A friend asked me: My girlfriend asked such a question, how should I answer it-"My wife and mother fell into the water at the same time, who do you save first?" Many people will find this question boring, so they should not ask it, and there is no correct answer. I believe that any question has an answer, but this is a comprehensive and emotional question, and any rational answer may not be comprehensive enough. Maybe you don't understand what I'm talking about, so please read the following text. A promising person will not indulge in the current prosperity and temptation, but also have a broad mind to treat and forgive others. There are always people clamoring for the complexity of society, the viciousness of people's hearts, and the helplessness of life ... So I went to ask Qingquan, but he didn't answer, and continued to be busy merging the trickle into a river; I asked the ocean, but he didn't answer. He just generously sent me a wave of seawater. Society is a science, and people who can't learn it well will feel complicated; The human heart is an individual who pursues interests, and people who are not well coordinated will feel sinister; Life is an ability, and people who don't exercise well will feel helpless. Work like a clear spring, be like the sea, and when you are developed, you will "wave your sleeves without taking away a cloud"; If you are poor, you "roll up your trouser legs and don't complain about being muddy all the way." You know, the harvest is only accidental, and success is always a habit. In love, many boys will make the same mistake, that is, make a wrong contribution to their beloved girl. For example, there was once a boy who forgot to eat and sleep in order to pursue my sister and prepare for the college entrance examination. He spent almost all his time and energy on being obedient and considerate. His kindness deserves gratitude, and his failure is really regrettable. Because what my sister wants is not a pool of water that he can give, but a clear spring that will not dry up. You know, when boys imagine themselves as "Kosai", "Saint" and "Super Saiyan", girls also have their own dreams: princesses with better figure in fairy tales are noble and arrogant; Those who are about the same size are pure and beautiful angels who have fallen into the world. Girls don't just like beautiful clothes and expensive jewelry. In fact, the best gift for a princess is a prince, and the best gift for an angel is a pair of wings. When it comes to love, there are always two opposing views: one thinks that love is beautiful; The other thinks that love is a lie. Personally, I think love exists, but true love is not sweet talk, but a spiritual realm. Someone once told me: "in a person's heart, the most important thing is always yourself;" Second, it is your own child; Then parents and relatives and friends. " I asked, "What about the lover?" He said, "Love is yourself. "I still remember one thing that happened during the Indian Ocean tsunami: when huge waves suddenly hit the beach, a young mother saw her children still playing on the beach. As it was too late, she had only two choices at that time: either she ran to save her child, so that neither of them would survive; Either run for your life, you still have a chance. Of course, I don't need to say that everyone can guess her choice. At that moment, in her mind, her children were no different from herself, and she couldn't watch her children being swallowed up without knowing it. When true love happens, your soul will enter the body of the person you love. When you see her hand burned, your palm will also hurt. When you love someone, she is yourself. Men should have the same mind as the sea when pursuing love. The first thing to do is to straighten your position. Any unrealistic pursuit is the bitter fruit of self-brewing. You have the right to love someone, but you have no right to ask her how to treat you. In addition, don't take love as the whole of life, which is too selfish, because what we call love is ultimately for ourselves. In a couple, who is the head of the family often depends on two conditions: one is the ability and level, and the other is how much you have paid for each other. If your ability and dedication are obviously higher than each other's, then she will naturally listen to you, otherwise it is better not to be "male chauvinistic". On the other hand, girls should not be too accommodating. Women are emotional and often have different opinions. Some of their words are just for saying, even expressing many opinions, while despising their own ideas. So don't do what they say just to please them. The correct way is: on the one hand, we should know how to listen and understand their ideas and care about them with emotional thinking; On the other hand, use rational hands to pull them and protect them from moving in the right direction. Men should understand that if a girl marries you, she will give you everything, so it is right to be kind to them. Wife is not used for washing clothes and cooking, but for pampering. Having said that, let's go back to the original question: When my girlfriend asks such a question, how should I answer it-"My wife and mother fall into the water at the same time, who will you save first?" "In fact, it doesn't matter how you answer it. The correct answer to this question is not unique. If we ask Premier Zhou Enlai this question, he will definitely answer: I will save our country and people first. If we ask William Wallace this question, he will definitely answer: freedom in Scotland! If we win her heart, how can we answer this question to satisfy her? If we lose her heart, she can find fault with how to answer this question. So, try to be a real man and never let your wife or mother fall into the water! Can't you see that they all have swimming rings?