Zhang Ailing said, "No matter how rich a woman is, she also wants a man to spend money for herself. It is a sense of accomplishment for a woman to spend her own money, and it is a sense of happiness to spend a man's money. " It can be seen that no matter how successful a woman is, she can't avoid customs, but spending a man's money doesn't mean spending a lot of money on buying a house or a car or asking a man to buy luxury goods for herself.
If you feel that the luxury you want is within the normal payment range of you and your boyfriend, but you are embarrassed to ask your boyfriend for something, it will be easy. You can give him some extravagant little gifts from time to time. He was naturally embarrassed to accept them.
If you don't have financial strength, but you can have one, you may feel guilty because you can't afford it. In fact, there is no need, and people who can afford it won't feel anything, but be careful not to ask for it often, otherwise rich people will think that you treat him like a big head.
If neither of you has high economic strength, and luxury goods are a relatively large investment in daily expenses, I think it is better to buy them yourself. I think it's a begging behavior to insist on asking the other party for something beyond the other party's and their own ability. It's more comfortable to spend your own money, at least spend as much as you want, why ask the other party for it?
It is selfish and humiliating to pass on one's desire to the other party and let him pay and repay for himself, knowing clearly that neither he nor his boyfriend can afford it.
Many times, I wonder if material is the standard to measure the importance of feelings. For example, when talking about marriage, bang, the bank card fell in front of her, and everyone who bought a house and bought a diamond ring was shocked. However, this is not a heartbeat.
Life is never ideal, marriage is a lifelong matter, and partners should be sure and choose before they can go on. It is very important for a girlfriend to accept and handle it successfully.
Together, these are three warm words, representing not being lonely and living up to expectations. It also means mutual understanding, sharing weal and woe, sharing weal and woe. Of course, she can meet her reasonable and appropriate needs when she has ample conditions. If it's not that easy, isn't it a little unreasonable to let her talk?
If they are mature enough and love each other, then marriage should be natural, not forced. When you are young, you need to be bound by promises and money, but really good feelings are not maintained by these.
Of course, I'm just an outsider. People in Zhihu are outsiders. Everyone can only open their hearts between the lines you express, not necessarily to the point. I need to think more, bless you.