Ling Hua's monologue:

Baby, you are our pride. The reason why you dare to talk back to us and lose your temper is because your father and I love you. Including your boyfriend and his family, don't worry at all, knowing that you can handle us and pay for your future wedding, no matter how reluctant we are, we can only do so. Aren't they betting that you are our only daughter? No matter you, him and his family, you are threatening "Your father and I love you" and forcing us to submit. If you were us, wouldn't you be sad? Our love for you has become a soft knife stabbed by others. What would you do if it were you?

The prelude to the south wall of love

Some things, like showing a movie, you will see why daughters stand there and accuse their mothers of being so snobbish and vain in order to win their love. See the money? When the camera turned again, it was twenty years later. The daughter of that year has long been worn out by life. Of course, she didn't expect that she was also playing the role of her mother at the moment. For the foreseeable tragedy in marriage, she struggled hard and quarreled with her daughter who was carried away by love. Unfortunately, how can her daughter listen? Isn't it the same as when she was young, and she has no regrets about hitting the south wall of love? Generation after generation, it's the same. The so-called "if you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer." Never go wrong. Didn't we talk about it? All happy families are similar, and each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way, so happiness is actually traceable. Parents can't see the template and trace of happiness in your story, of course they will be worried. If you are not worried, you will not be a parent. Alai Mountains (located in Kyrgyzstan)

Interviewee: Ling Hua, female, 55 years old, married. My daughter is in college and met a boy through the internet. My daughter won't listen to anything just because that boy is beautiful. Ling Hua's family conditions are very good. At least for the boy's family. A boy's family can only maintain the most basic life, in other words, it is estimated that there is no money for marriage. On the other hand, I know several houses in Linghua's house like the back of my hand, and I know them like the back of my hand. Ling Hua admits that he is not afraid of the boy's poverty, as long as he is willing to work hard, but now it seems that this boy is obviously not the type of struggle. He idles around every day, just playing games online. In fact, people are sure that Ling Hua's family will eventually come up with a house because of their love for their daughter, so there is no hurry. On the one hand, I can't control my daughter, on the other hand, I'm worried that my daughter will suffer if she really marries that person. Ling Hua is really in a dilemma.

Ling Hua dictated:

When can you say that this child can understand a parent's heart? Our child is actually pretty, but not as pretty as that child. That boy is really good-looking, otherwise our children wouldn't like him so much. She was really fascinated by his appearance. This is my guess, because that boy really has no advantages except his appearance, at least I haven't seen him so far. I think he is very considerate, much more considerate than our children. Our children tell him everything, how much money their parents earn and how many houses they have at home. Children know what they are doing. Sometimes I ask our children about it, which is clearer than we remember. His parents can only earn the minimum wage and maintain a basic living, let alone get married. It is estimated that they can't socialize with some extra expenses in their lives.

We are not snobbish parents. But can marriage and appearance get food? When a girl marries, she marries that person, not that face. At least he's responsible? You should be reliable and dare not ask for family education and upbringing for us. But you have to see someone struggle, right? How else will our children live with you in the future? Do you have to live by eating old people and eating our side alone? Has my girl thought about this? I guess she didn't even think about it. Growing up, her father and I just spoiled her too much. She didn't know that rice was expensive. She thinks that living is as easy as meeting her boyfriend online. Even if you surf the internet, someone has to pay for it, right? Does she want to? Not at all. Now after 90, isn't it all the same? Life is just like this for them, online dating and watching movies. Go out to eat and shop with the money given by parents. I dare not say these words to my daughter, and I have no chance to say them. If I do, my daughter will rob me. Come on, come on, you're a snob. All you have left is money. But I'm not. If we are good, we will not disagree. I can really find someone who is kind to our daughter. My wife and I have to burn incense somewhere. Children are young and have no social experience. We adults do, but do you listen? Can you listen?

This is the first time I have been so anxious with my child since she was so old. Once upon a time, someone always warned me that you have to wait, and when the children are older, you will know what anxiety is. Nothing is more anxious than her finding someone to block your heart. It really makes people say. There is nothing wrong with girls getting married. Once she is wrong, she will regret her happiness all her life. I haven't slept for days. I can't sleep, but my fresh daughter turned against her parents for an unworthy man. If he treats you badly in the future, won't you still come back to me? Your parents will always be your base camp. Why do you think she doesn't understand?

This child, in fact, we have contacted several times. I mean the same thing as my father. We are not unreasonable parents who only recognize money, but there is nothing we can do if you let us keep something from ourselves and pretend it's nothing. Because you are our daughter, if you are someone else's daughter, we will leave it alone, because in the future, even if you are beaten and punished, the pain will not be in your heart. But not anymore. Now you are our pride. The reason why you dare to talk back to us and lose your temper is because your father and I love you. Including your boyfriend and his family, don't worry at all, knowing that you can handle us and pay for your future wedding, no matter how reluctant we are, we can only do so. Aren't they betting that you are our only daughter? No matter you, him and his family, you are threatening "Your father and I love you" and forcing us to submit. If you were us, wouldn't you be sad? Our love for you has become a soft knife stabbed by others. What would you do if it were you?

It's true that we love you, son, but it doesn't mean that we have to bear everything you want. What you love is sometimes wrong. The sooner this mistake stops, the less painful it will be. You got it?

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Loy: What is the relationship between daughter and boyfriend now?

Ling Hua: If you don't score, you won't score.

Loy: Can she listen to you?

Ling Hua: If she can listen, do I need this?

Loy: As parents, we can only prepare for the worst. No matter what happens to your daughter, you can only go on. For example, one day she came to you crying with her baby in her arms. Can you ignore it? I never believe in breaking off relationships. Only children are cruel to their parents, and parents are cruel to their children.

Ling Hua: You are absolutely right. But can't I stop it?

Alai: You haven't established a good communication channel with your children these years, so it's basically impossible to expect smooth communication this time. If you hadn't always obeyed her, you wouldn't be here today. Parents should not only meet their children's requirements, but also be good at making demands on their children and cultivate their loyalty and sense of responsibility to their parents. You have never done this homework.

Ling Hua: That's true.

Loy: A child who is used to considering his parents' happiness will not turn a deaf ear to their parents' words. This is a long-term project, and it may not be too late to cultivate it now.

Alei's Notes: The Value of Tone

The so-called white is a daydream. The reality is that "Gao Shuai is poor" and "American white is poor" account for a larger proportion. This is why so many boys and girls want to use their looks to get ahead. And it looks like a solar term, a bit like eating and watching the weather. Once time passes, or if it is consumed too much, it will often directly lead to the appearance damage. Not to mention those who insist on going to the next level to "slim down". In the end, the loss outweighs the gain, and it is even more difficult to end.

We always see too many beautiful boys and girls, most of whom are from poor families. It seems that this is the reward of being born in poverty. It seems that those rich families desperately want to have children, but they have never been able to get them. No one inherited the huge property. If there is, it is a girl (like the troubles of the Japanese crown princess for many years). However, it is those who have no fixed place, no money and no power. Children gave birth to piles after piles, and sons gave birth to strings after strings, but they left no family business for their children to inherit. The only thing parents can give their children is a healthy life. There is no difference between good and bad, but it gives us a glimpse of a certain balance between life and fate. So we saw that the children of rich families got married and the children of poor families got married. In short, everyone has his own way of living, and God has the virtue of living well, so no one needs to worry too much.

When it comes to health, it is even more strange. Only children in wealthy families are most likely to suffer from chronic diseases that need long-term spending, which are called medicine jars, while children in ordinary families basically don't have to go to the hospital for several years. Why is this? Don't rich people eat well? Not exactly. This is the beauty of the allusion "Pearl Jade White Jade Soup". There is a taste of life in previous works of art, and the more you ponder, the more interesting it becomes. In addition to cross talk jokes, there is also the representative work of Cheng School, Lock Linnang: Miss Xue, who was spoiled by the rich family, was turned into a "Ma Xue" to take care of children for others because of a flood, while the daughter of a poor family was given a lock Linnang filled with gold and silver jewelry by Miss Xue at that time for free, which became a much-told story among the rich. It's so interesting and serious.