Letter to Xiao Shengchu’s daughter (2)

Sample Letter to the Daughter of Xiaoshengchu Dear Girl:

This? Children’s Day? Once it’s over, it won’t be far from your Xiaoshengchu, right?

Time Time flies so fast! In my memory, you seem to have always been five or six years old, that little guy who was good at smiling in front of the camera and speaking with his eyes! But in the blink of an eye, you have experienced the world Feelings of joy, anger, sorrow, and joy, I have also experienced some difficulties and confusion as a little adult for the first time!

To be honest, how much dad doesn’t want you to grow up! He wants you to live such a carefree life forever. Let you always stay away from the troubles and nagging that you can't understand or hear clearly at the moment! But you are growing up, and so is dad. Dad is afraid that one day, if I grow too old, There are some words that I haven’t had time to say to you. In that case, Dad will be very self-blame and sad! So, for a while, Dad seemed to be suffering from some disease. He had a lot of words in his heart. It was really uncomfortable to hold them in. He especially wanted to be with you. explain.

I know, you may have heard these words more or less, and even some of them may have made you a little unhappy! Haha? Are you making fun of me for being too special again? ?But little girl, just accept your fate. Who said you are my daughter and I am your father?

I don’t know what you will think of this person you often call “Dad”. , but in my father's eyes and heart, you have always been my pride, and you are the proudest pride that can make my father proud all his life! This is not just because you are my daughter, I say this, It’s because no matter what frame of reference I put you in, you are enough to make me proud! It’s because you are indeed outstanding and excellent! It’s because you are excellent and completely worthy of what dad said!

Moreover, dad’s opinion of you will never change throughout his life! If there is any change in the future, it must be because what you have done is better and better than what dad could have imagined! Don’t believe it , just wait and see, dad has such a vision!

Dear, you are a very talented and intelligent child. You started learning piano when you were four and a half years old. Half a year later, I discovered your excellent perception of pitch. With your back to the eighty-eight keys of the piano, you can immediately tell the difference even if you play a semitone at random. Later, your unique musical sensibility and rich and delicate inner expressive power burst out again and again and unstoppably. This not only makes me curious and shocked, but what flows out of your fingertips may not be considered a truly conscious and wonderful change for you, but it has indeed given me a lot of philosophical thinking and artistic inspiration!< /p>

Since I’ve been watching you since I was little, I believe my view of you is objective, and I believe you can feel it too. That’s why when I’m with you, I always have a feeling of sympathy that goes beyond being a father, not just a father. That’s why there’s always natural and pleasant communication that transcends age boundaries. That’s why I always nag you tirelessly and Slightly strict requirements. Although talent is not the determining factor of what a person will be like in the future, because many cases of successful people later tell us that they are more of "stories of stupid kids", but I still appreciate your differences. Damn! The key is that you yourself should never be confused, swayed, or delayed by this!

There seems to be this rule: Smart children are not diligent, and diligent children are often not smart enough. , in fact, even if there is such a so-called rule, I believe that my girl will definitely be able to break such a taboo, and you must break it, otherwise, there will be no talk of excellence and excellence in the next and subsequent years! You know, a A genius who is not diligent is not much better than a fool who is not diligent. If the final outcome of a genius and a fool is the same because of lack of diligence, then the genius is actually stupider than the fool!

Dear, you are a very kind, easy-to-learn, and very understanding child. Do you understand family affection, your heartfelt memories of your deceased grandpa and grandma, your heartfelt longing for grandma and grandpa, your heartfelt understanding and kindness to all the people and things around you? You You have a wide range of hobbies. You like to occupy the toilet for a long time and ignore the smell of books in the toilet that screams in my heart. You like to neglect your homework and revel in the social gatherings of hundreds of schools. You like to keep pets and never forget them when you are gone? You seem to be like this now. I also particularly love watching food programs on TV. Every time I see you drooling and sucking your fingers, my dad seems to want to give up on his long-held weight loss plan, haha?

To tell the truth, in In the eyes of a father, there is nothing that makes him feel more gratified than his daughter loving life. He even thinks that your ability to understand and possess these is more important than how much academic and career growth and progress you can achieve in the future. !However, Dad still has something to say to you. The general meaning is that half of it is affirmation and hope after affirmation, and the other half is denial and suggestion after denial. Is that right or not? Come back and let us have tea together again. Just listen to it.

Kindness is almost a basic requirement for anyone who can be called a good person. Girls must be kind first, and then beautiful. But only kind-hearted girls are considered to be of the highest quality. A girl who is both kind and intelligent can be considered a fine product. Only girls who combine kindness, wisdom and elegance can be called the best.

Your advantage is that you already have all the talents and super potential of a top girl. I hope you can realize all this you already have!

Regarding the studiousness, I thought of a point: When a student is young, it refers to the elementary school stage. If a student can develop the habit of taking books as a companion, then the child will have won half the battle; when she is older, it refers to the stage from middle school to before college. , if you can find your true interest and direction, this child will succeed in the other half. The general meaning is that if she can self-understand, self-discover, and then have self-realization growth goals and motivation, then she will not have much confusion in her thoughts and actions in the future.

Of course, you don’t have to worry about the second stage. You still have time to fully appreciate it. What I want to say is that you have already completed the first stage and you have done very, very well. Dad just wants to remind you of two points at the first important turning point in your life: First, there is infinite knowledge in the world, but a person’s energy is always limited. You must strive to read more and master more knowledge. It is the key to control and change your own destiny, but you must also understand that "everywhere you pay attention to, you will learn something". The more knowledge you need to learn, the more you need to solve the problem of how to draw parallels, integrate and master what you have learned, and what you have learned.

To put it simply, you must not only read more, but you must also be able to read! What does being able to read mean? I believe that only being able to think can be considered as being able to read. People who can think can foresee problems before others, and can find solutions to problems before others. This is far more difficult and important than just describing problems and answering questions at the knowledge level and technical level. More! People who can think can learn and use knowledge, instead of just passively accepting what others say and passing by superficial knowledge. Otherwise, wouldn't it be just studying to death, studying to death, and studying to death? People who can think Can constantly and consciously improve her quality, courage and consciousness.

I have always believed that the quality, courage and consciousness that are mainly acquired through cultivation are so important to a person! Don’t underestimate this six-character motto. This is my father’s most proud one so far? Martial arts secrets?! Did you know? In the relationship between knowledge, ability and quality, quality is the most core! Quality determines a person’s starting point and thinking style; in the relationship between knowledge, insight and courage, courage is the most rare! Courage It determines how much personality and ambition a person will ultimately have; among the relationships between sensibility, intelligence and understanding, understanding is the most wonderful! Understanding, and the awareness based on understanding, determines a person's final spiritual realm and her ultimate How fast can you go, how high can you go, and how far can you go! This is how playing the piano is, and this is the interconnected nature of all art categories. This is also the essence of all human-related knowledge and principles. Don’t believe it? It won’t take long for you to tell me about this kind of experience!

I also want to say a few words about life. Dad originally didn’t want to talk about trivial matters like eating and dressing. You may also think that these are disdainful things. But children, the most trivial things often contain the most real, vivid, and easily overlooked details. The most ordinary details often indicate the most profound, noble, and most valuable truths for growth. I am not worried at all about your joy and pursuit of life, as well as the self-esteem and self-confidence you have formed in the joy of life. This kind of self-esteem and self-confidence will not only be the inner strength for you to realize your academic ideals in the next few years, or even more than ten years, but also a precious asset that will benefit you throughout your life!

Dad just wants to give you a few more words. , I hope it can be of more help to you:

First, you must always maintain a high degree of confidence and acceptance in yourself, no matter how tall or thin you are, or whether you are big or small in the eyes of others (haha, your eyes are You were born big, beautiful, and electric)? You must know that kindness can make people beautiful, and self-confidence is the foundation of a person's life and the source of charm! Maybe it is for this reason, you look You have a maturity and magnanimity that is rare compared to children of the same age. I wonder if you feel it yourself?

Secondly, eating and dressing are related to food and clothing, appearance, and health. You like food, and dad also likes food. From now on, we are destined to be good food friends! But some health concepts need to change. Real food is the knowledge of always maintaining a moderate hunger. Real food pays most attention to nutrition and calories. Balanced arrangement, rough dishes carefully cooked, delicious and precise, it is a state of happiness but not obscenity, sadness but not sadness. This is not something that can be achieved by the taste theory of "fat but not greasy, thin but not bad", right? ?Third, if you want to truly experience the wonderful feeling of losing weight (that feeling is indeed very special), it is recommended that you persevere just like playing the piano or doing other things. If you have perseverance, you will have perseverance, and if you have perseverance, you will have perseverance!

Children, life is a long marathon. Although sometimes it requires a short and brave burst of power, it is more often a test of a person's will and endurance. Therefore, some people say that competition at the starting line is only important to Liu Xiang. Dad basically agrees with this point of view, but Dad wants to tell you that even if this starting line did not completely belong to you (others studied Mathematical Olympiad for three to five years, you only studied for less than one year), your starting results are still quite outstanding! You Relying on your own efforts, you have achieved satisfactory academic results without affecting your multiple interests, hobbies, and multi-faceted development. You are a well-deserved "Three Good Students" in the Grand Slam.

I wonder if you have ever thought about it? The starting line and the starting point are different concepts. The starting point has a richer connotation! Regarding the starting point, your starting point is actually much higher than other children. This is only seeing the horizontal starting line. It is unimaginable and unmatched by other people! Because you have a broader starting point of interests, a more realistic starting point of art, a more outstanding starting point of thinking, a deeper starting point of thought, and a more conscious wisdom. starting point. You may not be fully aware of these, but the driving force and subsequent force of these five "starting points" are amazing. Your future life will continue to fully confirm your father's judgment! Even if you Your studies and career are ordinary, and you are just an ordinary good person. Dad believes that you must also be an ordinary good person with abundant self-cultivation, internal and external balance, good determination, and noble temperament! However, a marathon is a marathon, Winning or losing in life will not be determined just because of the difference in starting point.

In other words, there are still many tests and tribulations you will face in the future. Whether you can clearly understand and deal with them, and whether you can respond and arrange them appropriately are the most critical. !I don’t know if you realize it? If you don’t realize it, it doesn’t matter, because you will have an epiphany soon. Let's make a bet. In less than three years, when the Buddha picks up flowers and Kassapa smiles, you will tell your father what you have experienced. At that time, Dad will put down everything around him and savor the chicken soup for the soul that his daughter gave me, okay?

My dear girl, whether life is in an arena of fierce confrontation or in still waters, In the Peach Blossom Land, self-awareness and self-realization are two sides of the same coin, and neither is necessary without the other. Self-awareness is obtained through conscious self-reflection and external comparison day after day, while self-realization is achieved through continuous self-cultivation, self-overcoming and self-transcendence! So, in a sense, If you grasp yourself, you will grasp everything. You must always remember: No one can defeat you, except yourself! No one can defeat you, except yourself! No one can surpass you, except yourself!

Angels are in imagination, but devils are It's always in the details. You have ambition, you have direction, you have goals! But these are not enough, far from enough. You must also have the courage and wisdom to constantly challenge the obstacles in your own heart!

Speaking of courage, you may sometimes I think I'm timid, but I don't think so. The fear and avoidance of things actually arise from the moment when things are not seen, and exist in the imagination of scaring yourself, haha? Just yesterday, before you got on the crazy Frisbee, were you a little scared? Waiting for the world to rotate , when your head is down and your feet are up, don’t you dare to open your eyes? But after a few laps, don’t you find the feeling of relaxation? When I surrendered after spinning once, didn’t you enjoy it alone again? Fear Journey? You are not timid. On the contrary, you are quite courageous. But when facing the first time, it is always difficult for people to easily clear the imaginary obstacles in their hearts.

Everyone will inevitably encounter such teasing and trials while growing up. This is normal. I once told you that it is not shameful for a person to make mistakes or even make a fool of himself, but that is the most shameful thing if a person does not have the courage to make mistakes or make a fool of himself! Without the courage to create opportunities and stages for oneself, one will be What kind of opportunities and stages will you miss! Isn’t it? Maybe you don’t know how many times I have watched the video of you at Mr. Liu’s piano concert, watching your confident and elegant appearance, as you move freely, flow smoothly, and achieve great results. I will recall your imaginative and contagious fingertip thoughts over and over again, and be moved to tears by your excellent psychological quality and excellent performance!

Speaking of wisdom, I think what you need most now is habits. and methods. Dad knows that you are a child who knows how to learn and make progress. During your six years of primary school, you have accumulated many good habits and methods, otherwise you would not have achieved the excellent results and performance you have now. However, starting from middle school, the learning environment, learning courses and learning requirements you have to face will be very different from those in primary school, especially the requirements for self-learning ability will be very high. Those who know how to learn, that is, those who have mastered self-study methods and have strong self-study ability, will be able to do it with ease; those who cannot learn, those who have poor self-study ability, will definitely be tired of coping, and will eventually leave behind the regrets that they have no choice but to let go. Then? I advise you to cherish the time when you are young, and the flowers bloom and they have to be cut off? Of course, each subject has its own characteristics and corresponding learning methods, which cannot be generalized. However, there are indeed some You must pay enough attention to the unique laws and methods. I think the following points are particularly important!

First, you must not be afraid of difficulties and face them head on. There will be all kinds of small difficulties and big setbacks in life, and the same is true for learning. No one is exception. God will not be partial to anyone, and on the contrary, the better the person, the more difficulties and setbacks he will experience. It is the dialectics of life. Difficulty and ease are always relative. The key depends on how you understand and grasp it. ?What is easy is not done, and what is easy is also difficult; what is difficult is done, and what is difficult is also easy? The reason why an excellent person is excellent must be viewed this way: Difficulties tell me that the method is wrong; problems tell me that I don’t work hard enough; Difficulties are springs, if you are weak, they will become stronger; Problems are bones, who gnaws on them Be strong; I am not frustrated because of persistence and strength, I am more persistent and strong because of frustration! With such awareness, will you still be afraid of difficulties and avoid them?

Second, you must be kind to criticism and tolerant. alien.

If a person wants to achieve something, he cannot do without three people: personal efforts, help from noble people, and supervision from villains. ?When you see a good person, think about it; when you see a bad person, think about yourself? This is a personal effort. You have already understood it, so I won’t say more. I want to tell you who is your noble person? Gentlemen are harmonious but different, villains are similar but not harmonious? People who can kindly point out your bad and wrong things are actually your rarest noble people, no matter what they say is reasonable. Or they are biased (of course you can, but you must maintain your independent judgment and opinions), you cannot simply reject them and their words, on the contrary, you must pay special attention to them. Even if there is a so-called troublemaker, put aside his motives and right and wrong, you should try your best to use him as a mirror. In this way, your shortcomings, gains and losses will be illuminated, and you will always be reminded and helped to be more rigorous and more precise. Perfect, more perfect! If you can do this, you will gain not only abilities, but also many precious mentors and friends.

Kid, this may sound simple, but it’s really hard to do. Because they cannot overcome the weaknesses in human nature of saving face, being fond of good words, and pursuing fame, how many extremely smart people have become deaf, blind, careless, inaccurate, and ultimately made mistakes and failed? This depends on a person's age, beauty, wealth, poverty, etc. Status, scores, and academic qualifications all have little bearing. It only depends on a person’s consciousness!

Thirdly, one must have a tough character, especially those who are kind and small. Excellence is a kind of character, and excellence is also a habit. I told you that Japanese children only learn three things in kindergarten: they can smile from the heart; they can say thank you from the heart; they can organize their clothes from the heart, even if they just take a nap, they must Clothes are folded and neatly stacked. You have the first two things, but to be honest, you haven’t learned the third thing yet.

Of course, this cannot be entirely your fault. What we did was wrong. This good thing that belonged to you was temporarily collected by parents in the name of private love. But now you have to think about it carefully, why do you need to do such a small act of kindness yourself? Is it really just to solve the problem? I don’t think so. Because knowing doesn’t mean being able, and knowing doesn’t mean being able to do it! The power of habits is wonderful and powerful. It will be as big as you say it is! Good habits can help you develop a rigorous and meticulous character in perseverance and self-discipline ( In fact, it is also a modification of a person's character), bad habits can ruin the future of a good child. What Dad said was by no means an alarmist statement. Look around you, you can easily find evidence from both the positive and negative sides! From doing small things in life to doing small things in learning, this is true all the time, everywhere!

Fourth, we must think independently. Good at summarizing. This is very important for a middle school student. The process of classifying, summarizing and summarizing knowledge is also the process of independent thinking and intensive work. It is recommended that you have two special notes for each course and each specialized training, in class and after class. This will make it easy to refer to and review on the one hand (no matter how good the memory is, it is better to have bad writing); The armpits are thick, there is food in the hands, the mind is not panic, and the mind is familiar with it in peacetime, and it can be used freely in war, and then it can accumulate small victories into big victories, and achieve the purpose of learning through accumulation. Isn't it the same with playing the piano? Two days ago, your father told you that you should use a combination of fast and slow playing to solve technical problems in playing, and use the method of imagining pictures and constructing plots to solve musical artistic conception problems. In summary, if it's you Your own thinking, or if you can write it down piecemeal first and then sort it out systematically, what an amazing habit and ability it is!

Fifth, you must learn to plan and pay attention to efficiency. Each subject of study, each stage of study, and even daily and hourly study must have advanced, efficient, and reasonable long-term plans and short-term arrangements. It is best to formulate something in writing, even if it is simple, there must be! Reasonability is mainly reflected in Not partial to subjects, not picky about food, efficiency is mainly reflected in time coordination, combination of arts and sciences, combination of work and rest, and work speed per unit time. Learning is a fun thing, but it is also a hard work, but suffering without a plan and without efficiency will not bear fruit that is bitter first and then sweet, and there is sweetness in the bitterness!? If you have perseverance, why sleep at the third watch and wake up at the fifth watch? The most useless thing is to be exposed to the cold for ten days in one day? (Mao Zedong). As long as you have perseverance, insist on making a good study plan, and constantly improve your learning efficiency, I believe you will definitely find the infinite freedom and infinite ease of fun that learning brings you!

Sixth, we must avoid being careless and take reality as the basis. expensive. It is impossible for children with rough personalities and rough habits to achieve academic success. Learning in middle school is different from that in primary school. There are many key knowledge and abilities, including English reading, writing, listening, speaking, memorization, and the accumulation of writing knowledge and experience. , the understanding of mathematical logic, the training of computing skills, the understanding and memory of various axioms, principles, formulas, etc. cannot be expected to be achieved in a short time. If the understanding, mastery, and learning are not thorough, gaps and gaps in knowledge and ability will be formed that are difficult to make up for, and eventually become irreversible and irreversible! Therefore, from the very beginning, we must pay special attention to every piece of knowledge. Understand the key points, and practice with a large number of questions and fast speed to get the homework done. You must not seek a thorough understanding and be specious (this is different from not seeking a thorough understanding and plausibility in the field of art). You must not be careless and think you know it, but in fact it cannot stand the test. This is the most common and harmful bad habit and problem for many children. It must be Avoid it!

Seventh, enjoy your interests and highlight your strengths.

My child, my father has carefully observed that your interests and hobbies reflect that you have great potential in almost all types of thinking, including concrete thinking, image thinking and abstract thinking, such as: sense of language, sense of music, performance, composition, etc. Writing, literature and history, mathematics, space, logic, thinking, etc., what you have to do now is to work hard to maintain it, and work hard to cultivate your interests and hobbies into real strengths that truly belong to you, and that will make the whole house silent and the world eclipse. If what dad said does not attract your conscious attention and make corresponding contributions, it will be a great and pity loss for you!

In short, what a person has in his heart is what he truly is. The wealth in a person's heart is her real wealth! My dear girl, my father said so many words of hope and two words of dismay. The last thing my father wants is for you to become the kind of person who has ideals but no direction, has personality but no opinion, has education but no knowledge, has knowledge but no culture, and is an adult but not an adult. Dad doesn't hope that you can digest this big pot of "hard gruel" overnight. After all, the various flavors, nutritional combinations, color outlines, portion sizes, and heat control all require your own heart and time to mix and taste! However, Dad believes that you will eventually understand, and it is your own. Be aware and think clearly. That kind of understanding is definitely more valuable than dad's understanding!

At that time, dad will be happiest!

By the way, girl, that look in your eyes The white blade is in front of me, and the Taishan mountain is falling behind. His face does not change, and his calm and calm attitude always reminds my father of a sentence: "Without indifference, there is no way to achieve great ambitions, and without tranquility, there is no way to reach far." When I have time, I will recite Zhuge Liang's eighty-six-character family letter with tears and blood to you.

Oh, no, you should memorize it to daddy! You talk like singing, daddy likes to hear it!

It’s up to you, girl!

Sing to your heart’s content, learn to your heart’s content, and grow to your heart’s content Let’s do it!

The dad who will always love you

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