This man is a media worker. When he talked about his career, he plausibly said, "Our company is great. I know several famous directors and producers, and many little girls who graduated from art colleges rushed in, and many people spent money! " The man waved his hand and attracted the guests at the next table to look over. My sister bowed her head in embarrassment and absorbed in drinking the soup in the bowl. Only that man is still immersed in the atmosphere of feeling good about himself and bragging about his entrepreneurial history for the next half hour.
Finally, the man was thirsty and took a sip of soup. He started shouting again: "Hey, what's wrong with this western restaurant? Not authentic at all ... Have you ever been to Michelin restaurant? I have been to several places in Shanghai and know their bosses. Give me a discount every time I go. Why don't I take you out next time? "
"I ... have been there." Sister didn't hold back and said.
"Say, have you ever been? Which one did you go to? "
"... Gordon Ramsay." My sister thought for a moment and added, "In London."
After that, the whole process was silent.
There is a spoof song in Bian Xiao's player: "I just watched you pretend to be forced and never interrupted you. You are rich and handsome. It's my blessing to know you ... "In fact, many girls are full of BGM when they face men's outspoken boasting and showing off.
It is said that you should show your value in front of the girl you like, but "value display" is also a technical job. If you are not careful, you will become "showing off your wealth and pretending to be forced." Not only can't attract girls, but they will also be jokes after dinner.
So, when you don't know how to show off, it's better not to show off-keeping a low profile is sometimes an excellent way to show off.
Yi Shu once said that a lady with real temperament never shows off everything she has. She doesn't tell people what books she has read, where she has been, how many clothes she has and what jewelry she has bought, because she has no sense of inferiority. Similarly, a truly successful man never shows off a little achievement and wealth. The kind of rich man who wants to wear a big gold chain and gold ring all over his body is either rich or a villain.
There are many men who have no money. If they can't show off their wealth, they will show off their skills and remain silent about "postmodernism" and "abstraction". Talking about philosophy means Nietzsche talking about poetry and lermontov. Although I don't understand it very well, the words used are all memorized in Baidu Encyclopedia.
Remember, successful people who are really awesome keep a low profile because they are not afraid of being buried.
The correct self-presentation must first hold a reasonable mentality: your presentation is to attract girls who know you, not just to covet the stars worshipped by silly and sweet girls.
So sometimes, it is a better choice to be modest and hide your own advantages in the story.
For example, if you talk to your sister about your trip, the wrong expression is to take out a passport and a stack of plane tickets and throw them in front of your sister, waiting for her to exclaim, "Wow, you have been to so many places!" "
Yes, it does attract some factory girls.
However, girls with a little level will think you are low.
What is the correct expression? This is a story. Only real experience and proper expression are the most elegant pretensions.
The more obvious, the less attractive.
What would the sister think? You are interesting, you can play, you can make friends, and you can make girls happy. You showed many advantages at once, and you got twice the result with half the effort.
What should you do if your sister can't get this information? Forget it. You wanted to find a girlfriend who could understand your story and communicate with you without obstacles, but you didn't want to play big cards in front of every girl and prove your existence, did you?
Also, smart men know how to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses when pretending to be forced. Just like the blind date of the landlord made such a mistake-at least find out the girl's level before showing off. The girl is the editor of a food magazine, and it is her normal job to eat, drink and write articles everywhere.
Similarly, if the girl you like is a rich second generation, you should not show off that you have a house and a car. If your sister comes back from studying in Yale, don't show off that she graduated from top3 University. If your sister's company is about to go public, don't brag about your entrepreneurial history ... you should have an objective and sober understanding of yourself and your sister's level to avoid becoming a joke.
Of course, do you think it is absolutely impossible to show that girls are better than themselves? Not exactly. You just need skills.
Take the example mentioned before. My sister is a rich second generation. There are full houses in the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen Third Ring Road. If you really want to show off your wealth in front of her, tell her that although you only have a house outside the Fifth Ring Road in Beijing, you earned money to buy it after graduation! Isn't the image of a good young man with a successful career and self-reliance established? There are more rich boys in the rich second generation girls' families, and they may prefer you as a boy who can make money and be enterprising.
Finally, I will teach my brothers the most decent and convincing way to show themselves: don't care too much about how to "show" and focus on doing something practical to improve themselves.
I wonder if you have found an interesting phenomenon. People who take selfies in the gym every once in a while in the circle of friends actually take selfies in the gym. In the same way, people who always take pictures of themselves with books will still have the same book after seven or eight times-as for those who really practice vest line and read thousands of books, they hardly take pictures.
Brothers, making money is to give yourself and your future family a better life. Fitness is to have a healthier body and a more perfect reminder. Reading and traveling are to broaden your horizons and increase your knowledge ... Attracting girls in front of you is just a by-product of these things. Never put the plow before the oxen.
Good wine needs no bush. Girls who really care about you, appreciate you and know you will naturally think you are excellent-as long as you are really an excellent person. And those "friends circle Gao Fushuai" who pose for the cost are useless in front of your confident aura and powerful strength.
Really awesome people have no time to pretend.
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