Parents may also find that their adolescent daughter's appetite has obviously deteriorated. I spend a lot of time looking in the mirror every day, and gradually I don't even go to the dinner table.
I spend a lot of time standing in front of the mirror when I get up every day. There is always a small mirror in my schoolbag and pocket. Along with her daughter's weight loss, there is also academic performance.
Body shape has always been the focus of attention of women. From adolescence, women will pay more attention to their appearance.
Attention within the normal range can help you build a good social image and make yourself more attractive;
But excessive attention will affect your physical and mental health.
These people who pay too much attention to their appearance are often unaware of their outstanding appearance, and even paranoid that a certain part or a certain weight of themselves is abnormal.
When they have such cognitive bias, they will start dieting. And unhealthy dieting can lead to anorexia nervosa. Or they are dissatisfied with a certain part of their appearance, so all their attention will be projected on this part.
There is a white-collar woman in Europe. One day, she felt that a male colleague suddenly looked at her strangely. She thinks her breasts are too big.
This made her very upset. She tried to put on a corset and try to reduce her bust by losing weight, but the effect was not satisfactory.
Because of her big breasts, she tries her best to make her breasts look smaller every day. At work, she is often afraid that her breasts will attract the attention of others, which makes her very uncomfortable.
Finally, at noon, she went out of the company and bought a salad for lunch. When passing a car, she wanted to see if her breasts were too big through the reflection of the window. But at this glance, I saw that everyone in the car was staring at her chest.
It made her almost breathless, and she couldn't go back to work. With anxiety and self-loathing, she went directly to the plastic surgery hospital and asked for breast reduction surgery.
The plastic surgeon refused her and vowed to tell her: "Your chest is completely normal, and you don't need breast reduction surgery."
The doctor's refusal made her feel desperate. At home, she stood in front of the bathroom mirror and looked at her breasts over and over again. She couldn't stand this torture any longer, so she picked up a razor to shave and cut her breasts repeatedly. ...
In psychological diagnosis, this is called: body deformation disorder.
People with this psychological disorder will pay too much attention to their appearance, look in the mirror repeatedly, and repeatedly confirm their appearance problems with others.
For example: Are you too fat? Is your nose crooked? Do you have any problems with your eyes?
Although they will repeatedly confirm with others, they will stubbornly think that what others say is just out of politeness or hypocrisy. She will automatically deny the encouragement and support given by others and continue to insist that there is something wrong with her appearance.
Therefore, if your girlfriend only occasionally asks you some "sending propositions", it may just be a seasoning in love.
But if your girlfriend has the following conditions, you should pay attention to whether it is a physical deformation disorder:
First of all, I have an exaggerated perception of my image.
In other words, the weight or part image that is completely normal in our eyes is different in her eyes.
They will evaluate their body shape according to their dysfunctional way, not what they look like in reality.
Just like anorexics, in our opinion, they have become "thin". But in their own eyes, they are too fat to look straight in the mirror.
This is a physical problem.
Second, the resulting emotional pain.
Because they firmly believe that there is something wrong with their appearance, they often feel depressed, sad, self-loathing, afraid, worried, anxious and fearful, and their brains are full of negative thoughts.
When they get along with others, they feel uncomfortable and often try to cover up the body parts that they think are problematic.
When they are alone, they will feel more comfortable in the dark. They prefer to go out at night, because it can reduce the chance of contact with people.
Third, ask people's looks repeatedly.
They don't like to trust other people's comfort, so they seldom ask others directly.
They will wisely choose some topics to arouse your opinions and comments.
For example, they will be keen to discuss topics such as liposuction, plastic surgery and hair transplant. Because they will try to trigger each other's evaluation of their own image through these related topics.
Why do they suffer from body deformation?
First, this is a kind of self-denial.
We all want to be a charming and attractive person, which will help us get a better social image and effect.
You can find those confident people who don't deliberately pursue appearance modification. But for people who are less confident, it may be due to appearance.
Zheng Shuang, a popular star, said frankly when she announced her breakup with Hans Zhang: "I broke up unilaterally. We didn't discuss it, which may also be where I am not confident. In the past, many people said that I only filmed with him, and I didn't achieve anything at work. When I have no job, I feel less and less confident, including my plastic surgery. I have a lot of negative emotions, and the other party is getting farther and farther away from me. "
Therefore, self-dissatisfaction will also be one of the incentives to induce physical deformation disorders.
Second, due to an event, there is a cognitive bias.
In The Legend of Mi Yue, a beautiful woman from Wei was presented to the King of Chu. She has a simple mind, silky hair and a charming and lovely face. The king of Chu liked it very much, so he snubbed the queen.
Queen Zheng Xiu is full of ideas. She cares about Wei Meili first and pretends to be close.
After gaining Wei's trust, he pretended to have a close conversation with Wei and said, "You are all right, but your nose is uncomfortable. One nostril is high and one nostril is low, which looks like it is long. "
Wei Xin thought it was true and quickly asked, "Your Majesty is coming tonight. What should I do?"
Zheng Xiu taught Wei, "Every time you see the king, cover your nose with a fan. So the king won't care, your nose is crooked. "
From then on, Wei covered his nose with a feather fan every time he saw the king.
King Wei ordered the fate: cut off her nose.
The reason is that the king of Chu stinks. When he saw Wei always covering his nose with a fan, he thought it was a beautiful woman who didn't like her bad smell. In a rage, he ruined the beauty's life.
Have the same thing as a body deformer. Once she decides that there is something wrong with a part of herself, she will always stare at it instead of observing her whole.
These two inducements that can induce physical deformation are difficult for me to adjust myself.
Because of self-acceptance and cognitive bias, they will stick to their own views.
Therefore, if you have such people around you, you can be more tolerant and understanding of them. They are not narcissism in the ordinary sense.
They are a group of people who need love and help.
When necessary, they can be advised to seek professional help, especially when they show signs of self-harm.