Text/Tao Xiaoyao
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Bai Baihe cheated on an 18-tier young model, and netizens were curious about her reason? Probably when hormones are rampant, emotions will defeat reason. After all, Bai Baihe is also an ordinary person. Men make the same mistakes as women.
In fact, there is no need to guess who is to blame? They are all married people, so don’t ask such childish questions. Who is to blame? Can a slap make a sound?
Arsene Wenger and Juli pointed out in "The Rules of Happy Marriage": In this world, even the happiest marriage will have 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 thoughts of strangling each other to death in a lifetime. .
Love is different from marriage. Love binds two people together, while marriage binds a group of people together. Family values ??and personality differences make it really difficult to stay together forever. Disaster. The reality is actually not that pessimistic. Many people who have gone to the end of their lives together say that happy families are similar. They understand, give in, and tolerate because of love. No matter how far the journey is, it will probably be easier.
No one needs to laugh at Bai Baihe from the highest moral point. Life is changing rapidly. You can guarantee that you are not the next Bai Baihe, article. Domestic cold violence is not much better than marital infidelity. Who is right and who is wrong? Time will give you the answer you want. The storm will always pass and life will go on.
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"Marriage is not easy, you have to do it and cherish it." This was Ma Yili's attitude after the article was derailed.
"Our family will support this man who dares to take responsibility, admit his mistakes and repent. Thanks to friends and fans for their concern, our family will stand together through thick and thin." This was the attitude of Lin Dan's wife Xie Xingfang after her affair.
Nowadays, "The Razor's Edge" starring Wen Zhang and Ma Yili at the same time has good ratings and occasionally captures moments of happiness. After the husband cheated on her, there was no divorce, no fighting between each other, that's how it should be for people to be both wise and foolish. Who says you have to clearly distinguish between right and wrong? Even if you bow your head and admit your mistake, the scars will still be there. It’s better to let go and move forward. It's not cowardice, it's letting yourself go.
Lin Dan won the championship in the Malaysian Open. His wife posted on Weibo: "Concentrate on it, no distracting thoughts, the original you is back." This is Xie Xingfang's official statement that she chose to forgive Lin Dan after his cheating. People who don’t take things too seriously to watch the excitement should be very disappointed. Where is the bloody drama that was promised? Why did it end? The gap between public opinion and reality is here. If you are not Xie Xingfang, how can you understand her feelings.
To forgive or to divorce, this is a question worth pondering. Someone once asked me: "What would you do if your husband cheated on you?" Before I had children, I replied: "If you don't divorce, we can't divorce each other." Tortured until death.” After having children, I said: "Divorce, divorce firmly, and find your own happiness." Everyone didn’t understand my idea and asked, shouldn’t it be the opposite? , you already have children, so why bother? That's right, it's because you have children that you have to let go decisively. You can't let your wrong marriage affect your children's view of love. Because I am a person who cannot tolerate sand in my eyes, so why bother pretending to be generous and suffering in my heart!
So, no matter what choice you make, you must respect your true inner thoughts. If you forgive, let go completely; if you can't accept it, break up completely. We are all adults, and there is no need for you to pretend to be generous, deceive the other person, or compromise. Life is a long time, and I’m afraid that the strength you pretend to be is not able to withstand the wind and rain.
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No one is the ideal partner, but you meet the right person at the right time.
Everyone always envies the marriage of their fathers, and the marriage lasts till old age. But no one reflects on how much they have persisted in marriage. When they fall in love, it is not you who will marry, or it is not you who will not marry. Some people even risk making enemies of the whole world in order to get married, disown all their relatives, and respond to the "I love you" vow in various ways. When you don't love each other, you will fight against each other, even more decisively than strangers. Could it be that the show of affection back then was just a slap in the face for the current inseparable people?
I admire those who are decisive and rational in marriage, such as Faye Wong. She is either in the joy of marriage or on the road to divorce, but have you seen who she hates and blames? Now I am still happily dating Nicholas Tse, just like an 18-year-old girl. I still treat my exes politely and do not love or hate them.
If you love me, please love me deeply, if you don’t love me, please leave me. Everyone understands this truth, but not everyone can do it. Things in the world cannot be determined by right or wrong. It involves too many human relationships, love and hatred, so a happy marriage cannot become a template. Let’s put it aside. There everyone follows suit.
There are as many forms of love as there are people. I believe that 99.9% of marriages are headed for happiness. But there are too many side roads. If you are unwilling to accommodate or feel wronged, you can only part ways. Parting, we are on our way.
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Netizens are speculating on how Chen Yufan and Bai Baihe manage crisis public relations. Some people say that as long as they are divorced, it is not considered cheating and it is understandable that they are in a normal relationship. As a result, they actually publicly admitted that they had agreed to divorce in 2015. This angered many netizens, who felt that the divorce was not public and deceiving the public. The feeling is that no matter what, the sin is serious and unforgivable.
I guess Miss Bai is on the verge of crying now!
Some people say that they do not disclose it because of interests. The products and brands endorsed by Ms. Bai all focus on happiness. But from a mother's perspective, I prefer to believe that they are for the children. Even if there is no love, you can still pretend to love each other for the sake of your children. In real life, many parents wait until their children graduate from college before telling them that they have divorced.
Protecting children has nothing to do with interests. This is the belief of every parent. Why should we be so serious and lump these things together? To put it simply, this is someone else's private matter. For us, it is not necessary to push a person to the point of no return when talking about it after dinner.
No matter from what angle you are paying attention to this matter, please stop adding fuel to public opinion. You are not someone else and will never feel the same way. There is no right or wrong in marriage. When criticizing others, think more about the troubles and trivial matters in your own marriage. Maybe you will understand the suffering of others.
If you were to rank the difficulty of all things, I think running a marriage would be at the top of the list. If you are happily married, you will live like a poet; if you are unhappy, you will live like a philosopher. Black and white are obviously not suitable for marriage. Marriage is an experiential activity where sensibility is greater than rationality. It has no scientific basis. Right and wrong cannot define the happiness of marriage.
They say marriage is like shoes, you know whether they fit or not. But every new pair of shoes is a little rough on the feet at the beginning. We can't just throw them away the first time. We always have to give them a chance to run them in before we know whether they are really suitable.
There are multiple choices for everything, and the same is true for marriage. You cannot compromise for the sake of worldly moral standards. Directing your own life drama well is the most important thing. As for which one is right or wrong, time will tell you the answer.