However, with the help of mirrors, photos and even reflections, we can see ourselves clearly. Mirrors, in particular, reflect our own appearance most intuitively. If you find yourself good-looking, you can't help but look at it more; If you feel ugly, you will hate looking in the mirror, and even be afraid to look in the mirror.
In the crowd, a large proportion of people are afraid to look in the mirror. Why? Just because they're not pretty? In fact, the reason is not that simple, and there is a deeper mystery hidden inside.
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1, it is not human instinct to look in the mirror. We observe the world more by observing others.
People have been observing external things since birth. Babies have no concept of "self". They are more like observers. Parents and close people are their second "placenta". They need milk and protection. At this time, they don't want to know how to distinguish their own needs from those of others.
When we grow up, we gradually realize that we have a "self", and then we can know who we are, what our name is, who our parents are and what we look like. Then, I got to know myself with the help of a mirror. However, many times, we have too few opportunities to see this "self" and much more opportunities to see others.
2. Our positioning and shaping of self is actually formed through interaction with others and the image of others.
Without a mirror (this is the vast majority of cases), although we feel the existence of our own bodies, we can only define ourselves, shape ourselves and adjust ourselves through interaction with others. Therefore, the attitude of others towards us largely determines our evaluation of "ourselves". For example, if others praise us for being good-looking, we will believe and accept this definition. On the other hand, they subconsciously plant the conclusion that they are not good-looking, and even they are actually good-looking but feel that they are not good-looking.
At the same time, we not only inherited the looks of our parents, but also added other people's images to our imagination, enriching our subjective image. Especially in childhood, people who have a great influence on us, even if they are not our relatives, will be written into our brains imperceptibly.
The self we imagined and imitated, though an illusion, was deeply attracted by us.
Surprisingly, most people rarely imagine their true looks. On the contrary, the self that appears in our brain is another self that has been "packaged", even a self that is completely different from our own gender, age and appearance. For example, people who want to be transsexual think they are people of another sex, but their reflection in the mirror makes them miserable. There is also idolatry, that is, "groupies", and even fantasize that they look exactly like the people they worship. People who play leaders or gods in film and television dramas, after a long time, will look and behave like imitators, that is, "enter the play."
This shows that our "self" image is actually unstable. Although the mirror reminds us repeatedly and tells us what we really look like, obviously, this is not what we really want.
4. The "self" in the mirror subverts our inner self.
Mirror, to a certain extent, destroys our understanding of "self", at the same time, the time we look in the mirror is obviously lower than the time we daydream. Therefore, our choice is, of course, more willing to accept our imagined self-image.
Those who have undergone sex change or plastic surgery have improved the conflict of self-cognition through this means, but they are still disappointed when they go to the camera again. Therefore, those friends who want to have sex change or plastic surgery, you must be careful, because what you finally see in the mirror may not be what you originally thought.
5. "ego" is more our imagination than our real existence.
The concept of "self" does not really exist, but our persistent delusion of parting.
Sometimes, a person's appearance often appears in our minds, and I believe most people have this experience. This person is a "stranger", but you know it's yourself. Especially in dreams, you will find this more clearly. When you are awake, you also imagine yourself as someone else. So, you are afraid to look in the mirror because you think you are imagining things?
But judging from the "particle entanglement" discovered by modern science and the "reincarnation" theory confirmed by ancient philosophy and religion, you are not imagining it out of thin air, but have a basis. This foundation is what you have been like in this world for generations, or it is the superimposed image of countless "selves". In other words, the "self" you imagined in your mind is the self you used to be.
However, whether you have past lives or not, whether you have countless past lives, whether you are handsome, beautiful, ugly, immortal or ghost, these are not the real you! Because the real "self" has no image, and the so-called "appearance" is only a temporary thing that is conjured up in our hearts.
You can look at the mirror by visualization. Imagine what this face will look like in a hundred years. Which part of your face, eyes, nose and lips, really belong to you? Modern medicine has been able to transplant human organs. Once these parts are transplanted to others, are they still yours? In the same way, the "self" you imagined in your mind, the "self" you saw in your dream, and even the "self" in your previous life will disappear sooner or later, just like dreams.
6. The real "self" needs to be seen with your inner mirror.
People who meditate can see their true selves if they work hard. This self is our true nature. It has no specific shape and appearance, and no worldly desires. It is as pure and sincere as a baby. It will never die, and it has no beginning or end.
This self can also be said to be the soul, and our body is just the house where the soul lives. We should cherish our bodies and pay attention to our appearance. After all, we need to make this our home, and of course we need to take care of our home. However, no matter how good the house is, it is not our real master after all. Those who try their best to torture their faces because they love beauty, or who dare not look in the mirror because they dislike the ugliness of this "house" are really wrong.
If you think you don't look good in the mirror, what you need to do is actually change your heart. Ask yourself a few questions:
(1) Do you see innocence and kindness, or doubt, greed and obsession?
The eyes are the windows to the soul. The right heart is the right eye. There has always been good thoughts in my heart, and my eyes are naturally clear.
(2) Is your face black?
Your expression shows how much you cherish yourself. People who often stay up late will turn black. People who are often depressed have a black face. Your face is yellow and blue. It may not be malnutrition, but eating too much, and the burden on the stomach is too heavy. Face reflects a person's inner quality.
(3) Do you hate yourself in the mirror? Why?
You hate yourself in the mirror, mostly because the gap between this "self" and your ideal "self" is too big. So, why are there these gaps? Most of it is your words and deeds, and your thoughts can't meet your standards. So why don't you try to change yourself and become the person you want?
We all have a mirror in our hearts, but unfortunately many people are covered by various desires. We like to compare ourselves with others, envy their looks, and envy their free and easy. However, what changes our appearance and image is not cosmetic surgery at all, but your heart!
The heart is like a mirror, which can see everything and change everything! It's not enough to fantasize about your beautiful appearance. You need to imprint your ideal self in your heart, take your heart as a mirror, and always correct your words and deeds, even your expression, so that you can break through yourself and achieve yourself!
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The last thing a person dares to face is himself! You in the mirror reflect your inner appearance at this moment. How many people dare to face their hearts?
The phase is born from the heart, and the phase changes from the heart. Heart changes, everything changes!