There is never a lack of "foolish filial piety" in daily life. Children can't disobey their parents' orders even if their elders interfere with their life choices. This is the most common filial piety, and I don't forget to label it "sensible". Its essence is that you can't be the master of your own life, which is directly manifested as uncomfortable life.
Filial piety causes such harm to marriage, which often leads to unhappy marriage and an increase in divorce rate. This is the case with "Ma Baonan", and women are not uncommon. The disharmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also caused by ignorance and filial piety to some extent, which is mostly manifested in the contradiction and swing of the man's position.
How many infatuated children have been separated and turned into marriage with partners. The word "engaged" does nothing but harm to Liang Zhu. "Peacock flies southeast" records that Jiao Mu drove away his daughter-in-law, and Liu Mu forced her to get married, so that both husband and wife died. Chai Feng Red Crispy Hands is a household name, but it is a portrayal of Lu You's sad love. He was forced to leave the Tang family because of his mother's orders. It is a sad and helpless regret to meet again.
Liang Zhu's Tragedy
The idea of foolish filial piety is also a powerful tool for modern youth to be kidnapped by morality. Taking "no offspring is the biggest" as the reason is an invisible arbitrary intervention in marriage and childbirth. With the progress of social thought, today's young people do not think that having children is a compulsory course in life.
2. Analysis of the harm of ignorance and filial piety.
In addition to the harm in love and marriage, ignorance of filial piety will also lead to other adverse effects. The first is the ideological influence. Unfamiliar is an extreme cultural phenomenon. Among them, the most popular reading is Twenty-four Filial Pieties compiled by Guo in Yuan Dynasty, which was later drawn by Wang and spread to the world. Although there are real events, there are also exaggerated myths and some superstitions or ignorance.
Emperor Wen of the Han Dynasty tasted the thin queen mother for three years, safe and sound? Martin is full of blood for his father, which is unbearable. Guo Ju buried his son as a gift from his mother, which was not only inhuman, but also full of superstition. Mr. Lu Xun said directly in the article "Twenty-four Filial Pieties", "Not only do I dare not want to be a dutiful son again, but I am afraid that my father will be a dutiful son. Then, isn't it me who should be buried? " Some stories not only brought ignorance and fear, but also aroused his strong disgust.
Ancient "Twenty-four Filial Pieties"
Summarize the performance of foolish filial piety, including: 1. Absolute blind obedience to parents, such as betrothal, dare not fight for life choices; 2. Worrying too much about parents' situation, such as crying bamboo shoots, worrying about eating shit and breaking stocks; 3. Expectations for parents, regardless of the cost, such as baili rice and lying on the ice for carp fish; 4. Show filial piety at the expense of health. If a loved one dies, and the children don't cry and come forward, others will feel that they are not remembered enough and unfilial.
In addition, other hazards are also obvious. 1. leads to the degradation of self-thinking, lacking autonomy and action; 2. Let the lover be wronged and lack understanding of the position of others; 3. Some stupid filial behaviors can cause diseases and even endanger life; 4. Excessive sadness affects people's spiritual will; 5, always with the idea of filial piety or mourning, thinking and wasting time;
6, only care about the grief of parents' death, which affects their work and children's education, and may also ignore other social responsibilities they should bear; 7. Affect fertility, such as Gu Jie's loss of his wife as recorded in "Northern History"; 8. It is inevitable to carry out utilitarian behavior with a destination and form an atmosphere of comparison, such as "fostering filial piety" in the Han Dynasty, comparing filial piety with each other and helping the cause with filial piety; 9. The overall social and ethical imbalance.
3. The social enlightenment of foolish filial piety.
Foolish filial piety is not filial piety, but filial piety advocated by Confucius and Mencius, which prevailed in Song, Yuan, Ming and Qing Dynasties. According to historical records, the seeds of foolish filial piety were sown in the era of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, and then gradually deformed in later generations. Mr. Yi Zhongtian once said that it is indeed a bad thing for Korea to respect Confucianism alone. Although the modern filial piety culture has been transformed and adapted, and some traditional values have long been inconclusive, there are still some people in modern society, unknown so, who not only move out of Confucius and Mencius' filial piety at will, but also remain autocratic and absolute.
There is no danger of opinion.
People who always obey their parents completely are used to waiting for other people's opinions and will not achieve anything. If it is legal, reasonable, objective and convincing enough, you can certainly listen. But parents will get old one day, and they always have to face the world. Also, the most difficult thing in society is the emotional account. "It's all for your own good." "It's not easy to raise you." "I can't call you now?" Such things are often heard, even blindly asking for trouble. But I don't know, relatives also need a reasonable distance. As the dross of social ideology, foolish filial piety should be criticized and abandoned without hesitation.
The ancients said that everything that happens in the world is harmful. Kong Ziyun, it's too late. From the perspective of dialectics, the culture of foolish filial piety also embodies the truth that quantitative change causes qualitative change. If it is passed down without reservation or dialectically, it will only be counterproductive. The story of "Twenty-four Filial Pieties" has a good original intention and a happy ending, but its content and form are difficult to convince the public. China has a long history of civilization, so we can completely replace the backward cases of the birth of feudal society with better filial piety stories.
Be filial when you are old, not ignorant.
The harm caused by foolish filial piety deserves our deep thought and vigilance. Dialectically, don't misinterpret Confucius and Mencius' view of filial piety. Family and society are inseparable from filial piety, and we can't go too far. What we need to know and reflect on is to criticize the foolish filial piety, inherit the filial piety, dilute the concept of foolish filial piety and attach importance to the connotation of filial piety. Filial piety, as a basic kinship, can play its due contemporary value and promote the harmonious development of modern society.