Of course, what everyone cares about is not his death, but his early "prodigy" experience.
Wei Yongkang was born in 1983. At the age of two, he mastered more than 1000 Chinese characters. At the age of 4, he basically finished the junior high school course. At the age of 8, he entered Huarong No.1 Middle School, a county key high school. 13 years old, admitted to the Physics Department of Xiangtan University with a high score of 602. 17 years old, admitted to the Department of Advanced Physics of China Academy of Sciences. Later, he was dismissed because he couldn't take care of himself, didn't write a thesis and didn't get a master's degree certificate. At that time, "prodigy" collapsed, and people "hurt Zhong Yong" in succession.
In fact, if you think about it carefully, you will find that negotiation is still different. The children in the story "Hurt Zhong Yong" are just because their parents don't pay attention to the acquired learning, only show off and consume their talents, and then gradually become no different from ordinary people.
On the other hand, Wei Yongkang's parents forced him to devote all his energy to his studies and closed the door to his real life.
Wei Yongkang once said that when he was a child, he was confined to studying at home every day and could not go out to play. He was scolded by his mother when his classmates asked him to play. The female classmate looked for him, and his mother instilled in him such remarks as "Women are poisonous snakes, which will harm you". 13 When he was in college, his mother also applied to accompany him and take care of his daily life.
Wei's mother also said that in order to save his time, she arranged almost everything for him. Finally, at the age of 17, he could not take care of himself and his personal development was seriously unbalanced, so he was dismissed by the Chinese University of Science and Technology.
A healthy person's real life is not only study, but also housework, entertainment and contact with society.
If Wei Yongkang's acquired intelligence education is excessive, then life education is lacking.
Some parents are happy and proud of their "over-education" achievements, but they don't know that their children's intellectual achievements may be at the expense of emotional and social development, and their immediate development may be at the expense of long-term development.
Originally, life education was very simple, and real life was the most fertile soil.
Although Wei Yongkang's mother seems to be taking care of his daily life, the fact is that she closed the children's experience of real life.
After leaving the Chinese Academy of Sciences, Wei Yongkang once stood still and lacked interpersonal skills. Fortunately, his "dopted mother" stood up. Under the kind guidance of everyone, he gradually learned to do housework and take care of himself and his patients. He gradually walked out of the "sea of books" and made up a lesson about the lack of life. When he gets married and has children, he cooks with his wife, watches the sea with his children and eats with his friends, becoming a "husband who can live" and not letting his mother interfere in his children's education. Mom probably has a lot of feelings, too.
Wei Yongkang's father was a disabled soldier to resist US aggression and aid Korea, and his mother took this name after the child was born. The original intention is obviously to hope that the child will be healthy forever. Limited to the helplessness of real life, she longed for the success of her dreams and tasted the sweetness of intellectual over-education. With the help of all the media, Wei Yongkang's mother unconsciously closed the door of life for her children under the temptation of the aura of "prodigy".
We don't want to blame Wei's mother. I don't think anyone in the world loves their children more than Wei's mother. It's just that what everyone does is not necessarily the best for children.
This is the meaning of our reflection.
We can't help asking, what ruined Wei Yongkang's future?
Maybe another way of thinking can turn things around.
See a passage, deeply impressed:
The purpose of education is not to educate, but to let children learn to educate themselves and develop themselves.
Ghost feet seven is a magical existence in the electric business community. After being an executive of Ali, he resigned and practiced. His official WeChat account profile is: Buddhist lovers, literature lovers, former e-commerce, well, that's it! If you are interested, you can read his article, which really adds wisdom to your body.
Today we will talk about the education of his children.
He said that he never interfered with his daughter's study and never asked for it. Just be responsible for yourself
The little girl loves reading, her parents are lax in discipline, and her study is gradually falling behind. Until last year, during the "confinement" of the epidemic, the daughter at the bottom of the grade cried and asked him for help.
He and his daughter analyzed her study, made a study plan, and firmly told her that as long as she practiced strictly, her grades could be among the best.
The little girl was very excited. She gets up early every day to read Chinese and English as planned, and carefully previews and reviews her homework in the online class to change her previous laziness. In order to encourage children, Ghost Foot 7 accompanies them to school every day to check their grades.
More than a month later, in the mid-term exam, the little girl got the first place in the class without any suspense, which surprised both teachers and classmates. After that, Ghost Feet 7 said to her daughter, "As you can see, you can have whatever you want. You are still responsible for it in the future. "
Afterwards, we don't know what happened to the little girl. According to ghost feet, it doesn't really matter.
The important thing is that she understands that she will work hard as long as she wants.
After more than a month's hard education, Ghost Feet has achieved the effect of self-confidence and self-motivation for her daughter. It is very important for children to learn self-management and self-development methods. Exit gracefully.
We usually say that "it is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish".
Today, I was fortunate to meet a mother and share the story of her daughter's self-management. In order to manage not to play mobile phones, my daughter first made a strict schedule, and went to bed early and got up early so that she didn't have time to play mobile phones. Later, I bought a "tomato clock" from 8.8 yuan and used it for a year. At 9 o'clock in the evening, the mobile phone is asleep and cannot be turned on. The following words attracted the praise and envy of many parents.
Liu Wei, a teacher at Peking University who exploded in Tik Tok, said that after junior high school, science learning was no longer taught by teachers, but learned by students themselves. Especially after high school, the teacher's role is to correct students' learning direction with his own experience.
So is life education.
The purpose of education is not to educate. On the way to education, parents may sometimes pretend to be deaf and dumb, throw problems at their children and give them the initiative, which is an opportunity for their children to grow up. Let children learn self-education and self-development through trial and error.
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