard that the baby was not feeding well, I immediately took the baby to the mother to teach the baby how to breastfeed. At this time, I realized that something was wrong, because everyone knows that doctors and nurses cannot wear jewelry or make-up when working, but this woman Not only was she wearing makeup, but she also had a strong perfume smell on her body. At that time, I had doubts in my heart. While teaching the child to breastfeed, this woman told us: You should find a professional teacher to teach the child to breastfeed. Milk. I said we have a confinement nanny, and she said: Well, this confinement nanny is not professional. Do you want to hire a professional? I said: The baby is only two days old, and he will be fine in two days. She said: You can't do this. The child won't be able to eat milk, it will cause hypoglycemia, it will be dangerous, etc. These words were said in front of my confinement sister-in-law. In fact, the confinement nanny hired by my family is very good. She is very caring about the baby and the mother. She is also very serious. Every time she teaches the baby to breastfeed, she is covered in sweat. To be honest, I tried it and the most unbearable thing is The waist is always arched. So when she said that, I was a little unhappy. After a few mouthfuls, the baby stopped eating because the mother didn't have much milk and started to cry. I took the baby and gave it to the confinement sister-in-law and asked her to give the baby milk powder. The two women handed my daughter a brochure and said there was a phone number on it and she could call them if needed. Only then did I realize that they were not nurses, but an organization that specialized in serving babies and mothers.
Having said that, everyone must think that this is a good thing. They don’t charge any fees and they come to solve your problem specifically. Why are you unhappy? Then I will tell you why I am unhappy. We live in a single ward just to have some privacy. Before the doctors and nurses come in, they will knock on the door or use a call bell to notify us that they are coming for treatment or infusion, so that we can prepare in advance, but they, that is, I say Members of a third-party agency that specializes in serving babies and mothers, they just opened the door and walked in. They didn't identify themselves or explain their services when they came in. Instead, they came in as nurses. One woman even said that the head nurse told them My baby was not breastfeeding, so I asked her to come and see her. Sometimes when the mother was changing her underwear, they would come right in, which made people very embarrassed. Because they said the head nurse asked them to come, so when I was discharged from the hospital today, after completing the procedures, my daughter asked the nurse at the nursing station where the opinion sheet was. The nurse asked if she was dissatisfied. My daughter said she would file a complaint against the third party, including the head nurse. Because they barged into the ward without permission, she felt uncomfortable, and because they did not ask for their services, their attitude was very bad.
Then the nurse at the nursing station immediately contacted the dean and the head nurse. Soon, the head nurse came with the few people who barged into our ward that day. I asked the head nurse, are they nurses in the hospital? Answer: No. Then asked: Did you ask them to come? Answer: No, if there is a problem, she will ask the nurse to come. If the patient needs it, the nurse will take care of it. So I asked: Since he was not a nurse from the hospital, nor was he asked by the head nurse, why did he just break into the ward without our permission, without knocking on the door, without identifying himself or the services he provided, without asking the patient? Is it necessary to do it without the patient's consent? How fragile are newborn babies? Would it be bad for the baby if they put on heavy makeup and do it directly? If something goes wrong, should we go to the hospital or them? Moreover, they had a bad attitude because they did not accept their services. Based on our trust in public hospitals, we will not doubt the uniformed people who appear in the wards. However, their words and deeds seriously affected our mood. Yesterday, we saw some of them and When the patient's family quarreled, the patient thought they were nurses in the hospital, so he didn't dare to offend them too much. When we come to the hospital to give birth, we receive services from the hospital’s medical staff. We do not and do not want to receive services from third parties other than medical care. They exist in the hospital, so should we identify ourselves as soon as possible after entering the ward? If the patient needs it, we can further discuss the services that can be provided. If not, can we not disturb the patient again and again? After hearing my question, the head nurse kept apologizing to us and said that they would take this issue seriously.
In fact, I really didn’t make a fuss about this issue. When my daughter said she wanted to complain at the nursing station, many nurses said that they were also annoyed by that group of people. Some patients had also complained, but they were written directly in the comments. It was on the books, causing them to have their wages deducted.
I write down what I have encountered in the past few days because I feel that this matter should attract everyone's attention. Don't think that all those in uniforms are hospital nurses. In fact, this is a kind of business. It is different. What's more, they use the name of the hospital to make patients endure their bad attitude, which feels like a forced sale. If you accept their services, they will greet you with a smile. If you don't accept, they will look at their cold faces. We went to the hospital to see a doctor, but ended up getting upset. We didn’t know what was going on. We thought the hospital was just like this. In fact, the doctors and nurses in the hospital were very good, patient, meticulous, and gentle. If it hadn’t been like this A strange thing, the arrival of new life makes people very happy.
Finally, let me tell you that my baby is already able to breastfeed on his own, and he eats very well. There is no nipple confusion as they say. Breastmilk, a bottle, a spoon, whatever is given to him, and he is very easy to carry. , and there are no symptoms of hypoglycemia as they said. He is a very healthy little boy [laughing and crying] [laughing and crying] [laughing and crying] [laughing and crying] I didn’t take breast milk well before, just because I was too young and had too little breast milk. . Therefore, mothers should not believe too much in the propaganda of some organizations. Every baby is different, so you can’t just follow a script and take care of your baby according to the actual situation.