However, once at a friend's house, someone asked him what he meant by having an adopted wife, but he said he didn't know. Qian Zhongshu knows not only English but also French and Italian. How could he not know?
It turns out that uxorilocal means loving your wife. Qian Zhongshu was just embarrassed to answer, so he had to say he didn't know.
When Qian Zhongshu was young, he was the first of the "three great talents" in Tsinghua. He once boasted that no professor in Tsinghua University was qualified to be his tutor.
However, such an arrogant wit has a "wife fetish", boasting that his wife Jiang Yang is the most virtuous wife and the most talented woman. However, Jiang Yang's virtue and talent are not boasted by Qian Zhongshu, but personally felt by Qian Zhongshu.
In Jiang Yang Biography: Calmness is Elegance, the author Liu Ying tells the story of Jiang Yang in a beautiful style. Let's learn about Jiang Yang's life experience as a writer, translator and dramatist, and the wisdom of this centenarian in the face of all kinds of hardships.
Jiang Yang was born in a scholarly family. Influenced by his parents since childhood, he developed an indifferent, tenacious and optimistic character. He can face all kinds of hardships in life calmly, calmly and gracefully.
Her marriage with Qian Zhongshu is also "holding your hand and growing old with your son." From marriage to separation, they always loved each other and spent 63 years together.
Talented women in the Republic of China, such as Zhang Ailing, Ding Ling and Xiao Hong, were all unhappy. However, Jiang Yang can get a happy marriage. What does her attitude towards love and marriage give us?
First, learn to refuse and have principles in your heart so that you will not be shaken by the outside world.
When Jiang Yang was studying in Soochow University, he was young, good-looking, with good grades and a good family. Many boys in the university want to pursue Jiang Yang, and the boys who want to pursue him queue up.
However, Fei Xiaotong, a boy, turned down Jiang Yang. He said, "Yang Jikang and I are old classmates. We have known him for a long time. If you chase her, you have to go my way. "
Fei Xiaotong has really known Jiang Yang for a long time. He is a classmate of Suzhou Zhenhua Girls' Middle School. Fei Xiaotong was the only boy in the girls' school, and later he turned away.
Fei Xiaotong, who has a good impression on Jiang Yang, has a sense of crisis in college, so he shielded many admirers and confessed to Jiang Yang himself: "Can we be friends?"
Jiang Yang's answer is also very direct: "Friends can, but friends are an end, not a transition. In other words, you are not my boyfriend and I am not your girlfriend. If we want to do as you say now, we might as well break up. "
You see, Jiang Yang's attitude is to take a clear refusal to a clear request, which is responsible for his own feelings and others.
If you don't like each other, don't explicitly refuse, or even accept each other's gifts and treat each other as a spare tire, this borderless relationship will eventually harm others and yourself.
The relationship between Jiang Yang and Fei Xiaotong has always had a sense of boundary, without any ambiguity, until his later years. Even after Qian Zhongshu died, his friend Fei Xiaotong came to visit him, and Jiang Yang made a pun. When seeing Fei Xiaotong downstairs, she said: "The stairs are not easy to walk, so don't' easy first and then difficult' in the future."
It can be said that Fei Xiaotong is affectionate and righteous, and Jiang Yang is also polite.
Jiang Yang is a very cautious person emotionally. She has her own principles in mind and will not be confused by the outside world. Before meeting the ideal "he", she will never associate casually. She will hold her heart and wait for the right person to appear.
Second, learn to be tolerant. Love means loving his talent and his clumsiness.
1932 In the spring, Jiang Yang first met Qian Zhongshu, the love of his life. When we met for the second time, Qian Zhongshu made it clear that I was not engaged. Jiang Yang also told the truth: I don't have a boyfriend.
At that time, Qian Zhongshu looked like a scholar, wearing black-rimmed glasses, a blue gown and thick-soled shoes, which left a deep and beautiful impression on Jiang Yang.
Jiang Yang left Qian Zhongshu with the impression that when he first saw it, the new petals of the rose were soaked. I don't know if I have ever taken red flowers and snowflakes when I wash my face.
Just an ordinary day, beautiful because of meeting, unforgettable because of falling in love.
1935, Qian Zhongshu was admitted to Oxford University with the highest score in history and won the British boxer indemnity Scholarship. Qian Zhongshu could not bear to be separated from Jiang Yang and wanted Jiang Yang to accompany him.
At that time, Jiang Yang's graduate students in Tsinghua University were one year short of graduation, and her Foreign Languages Department had no places to study abroad. For love, Jiang Yang chose to drop out of school, marry Qian Zhongshu and go to Oxford University to study western literature.
1937, when Jiang Yang gave birth to her daughter Qian Yuan, Qian Zhongshu did all kinds of stupid things. At one moment, he knocked over the ink bottle and stained the tablecloth. Another moment, the desk lamp was broken and the door shaft was broken.
If this kind of thing were to happen now, Qian Zhongshu would definitely be scolded badly. If his wife gives birth to a child and is hospitalized, she won't deal with the stupid thing by herself, and she can't solve it until she leaves the hospital and goes home. Either "giant baby" or "mother and baby".
However, Jiang Yang didn't. Instead, she comforted Qian Zhongshu: "Never mind, I'll wash it." "Never mind, I'll fix it." Qian Zhongshu was relieved after hearing this. After Jiang Yang was discharged from the hospital, it was all over.
Qian Zhongshu is brilliant, but he is not good at housework. He learned to strike matches in his sixties. Living with such people, many people may complain, but why doesn't Jiang Yang complain at all?
Because she knows Qian Zhongshu and how to love. She worships Qian Zhongshu's talent and knows how to care for his "arrogance". Because she knows that she is tolerant.
The most common mistake in marriage is to transform each other according to their own wishes and make them become what they want. Jiang Yang understands that to love him is to love his talent and clumsiness.
When two people live together, they always disagree. They quarreled only once in their life because of a French pronunciation, and never quarreled again.
Because love does not argue about winning or losing, no matter who wins, it will not be happy, and quarreling is meaningless. Love is not passion, but tolerance and companionship in trivial life, respect and understanding in ordinary years.
Third, learn to guard and witness the truth in the years.
/kloc-in the autumn of 0/938, Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu returned to China. She is a middle school principal and teacher. 1943, 32-year-old Jiang Yang used his spare time to write a play "Contentment", which became famous overnight, and then he wrote other plays such as "Turning Virtual into Reality".
Seeing his wife become famous, Qian Zhongshu is not far behind. With the idea of writing a novel, Jiang Yang gave her full support, took care of all the housework and continued to write in her spare time.
1947, Fortress Besieged was published, and Jiang Yang's Wind Powder was also published. The couple are in fly with me, Qi Fei. Fortress Besieged caused a sensation in Chinese circles at home and abroad as soon as it was published, and it was reprinted constantly.
It can be said that Jiang Yang made Fortress Besieged, and the besieged city made Jiang Yang. Jiang Yang gave Qian Zhongshu care, respect and understanding, and also gave Qian Zhongshu a best self. As Shu Ting said in The Oak Tree: I must be a kapok beside you, standing with you in the image of a tree.
1946, after Qian Zhongshu's short story "Man, Beast and Ghost" was published, he wrote a paragraph on his sample book: a gift to Ji Kang; A unique combination of incompatible three, wife, lover and friend.
This is a husband's highest evaluation of his wife, and it is also Qian Zhongshu's most appropriate evaluation of Jiang Yang. Two people in life, hand in hand in career.
In the turbulent years, they never gave up, encouraged each other and helped each other.
They like to read books together, Qian Zhongshu concentrates on writing "Pipe awl", and Jiang Yang carefully translates "Don Quixote" around them. Even if they don't talk, they can feel beautiful when they are quiet.
When Mr Jiang Yang was 86 years old, his daughter Qian Yuan died of illness. At the age of 87, Qian Zhongshu died of illness, but the pain did not destroy her. She turned her thoughts into actions and sorted out Qian Zhongshu's manuscripts.
In his later years, Mr. Jiang Yang wrote about his thoughts about his loved ones and his thoughts about life. At the age of 92, Mr. Jiang Yang finished the Three of us, at the age of 96, he published Walking on the Edge of Life, and at the age of 0/03, he published his last book, After Taking a Bath.
Mr. Jiang Yang carefully guarded Sanlitun's home and lived a simple and fulfilling life. Polished concrete floor, old sofa covered with cloth, and the sound of turning pages in silence are all her daily life, which lasted for decades.
After the death of Qian Zhongshu, Mr. Jiang Yang donated all the remuneration of himself and Qian Zhongshu to his alma mater, Tsinghua University, and set up a "good study" fund, thus fulfilling Qian Zhongshu's last wish.
Tsinghua University offered to decorate her house several times, but she refused. The outside world is wonderful, and her home is the same as when she first moved here.
In Mr. Jiang Yang's view, no matter how luxurious the furniture and precious jewels are, they are all things outside. The most important thing for a person is not to waste his life. As she said: "The most beautiful scenery in life is inner peace and calmness."
In The Biography of Jiang Yang: Calmness is Elegance, we read a tough, calm and elegant Mr. Jiang Yang, who did not bow down in the face of difficulties, did not yield in the face of difficulties, and did not strive for fame and fortune. She has been studying all her life and loves only one person all her life.
Mr. Jiang Yang, a century-old man, is revered by the world from the heart. She is not only the most virtuous wife and mother in Qian Zhongshu's eyes, but also Mr. Jiang Yang in the eyes of the world.
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