Second, humor and even self-mockery are typical witty expressions, which honest people don't understand. A typical feature of honesty is humor and self-mockery. Honest people are generally slow and inarticulate. Look at those versatile people. They are neither masters of humor nor experts in self-mockery. Sometimes it seems like a joke, but it is actually a manifestation of super-high IQ. Sleek can be derogatory. The first step to change honesty is to make yourself humorous, make yourself happy and make everyone think you are an interesting person. So, don't guard your own territory all day. Make fun of everyone appropriately. When you encounter problems, you will have more brains. There are many things to deal with. Being in contact with people for a long time will improve the emotional intelligence of honest people a lot. Don't take other people's humor as a satire on yourself. If you don't change your attitude, you will really have to carry this pot for life.
Third, honest people don't know how to improvise. Sometimes in the workplace, it is typical to know how to be small and broad, and honest people cannot be flexible. Supervisors or leaders have this skill of getting ahead of others. When they are unsuccessful, they know how to make friends with key people in the company through various skills, such as going out to smoke and drink with everyone when they have nothing to do. It seems that smoking is actually to build relationships and set information, and honest people are not ashamed. Sometimes he gets shy when everyone asks him out. There is also an honest man, too real. Everyone likes to be amiable in the workplace, but honest people like to write their dissatisfaction and immaturity on their faces. The boss or supervisor criticized him this year. He wrote his grievances on his face, and sometimes even made a complaint or two. Your opponent saw it and told you all about it when he went out for dinner with the leader. What's the handle? Maybe you don't realize what the problem is. It is important for people in the workplace to be flexible and forbearing. There is nothing wrong with being honest and frank, an honest man, but never let frankness hurt yourself. The workplace is vanity fair, and everyone only knows the word fame and fortune. They will never forgive you for speaking bluntly, but will only use it as a tool to catch you. You see, your language and even some discordant details are all undercurrents that make you capsize. Do you understand now?
As the ancients said, a leopard cannot change his spots. A person's character is born. It's hard to completely change him? It can only be said that it is still possible to adjust yourself appropriately and change the habitual shortcomings. For example, introverts often have some or a little in their hearts: timidity, small inferiority and sensitivity. Will there be some or all of those shortcomings? Under the influence of negative emotions, the less confident and confident you are, the less willing you are to join in the fun in crowded places? I like being alone. But it is impossible not to talk at all and not to communicate with others.
After all, people belong to social animals. Business, work, other serious things, family, etc ... complicated things should be dealt with, and you should learn to contact, communicate and exchange feelings with people! Can I do it even if my normal language communication skills are not good? So try to learn like an extrovert! Learn their humorous and self-deprecating language skills.
The ancients said: 36 lines, each line is the champion! If you have a special field? As the saying goes, everything is not satisfactory. Assumption: there is an industry that can achieve the ultimate peak and will not lose to others. There is no good or bad personality. Extroverts deal with interpersonal relationships! Dealing with people in diplomacy will definitely have some advantages over introverts. But will independent thinking and research be worse than introverts? Because people have so much energy, they can't do everything. Everyone in the world has his weaknesses? We should learn to learn from each other's strengths and be good at covering up our shortcomings with our own strengths? Reach the balance of things. This is the highest state of being a man! If you can learn the level of extroverts' speaking ability, it is of course the best? But I really can't learn. If I don't have this talent or lack it, I don't need to be nervous or worried about it. Just relax and adjust your mind. The best way is to go. I am good at using my strengths, I am excellent! Let's learn from each other's strengths, cover up our own shortcomings, adopt balanced tactics, and let ourselves have a foothold in society! Will not lose to other ordinary people? But if you want to blend into the upper-class circles, you must put down your false inferiority complex, learn to be bold and cheeky, and learn from people who are stronger than yourself! Learn from their strengths, as the saying goes: the stones in the river will become more and more slippery after being washed away by floods for a long time, and no one is born that bad? Reaching a certain height is also a process of experience! Have you been exercising for a long time? Putin the Great himself once said that when he was young, he was also an introvert. In fact, there is no good or bad personality. As long as you study hard, you can reach the top. Like many great men at home and abroad, they all belong to introverted personality? As long as you have confidence in yourself, you can believe in yourself, and you can do what others can do, even better than them. There is no good or bad character, only good or bad? A smart person with introverted personality is called an inner show! Outgoing smart people are called extroverted shows! Introverts with unintelligent brains are called: honest, slow, slow and stubborn. Extroverts who are hard to think are called: crazy, mother-in-law, gossip and nonsense. Because they are extroverted, they talk nonsense and don't use their brains, so they are also annoying. There is no good or bad personality, the difference lies in the human brain …
Whether a person's personality is introverted or extroverted, whether he is suitable for communication or hard work, may be the evaluation given by others or his own experience. This also shows that there are no exactly the same two leaves in the world. People, too, will not be perfect, but they must have characteristics and personality.
And a person will realize different self in the constant knowledge acquisition, and some people feel that they are very powerful and can do anything; Some people feel that they can't do anything well. In fact, these are all self-knowledge and a process of self-discovery. It is extremely important to realize your own shortcomings and know your own weaknesses! The ancients said: Know yourself and know yourself, and you will be invincible. Knowing yourself first and then knowing yourself is enough to show that knowing yourself is the most important thing.
You think you are introverted, which may be your weakness. It's good to realize that. So, you can't fight with someone else's pike with your dagger. Shortboards exist, but can they be hidden?
It is undeniable that everyone has shortcomings, but equally, everyone has his own advantages. Some people concentrate on their work and can drill deep and well. Some people learn technology quickly and have a wide range of reception; Some people talk very interesting and can do anything. All by your own discovery and excavation. Maybe what you think is a common skill is very rare in others.
Introversion is a shortcoming, but it can be divided into several types: some have a lot to say to their close friends, but nothing to others; Some people are only familiar with their families, but they are depressed outside. Can you do different training according to different situations? Since you are more inclined to talk to people you know well, you should train yourself to treat strangers as them. Maybe, once you close your eyes, everyone is the same!
Many people often say: at first glance, that person is introverted. Why can you tell at a glance? Bow down? Whisper? You look weak when you walk? There are training methods for these. It is also an important direction to exercise your self-confidence. A person who is confident, believes in himself and believes in himself will not be afraid of anything. This is why there is a saying that confident people walk 30% faster than ordinary people.
For introverts, they may just lack a little self-confidence. What is the biggest performance of introversion? Not good at socializing. What is socialization? Is to communicate with many people and discuss other people's views. Then why not be good at it? I'm afraid to express my opinion. Why not? It is because I am not confident that my opinions are not worth communicating and can't be put on the table. So I just need to listen to other people's opinions. As a result, I became introverted.
So, what kind of work is it suitable for? If you are introverted, but you can challenge yourself, anything is suitable. If you are introverted and give up on yourself, you may not be able to do anything outstanding. Work is not determined by your personality alone, but also has a lot to do with people's growth and enterprising spirit.
If you meet a job you want to do now, the first condition is not to let "I am introverted, I can't adapt" overwhelm you. You don't know if you can do some work until you try. In fact, sometimes we just need to learn eloquence well.
If you have challenged my first suggestion and think it is not feasible, then I suggest that you can develop into a job that needs to withstand loneliness, such as technology and writing, and constantly improve your skills. When the technology reaches a certain level, others will take the initiative to find you.
I am an introvert myself, and I have tried to change, but when I try to live with other people's personalities, I still like my introverted personality. I still like a person most of the time. I also think that introversion and extroversion are the same, but their lifestyles are different, but we can learn from the advantages of extroversion.
Find a social expert you think you admire to learn, observe how they communicate, how to communicate, and observe and learn through small details in life.
Don't deny yourself when the opportunity comes. Only after practice will you know if you are suitable, so even if you fail, at least you won't regret it!