I remember the title of an article: A person is young and beautiful because of kindness. This is certainly true, but my personal experience is that a person is young and beautiful not only because of kindness, but also because he can reconcile with himself, others and the world.
If you have seen the queen in the palace, you must remember the innocence and beauty on her face when she first entered the palace. That kind of beauty can't be concealed. Finally came to power, she had power and status, but unfortunately, her beauty was gone. What we see is a pair of big knife-shaped eyebrows and a pair of sharp eyes. Laws and Sichuan characters are full of anger, resentment and cruelty. That ugliness can't be concealed by any cosmetics or power.
? Why was she beautiful when she first entered the palace? Because in her eyes, the world is kind and beautiful, and so is her heart and face. Later, after the vicissitudes of the world, people and things in the past formed an unbreakable knot in their hearts, so in order to turn it upside down, they could not get along with themselves, people around them and even the world. Always be vigilant, always be careful, always calculate, and all kinds of desires and hatred are scattered on that face. The face is still the same face, no wrinkles, no wrinkles, but no beauty. This is probably the most intuitive textbook for women to become ugly.
I am glad that my son and I have taken different paths.
? I went for a massage, and the masseur rubbed my strong calf and chatted with me.
? "Look at your muscles, you should have a strong personality!"
I was shocked at that time: can this be seen?
He said: of course, the softer a person's personality, the softer his muscles; The more stubborn, the harder it is.
Well, he's right. I have been very competitive since I was a child. High school classmate, I haven't seen him for more than 20 years. At that time, I said: If you wear a pigtail, your neck will be crooked and no one will accept it! This character lasted for 40 years.
? Because I want to be strong and bite the top, I have been in a state of struggle with myself and others. But I didn't know its harm to myself and others until the graduate alumni reunion at the end of one year. A schoolmate told me: Sister, have you been a little nervous about your interpersonal relationship this year? But it will be fine next year. I know this junior knows a little about the Book of Changes, but I'm still surprised. When I went home and looked in the mirror, I found my face a little ferocious for the first time. My facial lines are as hard as a knife, my eyes are as sharp as a sword, and I am ambitious and unattainable. I finally know: phase, really from the heart.
I began to reflect on myself? . I began to observe the way people around me deal with problems, began to understand that there are * * * wins in life besides competition, and began to see the advantages of others that I didn't see before; I began to slow down, stop criticizing myself and accept that I was not the first. ...
? So, I find myself always carrying label paper with me, measuring others with my own values, and then labeling others according to my own preferences, and every time I label them, the world is divided. When I evaluate this person's ugliness, the world is divided into ugly and beautiful camps; When evaluating why that person is so selfish, the world is divided into two camps: selfish and selfless; It is foolish to judge that man. When I made this choice, the world was divided into two camps, the smart and the stupid. In short, the world is divided according to my personal standards. If someone happens to be labeled negatively by me, I will deny it in my heart and write disdain and even hostility on my face.
And when I slowly put down the label and separation, I suddenly found that the most interesting animal in the world is human. When you look at them with curiosity and appreciation, you will find that everyone is so cute and interesting, and everyone is ok. I especially like to look into other people's eyes, because if you stare carefully, everyone's eyes are beautiful, and they are all clear and blue lakes.
Therefore, I am also glad to find that the best teachers in the world are the people around me. Everyone teaches you something different, and every friction and conflict is a reminder. In the past, I would blame others for the conflict, but today I will reflect on my own problems. I will regard every friction and conflict as a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to see myself clearly and understand others in the conflict.
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? Maturity really has nothing to do with age. Always love yourself, willful. It was not until I suffered that I began to understand others gradually. However, it is not too late. In the process of reconciliation with myself, people around me and the world, I constantly soften myself, accept others and be accepted by others. The lines on the face are getting softer and softer, and the eyes are no longer so sharp. I am also delighted to find that beauty has come.
? So, really, external beauty is just a by-product of inner change. Instead of spending money on plastic surgery, it is better to tidy up a heart. If you have a big mind, the world will be big; When the world is big, the eyebrows will stretch; The brow is stretched and the face is beautiful!
This kind of beauty is not that the eyes have become bigger and the nose has become stiff, but that the five senses have returned to their proper positions, staying comfortable, not twisting, not awkward, and feeling happy at first sight. What is beauty? Beauty is a pleasant feeling. So when your face looks happy, the viewer can naturally have a wonderful experience.
So, it's as simple as this: when you live in peace with yourself, others and the world, beauty will be everywhere!
I'm not a model, I'm just an ordinary person. I just want to use this article to encourage middle-aged women. I hope that when we look in the mirror, we can all smile and say to ourselves: You are getting better and better!
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