I sent the written manuscript to a good friend last night. The evaluation is: I didn't let go of my hands and feet, which was deliberately blunt and lacked the feeling of flowing.

Finally, he summed up his feelings in two words: piling up and craftsmanship.

To tell the truth, there were internal injuries for a moment. I hope to get some praise for the words written by burning the lamp and staying up late, but I never want to get the most honest evaluation from my old friends.

Depression belongs to depression, but I have to admit that he is telling the truth. Since I began to practice writing, I have been thinking with an inherent mode of thinking. Because of my limited experience, knowledge and vision, in order to enrich an idea, I must rack my brains to find words to construct it. I also tried to imitate my favorite writing style, but because I didn't have enough confidence to support it, even humor seemed unnatural in the end.

This reminds me of a key point that Yuan Zhuan, a famous screenwriter, mentioned in the sharing class when he attended the pen meeting in Beijing: writing needs to open up the pattern.

If the pattern can't be opened, the text must be full of limitations.

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Everyone has his own net.

This network is the pattern, and it is a person's cognition of the world. It is determined by many individual factors such as life experience, life experience, knowledge accumulation and value orientation, so it is unique to each individual.

The real high-quality pattern view is to treat a thing in a long-term time and a vast space, so as to obtain a broader and more open mind and intellectual experience. Whether writing or doing things, when we unconsciously use inertial thinking to deal with or think about problems, we have actually put ourselves in a space that is difficult to improve.

The well-known psychology website "One Psychology" divides the pattern of people into four degrees, and people with zero pattern are called "blind people". Although these people are busy every day, they actually know nothing about the world. People who used to be in a pattern are called "profit-seekers", and they can only see themselves in their eyes; People with two-dimensional patterns account for the vast majority and are called "ideal people". They see the world, but it is difficult to see the whole; As for people with three-dimensional patterns who can see all beings, it should be rare.

In other words, your pattern directly determines your state of existence. This sounds macro and philosophical, but it does affect every choice, decision and height we can reach.

Especially in such an era of rapid development, we receive all kinds of chicken soup quotations, inspirational deeds, successful experiences and hard proverbs every day, which are urging people to make positive progress and realize their life dreams. Unless you don't have any ambitions, it is inevitable that you will get high if you have too much chicken blood.

However, after a long struggle, I finally found that success can only be someone else's story, and my own pattern is there, not a state that can be changed for a while. In the limited time, if you jump up and down in a hurry, you can only hit your head.

Just like me, as a married professional woman working in a small city, my life radius is 3.1, and my vision is nothing more than family, work and some friends at the same level around me. Coupled with the limitations of my gender, education and personal experience, it is decided that I can only wander around in my own petty mind, and I can't have any profound understanding of life, let alone any breakthrough.

This is my model. A little shallow, a little low, but very real.

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Successful women have their own big picture.

These days, Fu's friends are all red. Many people are surrounded by her invincible cute expression pack and funny interview quotations. A girl in her twenties said to herself after the game that she was super happy with the result of her efforts: I am very satisfied. These four words with her expression sound funny, but they reflect Fu's high emotional intelligence.

In fact, behind the jokes and teasing, Fu experienced a long and arduous effort, which was unimaginable before the game and "life is worse than death". Because she has exhausted the "power of the wild", she can calmly and correctly look at this gain and loss and recognize herself.

It is a big pattern of life to be brave in taking responsibility and smiling often. From this point of view, Fu undoubtedly won a wonderful game.

The marriage between Ruby Lin and Wallace Huo once caused a heated discussion. A 40-year-old woman is a "leftover woman" in the secular concept. She is degraded and discounted. It sounds enviable and incredible that Ruby Lin can get a male god and finally marry love on camera.

But looking back at this 40-year-old heart, you will find that everything is natural. Before marrying the love she wanted, she never stopped making progress, set up a film and television company, studied jewelry design, insisted on careful maintenance, and always managed her life with a young mind, living independently, wonderfully and elegantly.

We have all seen that all her efforts are actually to enrich her life pattern and make herself more confident and confident. As for the latter thing, "If you are prosperous, the breeze will come", and the pattern will be opened. If you want it, fate will give it to you.

I also want to talk about Zhang Ziyi about women with patterns. As a top star in China, her marriage to Wang Feng, who has been divorced three times and has two daughters, has broken many people's glasses. Wang Feng has a great ex-wife named Ge Huijie. She once gave birth to her daughter Apple with Wang Feng and was raised by Wang Feng. Naturally became Zhang Ziyi's stepdaughter.

As we all know, Ge Huijie used Weibo to attack Zhang Ziyi many times, and made her use her daughter to show her happiness. But no matter how much Ge kept cursing like a bitch, Zhang Ziyi didn't make any response. After moving to the United States, she studied flower arrangement at home, took care of her two daughters, enjoyed family happiness and lived a full and beautiful life.

Compared with Ge Huijie's selfishness and narrowness, Zhang Ziyi shows a woman's extraordinary pattern and bearing. Having experienced great storms and seen all the scenery in the world, she knows that what she needs now is stable love and family. To this end, she put down the burden of the star, took the little apple as her own, and studied hard to be a good wife and mother without any bad feelings.

Facts have proved that Ziyi is very happy now. Her big pattern has given her the ability to tolerate everything, so that she can turn all the bad things that others think into good things.

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Yu Dan said that the key to growth is to establish a lifestyle for yourself.

In the face of most fixed living conditions, what we can do is nothing more than: trapped in our hearts, balancing concerns, helplessness and stagnation; Or do something positive and strive to improve until you break the block of thinking, so as to explore a deeper level bit by bit.

Obviously, the promotion and cultivation of a person's pattern is by no means something that can be completed in a short time. It needs long-term efforts and accumulation. Only when you really let yourself sink down, study, travel and experience, and expand your horizons as much as possible within your limited ability, can you open up the pattern bit by bit and achieve self-breakthrough.

Before opening the pattern, what we need to do more is to have a positive and healthy attitude.

Face yourself with a good attitude. See clearly your present situation and shortcomings, give yourself time and patience to change, and don't pursue the results of so-called efforts too much. Although the result is important, the effort and exploration itself should be more worthy of our expectation.

Look at the problem with a positive attitude. This is an era of positive and negative energy bursting at any time. What we need to do is to simplify the complex, find the truth of life from all kinds of complicated information, and feel the happiness and beauty of life. Don't always stare at what you have lost and forget to appreciate what you have. I believe that the result of all efforts is the best arrangement, and all deep suffering will bring blessings.

Accept everything with a sincere attitude. Learn to put down what should be put down, end what should be ended, and put down what should be put down. Everything tied up is doomed to be in vain. Let yourself get rid of the inherent concept, think from the perspective of others, and don't jump to any conclusions easily. Only by knowing everything can we forgive everything better.

In the final analysis, the pattern is the spiritual core of a person, the refinement and concentration of all experiences, and it reflects our confidence, wisdom and efforts.

Mode has nothing to do with the result, but it can lead us to a more valuable life.

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Yesterday, I saw an article by a post-90s girl in the circle of literary friends. I haven't seen such spirit words for a long time. The story was written by her, and the characters and thoughts seemed to come to life in an instant.

I was amazed and browsed in her official WeChat account for a long time. I just know that although this girl is young, she has walked many roads, seen many landscapes and had many profound experiences in life. There is no common chicken soup in its writing, and it doesn't like inspiring policemen, but it has its own unique style and shows its unique strength.

This is her pattern.

Cao Xuanbin sang "Glory": "When love songs are no longer just my only performance, I will break through the pattern, be bolder and create again." In fact, no one stipulates that you must sing love songs to express your love. I will dance a warm samba for you. This is the way I love you.

Break through the pattern, I hope you and I can find better ourselves.