It is understandable to talk about bride price within a reasonable range, but it is doubtful if you want to make a fortune by bride price and treat the man as a fool.
It is normal for a well-off man to marry a daughter-in-law for a bride price. After all, for the rich, money can't solve anything, but for ordinary people, if you encounter such a high price as bride price, you can only miss it even if you love it again.
We are all adults. If you meet a man who can't afford the bride price and doesn't want to get married, find a man who can satisfy himself. Similarly, if the man thinks that the bride price paid by the other party is too high, stop the loss in time and find a woman with a low bride price.
In fact, there is no right or wrong in this matter itself, but the requirements of each other are different.
However, some people made a scene because of the bride price, and finally the two lovers turned against each other and even died of old age and lost their minds.
Reader awei has experienced the crush of bride price. Originally, he had made it clear that the bride price was too high, even if he fell in love again, he couldn't afford to marry, but the woman insisted on insisting and finally made her former lover an enemy. It's really hard. I put reader awei's message in a readme, which looks very convenient. Let's see what happened.
28-year-old awei readme:
I didn't expect this to happen to me. After all, she and I started dating on campus. I thought that as long as two people love each other, they can overcome all difficulties. I didn't expect us to break up because of the bride price.
Looking back on how pure we were when we were in love at school, our feelings were always good, and our living expenses were not much when we were studying at school, but at that time, a cup of milk tea and a hot pot could make us very happy. After graduation season, we decided to get married with a license.
We met each other's parents. His parents have a good impression of me and think I am a plastic genius. Parents also have a good impression on her and think she is an understanding girl.
We all belong to an ordinary family. By contrast, my conditions are better than hers. My family has two houses in the city and her family is in the countryside, but our family has never abandoned her. My mother often tells me:
"You must be kind to other girls. Although they are all rural, good character is the most important thing. You can't look down on her. "
In fact, even if my mother doesn't charge me, I'm obedient to her. I always thought her family was poor and suffered a lot. I couldn't help her before, but I will try to make up for it in the future.
And it's only natural that I should be so kind to her. Her home is in the countryside. I think it's good that they get married and the family won't put forward any exaggerated conditions.
At that time, I will surprise her by marrying her on terms that exceed their expectations. I was naive at that time and thought she would be moved.
Sadly, before I could show it, I was scared by what she said.
I always thought that the bride price was only about 6,543,800 yuan, which could be solved with a sum of money. I didn't expect her to give me a "bride price list" directly. It was not until she handed me the paper that I lamented the trouble of getting married!
Her bride price list includes not only money, but also many other items. The details are as follows:
First, buy a suite in full. No in-laws can participate after marriage. Only the two of us can live. Then we must have more than 200,000 scooters. The bride price is200,000. He must also give his parents 65438+ 10,000 alimony. The younger brother also has to pay a down payment, including the cost of getting married in the future. Finally, we ask the man to give the child hard money and door fees in advance. There is also a hint under these conditions:
"Everything must be satisfied, or you won't get married!"
After reading all the conditions, I was completely confused and felt as if I were dreaming. Where can I find a wife? This is not father coming home!
Although my family's conditions are indeed better than hers, according to her, all these conditions have been met, and I am afraid that my family will go bankrupt and even have to bear the debts. Asking an ancestor is not so cruel, is it that he used to hear people say "help my brother do magic", and now he still feels exaggerated. Now I really met this kind of woman, only to know that there are such women in the world, and they are lovers who have been in love for five years. This is really sad and ridiculous!
My face was worse than crying, and I stammered:
"If you don't respect these conditions, you won't marry me. Is this sentence serious? "
She casually replied:
"Nonsense, these are all discussed with my parents. Who would joke about such a thing? We have been together for so many years. When it's your turn to show, you have to prove that you love me, or I won't marry! "
At that time, I couldn't wait to say everything that could hit her. Your family is very ordinary. You asked me so many questions. You said you loved me for so many years, but you clearly marked it. I can accept giving money to her parents. What is the operation of paying the down payment for my brother and marrying a wife? I wanted to scold her, but I finally held back. After all, after talking to her for so many years, there is no need to break up even if we break up.
But later, I decided to regret my marriage. I said, "I love you very much, but I can't meet all the conditions you said." Let's break up. I can't afford this marriage! "
My words made her very excited, and she began to order me to say:
"What? We have been in love for more than five years, and now you tell me to break up, then how can I waste so many years of youth? Since we have reached this point, if we don't get married, we must follow this list! "
I am confused and want to drive. I met a porcelain-touching man on the road, and I couldn't get rid of him if I wanted to escape.
And I am an acquaintance who touches porcelain. Do you find it irritating? I have no choice but to find an excuse to escape.
She and her family don't want me to be alone. At first, she called my mother and made a scene. Later, she came to our house and said that I was an ungrateful person, playing with their daughter's feelings. It's really hard for me to talk. I asked my mother what to do. My mother only said:
"You can't hide it. As long as you have a clear conscience, let them make trouble. "
Their family has been to my house several times, but I am not at home. Directly went to work in Shanghai, and this matter came to an end. Looking back now, their home usually looks harmless to people, which is very good.
Yes, when it comes to interests, you cling to people like a leech, and you don't know how to control them if you want to.
Unfortunately, I am not rich. I can't afford such a woman. I really don't need to ruin my family for a woman.
As long as marriage involves bride price, there will be some contradictions more or less. In fact, the main reason is that if both sides are willing, it is a success.
If one party is unwilling, it can be negotiated again. If not, let's get together. There's no need to fight. Unfortunately, lovers finally became enemies!
Awei's fiancee makes such excessive demands, not to mention ordinary families. Even rich people have to weigh the cost of marrying a useless ordinary woman. Is it worth it? If a woman is a good family, or a rich or expensive family, it is understandable to make some demands, but the point is that awei's fiancee is just a rural girl, but her demands are too high, which is totally out of her identity! Men love again, and after listening to these conditions, they will only be chilling and unwilling to remarry.
Everyone wants to fly to the branches and become a phoenix, but the real phoenix is mostly obtained by their own efforts, not by bride price. If you really want to be Fung Wong-Nui, you must rely on your own skills, not "blackmail" your other half because you are young and beautiful.
Looking forward to the bride price as a person, this kind of woman is doomed to achieve little, because she only cares about the petty profits in front of her eyes, but ignores the broad blue sky in the future. For example, awei has a good family, which is more than enough for her. If she really gets married, her life will only be better. Unfortunately, she was greedy and made unreasonable demands. Finally, she had no money.
Since you are not a princess, don't give her orders. Don't underestimate yourself, but don't be too conceited.
If you are sure that the other person loves you, you will overcharge, but you don't know that a woman's "understanding" is also an aspect of her value. If she is too self-righteous, asking exorbitant prices, and misses such a good marriage as awei's fiancee, it must be her, not a man, who regrets it.
But then again, it is better to discuss things face to face. Running away from home and avoiding difficulties is not a man's practice. Awei should have enough courage to solve these problems.
After all, you have been in love for five years, and you should be open-minded even if you break up. There is really no need to hide it from each other. Even if we break up, we should be clean and tidy. It is a gentleman's duty not to be slow.